My 4.5 year old hates school, why?

Katharine - posted on 04/04/2014 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Moms, I am asking for advise and or input. My 4.5 year old daughter fights me EVERY SINGLE morning to go to school. She has been at the same school for 3 years, it is the best in our town. The teachers are kind and she has never complained about any of them. She says she doesn't want to go, she would rather stay with me, she kicks, cries, screams and fights me getting dressed and once we finally get to school (usually 3-10 minutes after the bell at 9am!) she clings on to me. I have asked her why, she says she doesn't like it except recess. I asked her teachers and they said she is happy and enjoys the day and are surprised she does that. Mom's...any advise? It pains me for her to go threw this every single day...:(

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Cheryl - posted on 04/04/2014

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Try asking her different things after school each day, like:
* What's the most challenging thing you did at school today? What was the most fun?
* What was the scariest thing you did at school today? What was the easiest?
* What was the most interesting thing you did at school today? What was the least fun?

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Tina - posted on 04/07/2014

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Excellent idea to take her somewhere fun kids always open up more when they are happy. Ask about there day what was the best bit / worst bit. My oldest son isn't liking school either he hated maths but when I spoke to the school I discovered he is excelling at it and the reason he is having difficulty is because they are giving him work to challenge him so all he saw was he was getting lower grades than others who he has previously did better than but didn't realIse his work was much harder than theirs. It could be a similar thing with your daughter or it could just be she misses you they don't understand that mums have to work so she thinks if she is off you will be too so try a 'date day/night' at weekends doing something you both love together and perhaps that special time together will help her to realise you still love her as deeply as always even though you have to both go to work/ school.

Ev - posted on 04/05/2014

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CAn I ask the point in taking her to Disney? What was to be gained in all that? THe real problem needs to be addressed and you should be talking to her teachers and the director to see what is going on. They may say she seems happy and so on, but it is obvious she does not want to be there. Are there other mother's who have children there that you can ask if their child/children have said they do not want to go to school?

Katharine - posted on 04/05/2014

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It is a pre school. yes I do work, i am a single mom and don;t get enough child support to stay at home. She goes 9am-3pm

Jodi - posted on 04/04/2014

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I don't understand why a 4.5 year old has to be in school.....for the last 3 years. Is it just like daycare or is it actual school? Do you work?

Katharine - posted on 04/04/2014

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Wow that is screwed up...I am taking her to Disney today after school, maybe I can get her to open up a little to me on the way...

Sowmya - posted on 04/04/2014

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may be she is having some trouble with the teachers at school? even my son complaining to my mom saying his head mistress was speaking about my relationship status to him..

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