My 3 month old girl WILL NOT sleep in her crib, only in my bed! :( Help?

Agnes - posted on 04/15/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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What are some things other moms did to get your babies use to their crib? She never liked the bassinet in the first place now she will only fall asleep in my bed.

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Co-Sleeping isn't that bad of a thing. It helps with bonding. But, there is a stopping point.

My suggestion for you is to try what I do with my 23 month old. Put him in his bed after he falls asleep if that is where you prefer for him to be. Do so everytime he falls asleep. It truly is better to teach them at a younger age than to wait. I have had several children to break (6 of them).

Although, it was hard for me to NOT sleep with my first two...being a single mom. My son was almost 4 when my second was born. We talked a lot about learning to sleep in his own bed when his sister was born. He did well with the trasition. My daughter, she was more difficult. I began to break her when she was 9 months old. She slept in her own bed all night beginning at 13 months old. My stepchildren... Co-slept until Dad divorced the BM and he had custody. They were 30 months and 16 months when they learned to sleep in a bed together, and 5 months later when the younger would actually fall asleep on his own. My step-daughter had to be transitioned into a bed from the couch to a bed. She was 20 months when we began, and 25 months old when we were successful (extenuating circumstances with the BM made it extremely difficult). Not to mention, I had a baby when she was 25 months old. Now, the "baby"? She is 23 months old. She will not fall asleep until we go to bed. She gets put on her bed when she is asleep, and will sometimes crawl back into bed with us if she wakes up. She absolutely refuses to fall asleep in her own bed, and we have been attempting for a year now to teach her "Mo's Bed". All children are different.

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Beth - posted on 11/30/2012

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Anytime!!! Here is my FB if you want to keep in touch... please feel free to message me anytime :) I am happy to listen. https://www.facebook.com/elizabeth.pulaski

Desiree - posted on 11/30/2012

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i havent even heard of that book! ill try everything you posted and post my progress, thank you so much!!

Beth - posted on 11/30/2012

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Have you tried the Book Bringing Up Bebe, it helped me greatly!! I wish I could help more... but yes we did it with no crying, no crying longer then 5 minutes. The pause they mention in the Book was a TOTAL lifesaver for us!!! Good luck and please keep us posted!!!

Desiree - posted on 11/30/2012

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you did this with no crying?? my Layla bug wakes as soon as we put her in her crib, she screams until we pick her up, what i dont understand is she will sleep in her boppy and right beside me on the couch (with me watching her close of course) but she will not sleep in her crib alone, she has slept on a bed at my grandmas, one that she has never slept in before that with pillows on both sides and slept for a couple hours. i just dont understand why she is so stuborn about her crib. PLEASE HELP! any advice you have will work, i too cant sleep without her in my arms and i dont sleep very well at all, it makes me cranky all day and my boyfriend is starting to get annoyed lol

Terra - posted on 04/16/2010

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My son was 3 month when I transitioned him from the bassinet in my room to his own crib. The first couple weeks leading up to it I would put him in there for naps during the day, the first night though didn't go well, I realized that when he slept in my room there had been a light that I would leave on in the kitchen, so I got him a night light and moved his crib away from the window and I haven't really had a problem since. Ultimately do what's best for you, and yes sometimes that means letting them cry it out, which as tough as that is, does not last forever.

Kim - posted on 04/16/2010

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When my daughter would not sleep in her crib we would put her to bed, give kisses say goodnight and sit on the floor beside the bed, We did not look at her or talk to her. We would wait for her to fall to sleep and leave the room. Each night we would move a little closer to the door until finally we didn't have to do it anymore. Your child will scream call you - you have to ignore it. It is not easy but if done correctly it works. Good luck!!

Letitia - posted on 04/15/2010

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my lil girl hated being in her bed so she slept in my bed till she was 8 months old and then after that she went strait into her own bed no fuss it was an over night thing every night i tried to put her in her bed and then one night she slept the night through and has done ever since i just left it till she was ready with my little boy he was in my bed for 2 weeks and then he was in his own bed but he is a right figiter so he likes his own space and prefurs to sleep in his own bed as he has more room to riggle about hope u get her in her bed but dont be to hard with it she will get better try just for a hour a night or summin get her used to it hope i heled xx lettie

Felicia - posted on 04/15/2010

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I also have a 31/2 month old little girl and she just started sleeping in her crib about two days ago... Some times she likes the crib and some times she don't like the other mom have said just fallow her and what makes her comfortable... But what I have noticed is that she like to fell the presents of me by her so I put her up against her bobby and she sleeps just fine through the night...But I also still let her sleep up me at night if she just is not comfortable in the crib...Hope you find something that works for you
Felicia

Kaity - posted on 04/15/2010

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My daughter slept with me for about the first 8 months but what I ended up doing was taking the side off of the crib and putting it up against my bed to start transitioning her. Once she was sleeping the whole night in there I put the side on it but kept the crib up against my bed then started moving it further and further away from the bed each night. This whole process only took about a month. She slept in my room until she was 2 then I put her in her own room and into a big girl bed to help make her excited about the process.

Beth - posted on 04/15/2010

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We started with Adeline by holding her all night in our arms while we slept then moved to putting her to sleep in between us up between the pillows and now she goes to bed all night in her crib. She is not 5 months old yet. When she fell asleep (while we were holding her) we would put her down to finish sleeping, then after a couple days of that we would put her to sleep in our arms still but then wake her gently as we put her down to sleep, finally after couple more days we put her into the crib awake (but sleepy) and stay with her patting her back till she is almost asleep and then we would leave the room. She fell asleep with no crying. We have a sea turtle that lights stars up through its back and she likes to look at it till she falls asleep. I will mention that Addie hated her bassinet and only wanted to sleep if she was being held at all times. We just got her use to each step slowly and it just became new habit and I really wanted to avoid any night crying. It just wasn't the way for us. We put Adeline to sleep between 9-9:30 every night and she wakes up once around 4 am to eat then we burp her and put her right back down to bed in her crib. She then sleeps till I wake her up for me to go to work. If you have any questions about how it has worked for us feel free to contact me. Good Luck!!

Justine - posted on 04/15/2010

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It is developmentally the best thing for her. I cant help you get her out, my son didnt sleep in his crib until he was almost a year, and it was his choice, he just started sleeping better in there, but up until then I just let him sleep in my bed and would not change a thing. It promotes a wonderful bond, and if anyone tries to tell you they will be in there until they are 10 or whatever ridiculous thing they come up with they are wrong, she will let you know when she is ready for the crib, just follow her cues. In the meantime, enjoy the bonding :)

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