my 3 year was touched my his 5 year old female cousin!!help!!

Alexis - posted on 03/12/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




My husband, two sons, and I moved in with my husband's cousin. Things were fine at first but we started ed catching thier 5 year kissing and holding my sons hand. Both me and my husband along with her parents talked to them and told them that it was not okay. I explained to my son good touches and bad touches. Well things started gettinf worse. Sje started to try and put toys in my sons rectum, touching his private area and trying to get him to touch her. We split them up they were not allowed to play together or be alone in the same room. The final event i caught her on the side of the house durinf a family BBQ asking him to put his fingers inside her. We told her parents they said her doctor said it was "normal child behavior to be curious". So we packed our stuff and moved out. Well things were going well, I started watching my 5 uear old niece and my son has told her about amd tried showing her the stuff that happened to him. What do I do. Please Help!!


Dove - posted on 03/12/2015




Both your son and that poor little girl need to be in some serious counseling. I REALLY doubt any doctor worth their degree would have excused that as normal childhood curiosity IF her parents were 100% honest w/ the doctor.

Sure the whole 'you show me yours and I'll show you mine' thing is fairly normal for the preschool age.. especially w/ opposite genders, but the touching and the sticking things in OTHER people... means that no one taught her appropriate boundaries AND she was likely acting out stuff that has happened to her. Which you are now finding out since your son is trying to act out what SHE did to him.

Get your son into counseling and report the situation to CPS, so that someone can make your husband's cousin get that little girl the help she needs (especially if the parents are hiding/doing something to her).

And what Shawnn mentioned as well about keeping your son away from other children unsupervised even for a second until this is resolved.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/12/2015




First of all, the first child's behaviour is red flag behaviour for a sexually abused child. That needs to be reported.

Now, your son needs to be in some counseling as well, for sexual abuse. He needs to fully understand that it is wrong. Until he can understand that, you either need to stop watching your niece, or separate them completely during the time she is there.


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Raye - posted on 03/13/2015




I agree with the others. The first girl that was doing that to your son has most likely learned it from someone else who was abusing her. It is NOT normal to take "curiosity" that far. Now, your son thinks it's okay and was trying to do that you another little girl. You should try to get him some counseling. This is a serious situation.

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