My 3 year old wants all my attention what should I do?

Flav - posted on 03/16/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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So I have a 3 year old boy, love him to pieces, my only son. And I am a stayed home mom, I had him when I was a teen. I always give him the attention he needs, but now that he is 3, I expect him to play by himself sometimes during the day, but he doesn't its getting to. Point he not let me shower, cook, etc. and it's frustrating cuz I don't get any time for myself I try to explain him he needs to let me do things, but still won't listen, I think of getting I'm a dog to keep him busy? He ill be going to school next year and now goes to a play group once a week, so he gets time to play kids of his age, but he still demands attention from me 24/7, please any suggestions on what to do? Thank!

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Jodi - posted on 03/20/2014

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Actually, I think you missed my point. I was more concerned that you would leave him alone with a dog so you can have showers and what not. Not a good OR a safe idea.

Flav - posted on 03/20/2014

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Hey Jodi! About the dog, we have been thinking a long time of getting one, not to babysit him, of course not, just so he can have a friend, since he loves dogs so much we thought of getting him one, of course it wouldn't be his responsibility, will be mine, but that way they can play together we can be more active, since my son is very active.

Flav - posted on 03/20/2014

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Thanks Katherine! Yes he is very clingy, but has been doing better, he doesn't take naps anymore, he is up from 7 to 8pm so if you can imagine I don't get much time to do much, but I been doing some quiet time where he calms down and reads and he lets me read a magazine or book etc, so that has been helpful, and outside time, too.

Katherine - posted on 03/19/2014

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Hey like already mentioned here it seems a typical toddler behavior . I can understand it must be getting frustrating for u , since u r unable to find time for ur self . But i would say having a pet is not a very good idea . Pets are just like babies they need lot of care and attention. Since ur hands r already full i would not recommend having pets . However u acan involve ur toddler in day to day activities . Toddlers love to help . Have him help u out with simple chores . He may not be a great help but he will be occupied n u will get some time to eat or work . If ur child is very clingy on a day tk him out , a walk will make u n him both feel better . Make promises and fulfil them . Eg . Mommy will cook for halp n hour and then will play xyz game with u ....try and be responsive to ur childs needs and praise him when he plays by himself even if it is for very little time . If u r going to do something new , talk about it to ur child so that he will be less anxious . Be around him when he is playong in park or garden. And yes whenever ur child naps ... Take some rest too . Being 24 /7 busy can tak e a toll on u . Try giving child to ur partner or any one u trust and with whom child is comfortable for some time of the day . So that u get dsome time for ur self . May be just to enjoy a cup of tea or coffee. lastly know that this phase too shall pass and ur child will outgrow it soon . Tk cr

Jodi - posted on 03/16/2014

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Well, yes, that's what toddlers do. It is normal for them to want your company. They like to talk to you. They like to imitate you. They like to see what you are doing. It is their way of learning about the world. What on earth do you expect him to do while you have a shower on your own? Sit by himself and stay out of trouble? Uh, no, sorry to burst your bubble, but you shouldn't be leaving a child this age alone for any length of time anyway. How do you know when he will learn to find his own way out of the house. If you leave him alone, you are asking for trouble. Why can't he sit in the bathroom while you have a shower, or even shower with you? Why can't he come into the kitchen while you are cooking and you can give him little tasks to do that are safe for little hands? Why can't he help you do your chores around the house? This is what most stay at home mums do. If you want time to yourself, then either use his nap times or try to get him into a good bedtime routine and use your time in the evening to have that time.

Getting a dog to keep him busy? Really? Do you think that's really a sensible idea, to leave the dog to "babysit" your child while you have time to yourself? Are you asking for trouble? Besides the fact that it is not really a good reason to get a dog.

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