my 3 yr old son and also my youngest always having tantrums and even in public he cries loudly just to get what he wants i feel so humiliated what to do?

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Amy - posted on 04/05/2012

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Exactly what Michelle said! I would like to add choose your battles ahead of time, what I mean is if you are going to give in just give him what he wants before you say no and the tantrum starts, once you say no you have to stick it out till the end. Otherwise like Michelle said you are reinforcing the behavior and it's going to make it that much harder to break it down the line.

Michelle - posted on 04/05/2012

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The best thing is to first let them know if they continue, you will leave. If he keeps going, leave whatever you were doing and go. Even if it's just outside or back to the car. When he sees that you won't put up with it and everyone else misses out he will learn that having a tantrum isn't the best way to get things.



The worst thing you can do is give him what he's having a tantrum about. All you are doing is teaching him that eventually you will give in.

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Michelle - posted on 04/05/2012

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I also had another thought.



Maybe do a trial run. Go to the store when you don't actually have to. That way you're not pressured to finish the grocery shopping, for example, while he's having a tantrum. That way when it starts you can leave and it's not a problem.

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