my 3 year old son refuses to go to sleep no matter what i try he end up falling asleep about 10:30-11:00. can anyone help me?

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Jessica - posted on 01/22/2009

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At first it was hard to get all three kids to go to bed at 8pm. And stay in bed. We start the bath time-brush teeth and book thing at 7pm. With my girls its easy for them. The girls are 2 years and 4 months, and 1 year and 5 months. the girl share a room and can talk and play in their cribs. My son now 4 1/2, its more about 9pm for him.

By the time he ws three we had tried moving his room around. So its something new for he to stay in. Also try letting him pick out his own bed sheets, it's something he did for his own room. We have in the kids rooms, a digital picture frame and they also watch that to fall asleep to along with some music. (download some music that he likes from tv shows like noggin or sprout) Hope this was helpful Good luck

Susanne - posted on 01/22/2009

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At 7:45 I let my son jump as hard and as fast as he can on my bed for 15 min. . .tuckers him right out and hes ready for bed! But hes only 2.5

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Rolando - posted on 03/31/2013

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Same story with my 3 year old niece. We try to tire her out, cut sugar at around 5pm, even cut out naps altogether. Yet she still refuses to sleep even if one person is up since of the three of us, two of us work graveyard shifts. My sister (her mother) and I have tried so many methods but she still fights it and the father (my sister's fiance) also has this tendency to interfere since he feels that even the lightest method is still too extreme, going as far as removing her from the room and putting her in their room. We are at the point that we lack options.

Cynthia - posted on 01/24/2009

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May be you need to watch what he is eating after 3pm. cut the sugar foods & juice out give him a nice hot bath, before he sleeps and a favourite stuff animal, with warm milk, and dont allow him to sleep after 2 pm. if he is in daycare before coming home give him a long walk try this it works. i am a daycare worker for 20 yrs. i allways get question like this.

Danitra - posted on 01/23/2009

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This is a good question...my 4yr old is still kickin it late like he's a teenager.  So I must say that skip the nap as best as you can... and give them a very warm bath.  Some sleepy time tea helps too!  :)

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I put my son to bed at around 8pm. You can always try to routine thing where you give him dinner, a bath, sing a song or read a book or whatever other thing you might do and then just tell him you love him give him a kiss and leave... don't go back in there and he will eventually fall asleep. There will be time he will cry for an hour but he will learn that he needs to sleep and soon wont even cry

Claire - posted on 01/22/2009

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Try to keep his nap early in the afternoon. Also, you could try putting in him in his bed with a timed musical toy. We have Tad the Tadpole, which I think is VTech. It has a nighttime setting with 5 or 10 minutes of lullabyes. We tuck our daughter in with that every night and leave the room, making sure to close the door. She now goes to sleep by the end of the 10 minutes even if it's just a nap. Good luck :)

Marie - posted on 01/22/2009

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my son has just turned 3 and with his new sister has become a bit of a monster when it comes to bed times  - and he's beginning to lose his afternoon sleep as well.  All I can do (while juggling his baby sister) is just keep following things up and not giving in eg "its bedtime now, not play time" and i just keep on putting him back to bed. He gives up after 3-4 times.  Also i've cut out the take away he eats and other food that prob hypes him up abit.

Katy - posted on 01/22/2009

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I went through the same thing with my son just a few months ago. We do the routine... bath, book, bed and just give him a hug and a kiss and let him fall asleep on his own. He did cry for the first couple nights but now he will go to bed without any argument and gives hugs and kisses and within a half hour he is out like a light. If he is really wound up, we let him jump on the bed for a little while and then he goes down really easily.

Maggie - posted on 01/22/2009

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My sister went through the same thing with her daughter for years until she tried Melatonin like Miranda suggested. It worked like a charm for her. The great thing about it is it is a natural hormone that most people's bodies produce to tell them it's time for bed, so it's not something foreign and shouldn't (keywork: shouldn't) be addicting. Once her daughter reached the age of around 7 or 8, she starting falling asleep on a dime by herself. Good luck!

Beth - posted on 01/22/2009

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Try to tire him out earlier in the day.  I used to take my youngest outdoors (in agreeable weather, of course) and let him play for about an hour, until he got a bit fussy...then I knew he was ready to come in.



Then bath, dinner, stories and bed.  He loved and still loves the routine. Even when he gets a late nap, it still works.



If you can't get out, have him do physical activities, like "Simon Says" (jump around), Hokey Pokey, If You're Happy and You Know It....you get the idea...just something to burn off that extra energy.  You don't have to do it with him, but be sure to show your enthusiasm so he remains interested.



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Ethel - posted on 01/22/2009

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YOU SHOULD TRY A LITTLE OF ALL THE ABOVE. MOST IMPORTANT,PLENTY OF RUNNING,JUMPING,PLAYING.SUPER ON TIME.BED AT 8..HE NEEDS 10 TO 12 HOURS SLEEP.STAY TO SCHEDULE,THEN YOU WON'T HAVE TROUBLE WHEN HE STARTS TO SCHOOL.GOOD LUCK.BEST WISHES FOR YOU AND YOURS.

Tiffany - posted on 01/22/2009

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you could start a routine! bath by 8 or whatever, then a book, then bed. but also make sure to have them start to calm down about an hour before bath time so that they are wound up by bed time.

April - posted on 01/22/2009

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I recommend Dr. Ferber's book, Solve your Childs Sleep Problems. I just read it and did 3 nights of sleep training with my 7 month old and it worked like a charm. I'm sure every situation is different and yours may be tougher and take a bit longer, but he talks about all different types of issues (including late schedule kids) and there are case studies in there with the similar situations to you. Good luck!!

Gabrielle - posted on 01/22/2009

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We use the lavender milk bubble bath and it works great. Also, his sheets are washed in a lavender solution, not sure if that works as much, but I love the smell when they come out of the dryer... lol!!

Lavarsha - posted on 01/22/2009

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Quoting Hudie:

my 3 year old son refuses to go to sleep no matter what i try he end up falling asleep about 10:30-11:00. can anyone help me?




Get him really tired during the day.  Get his belly really full anf then give hime a bath with Johnson and Johnson baby lavender bath. Hope this helps.  It helps with my kids!!!!

Gabrielle - posted on 01/22/2009

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Hi, I'm Gabby, what really worked for our son was setting his bedtime at 7:30, doing our same routine of dinner, books, bath, then bed. When putting him to bed, let him know, you'll see him tomorrow morning at breakfast and he needs to allow his body to rest. Kisses and hugs and then leave... its very hard to just leave and not come back, but he would cry for thirty or sometimes forty mins, but now, he gives us our kisses and hugs and says goodnight, when we check on him by 8:30, he's fast asleep. He also has no nightlight, making it difficult to play or do anything... would love to hear of your progress...

Miranda - posted on 01/22/2009

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Quoting Hudie:

my 3 year old son refuses to go to sleep no matter what i try he end up falling asleep about 10:30-11:00. can anyone help me?



my 4 yr old daughter is an all nighter! there are times i swear she doesnt sleep!!!! I talked to my ped dr and he said to try a routine and that was just a laugh cause i had already done that. so when that didnt work the nurse said i could give her melatonin pills. she only weighs 34lbs, and i give her 4 little pills that she chews up, they work most of the time, there are nights that still doesnt work. i buy them at walmart and they are in a purple bottle with a yellow lid. they are 300 mcg per pill. the nurse told me that they can have up to 3000 mg. so it takes 1000 mcg to equal a mg so 4 pills is still a low dosage. thats the only thing that has halfway worked for me.

April - posted on 01/22/2009

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My 4 year old has became a night owl as well. I have cut out the afternoon nap or if he needs it limit it to 30 mins and not to late in the afternoon. I think my son is starting become a little afraid of the dark as well so we are working through that now.  Hope that helps good luck!!!

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