My 4 week old has been cranky since day one! He cries as soon as I put him down...what can I do?

Keisha - posted on 08/21/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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So my precious baby boy has been a cranky baby since day one and I'm not sure why. Seems he's only content when sleeping or when I or someone else is holding him, but I get absolutely nothing done around the house! I'm lucky to get a cup of tea or use the bathroom! I bought 3 different slings and he hates them all and he isn't fond of the swing or car seat! I'm out of ideas and very stressed by the end of the day. I have googled everything and alot of people say to let him cry it out, but I don't feel comfortable doing that! I have let him cry for 3-5 minutes a few times when I had all the bases covered like pamper changed, fed and burped but he gets to a point of screaming and gagging because he is so upset...so of course I went running and picked him up! I can't handle to let him cry that way...hes just too young and it breaks my heart! I don't have alot of support because my husband works all the time and my family lives out of state. He also spits up ALOT after feedings...I think my milk comes out too fast! I tried bottles and he still spits up but not quite as badly. He has his month check up tomorrow morning so I will be bringing this up to my Pediatrician. I've tried gripe water and Mylicon drops. Hmmmm....any ideas of what I can try?

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Laura - posted on 08/21/2012

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If he is feeling poorly because he's colicky then he prob wants mummy anyway, like elfrieda said u can retrain him later he's still a fresh one.

Elfrieda - posted on 08/21/2012

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Sleep in whatever way works! Survival is most important now, and you can re-train him later when you both feel better. :) My son needed quite a bit of retraining after he felt better in the areas of whininess and sleep habits because he'd been held constantly for the first 4 months, but it was all sorted out by 9 months, so it's not like he was ruined for life.

Keisha - posted on 08/21/2012

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Wow thanks for the response! I will try some of the suggestions! He does sleep pretty well at night as long as he's with me ( I know its not a good thing, but he seems happy when hes sleeps with me and I take all precautions of co-sleeping). I have swaddled him and it does help a bit! I appreciate all your help and hope to find out more at the Pediatricians tomorrow!

Elfrieda - posted on 08/21/2012

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The pediatrician might be able to help. It sounds like there might be an issue with his digestion, since he spits up so much and is not a "happy spitter".



But I have to echo Laura, my son was such a high-maintenance newborn, he had to be held upright and bounced or squeezed against me all the time or he would scream. He didn't sleep, he just cried. It was horrible, and I kept thinking about sleep deprivation as a torture technique and that he was my torturer. But that actually isn't his personality at all. Now that I know what a low-stress, happy-go-lucky kid he really is (ever since he turned one he's been the easiest, happiest child ever, no terrible twos and everybody tells us we have no idea what a "real toddler" is like), I can see that there was something terribly wrong in those first 3 months. He must have been in pain constantly. :( I hope you find a way to comfort him and get some sleep yourself.



Some things that sometimes helped: bicycling his legs while he lay on his back - it sometimes made him fart and feel better; swaddling him really tightly; rocking him; letting him nurse as much as he wanted because if he was suckling he wasn't crying even if I was; holding him and bouncing on an exercise ball; raspberry gripe water; getting him massaged by a reflexologist and a cranial therapist; taking him out into groups of people so he would look around and be distracted by all the interesting things.



If you can find a group of other young moms, your life will improve immensely. Even if you can't switch baby care duties yet (where you take her child and she goes out for the morning, then you switch the next week/day) you can still get support and ideas.



Please remember this won't last forever. A few months can seem like forever, but it's not, and it will get better.



Edited to add: if I have a colicky baby again, I would absolutely get earplugs. I totally recommend it. You could still hear the baby, but it wouldn't shred your nerves. I didn't because I already felt like I was a terrible mother, but punishing myself for my infant's distress only made me less able to cope.

Laura - posted on 08/21/2012

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Don't worry, my daughter who is now nearly 6 seemed like a nightmare baby after having my son who was so quiet. She constantly cried unless she was being fed hardly slept and I was at the end of my tether, she had bad colic until about 5 months but even then wasn't a great sleeper. As long as you know ur baby's has been fed, winded, isn't wet or tired then maybe he just needs a good cry.mhe will get better as he gets older. Try infacol? Good luck.

Keisha - posted on 08/21/2012

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Also, I'm not unrealistic that newborns cry alot....but it just seems he's an unhappy baby and it breaks my heart cause I love him so much. Maybe it will get better once he is a bit older, but if anyone has any ideas on things I can do differently or try I would appreciate it!!

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