My 3 month old gets upset when other people hold her?

Brittany - posted on 03/18/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 3 month old little girl has been going through a phase where she only wants me. When my friends come over and try to hold her she gets upset or some family members that do not see her every single day. She does just fine if I hold her and they talk to her or play with her, she will laugh and smile at them. Also, if she is already cranky she will not let them hold her whatsoever. I was just wondering if this was somehow my fault? She was born I in December, and I did not take her out very often due to the cold weather we endured right after her birth, and those family members did not come over to the house daily to be around her. I was just scared of taking her out and her getting sick being that little. I just recently started taking her out more like to stores, restaurants, and to some family members' houses. I do breastfeed her, and she has been teething for a couple of weeks now, and it has been getting worse so I was thinking those two factors would have something to do with it. I do love that she is a mommy's girl, but I am just worried it is unhealthy for her to act like this? :/


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Dove - posted on 03/18/2016




She's perfectly normal. Not every baby does it to this extreme... and some kids are 'cling ons' to their mom (or dad) for YEARS.

You aren't doing anything wrong. Keep having her around other people like you are doing, but take her lead and comfort zone on who holds her and when.

Sarah - posted on 03/18/2016




Actually how she is acting is the healiest. If she was going to any one and everyone then that would be unhealthy. She then could have attachments issues. You want a child that feels comfortable with those they know and uncomfortable with those she does not know. As she grows you then teach her boundaries..... when it is ok to give a person a hug and when it is not ok. When you say hi to and who you can walk off with and who not to.

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2016




I am in the same boat she is now 6 mths and still this way! I have two older boys that are huge mama 's boy's and they were never like this so this is a new ball game for us with our daughter. I'm just hoping that it's a faze and she will out grow it. I am starting to let my mom take her for awhile and bring her back to show her that I will be here when she or I am gone. She does better when people have her and I am not around.

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