My 4 year old is saying he there is a ghost in his room

Kimberly - posted on 05/25/2010 ( 45 moms have responded )

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My son almost every night runs to my room in the middle of the night or even before bed to tell me that there is a ghost named sleepy guy in his room and that he is scared...... i shrugged it off at first but its been going on for a while now and Im concerend what should i do ?

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Rebecca - posted on 05/29/2010

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Hi Kimberly,
After going thru all these responses it can seem overwhelming what to do. I love the mother involvement. I agree with so many. My first question to you is to analyze your situation, how long have you been there, has there been any drastic changes and lastly have you started a personal relationship with Christ. Children can have vivid imaginations and sometimes you should role play. When Sleep is there, have him ask sleepy questions and let you know his response. In turn, ask your son to tell him to leave because you are protected by the blood of Christ. Lastly before you lay him to sleep, pray with him and teach him that prayers will bring peace.
Have a blessed weekend!

Elena - posted on 05/29/2010

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What you can do is go to a store that sells herbs or a wiccan/pagan store they sell sage bundles. what you do is burn one of them and open all the doors and cabinets and you can say our father or hail mary n e prayer you want and also let it be known that you want all evil or negitive spirits out. then i would burn sweet grass it bring good spirits (you wont know they are even there) but they keep bad ones from coming back. then you can also put a drop of olive oil on all the doors and windows. trust me it works but you have to be forcefull... yell and do what it takes. i had a really bad one in my house it would taunt my husband and scratch him and had a horrible laugh. he started throwing up blood at work and when i took him home to change (he didnt tell me he was throwing up blood) this alarm went off on my phone say i need to move out.... it woudlnt stop going off untill i turned the phone off and it was an alarm i never put on and it wasnt on there when i looked for it again.... he ended up in the hospital and i did the sage thing and we havent had a problem in the last yr.

Annissa - posted on 05/30/2010

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First I would have to say believe him. Children are so accepting of the unknown that I believe if there are such things as ghosts or spirits, they would have the ability to see them. Second, go to his room with him and find out when and where this "ghost" is and let him talk to it while you are there. Make him feel comfortable in that you believe him and make sure he understands that the spirit is not there to hurt him, only to watch over him. I know that sounds stupid, but I went through a similair experience with my own child.

Phyllis - posted on 05/28/2010

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If you think there might really be a ghost, you need to stand your ground and assert that it is your house and tell it to go. If you think it's just a make believe, then you could try something like what worked for me. I told my kids that cats eat monsters/ghosts...and since the cat accompanies us at bedtime, I told the kids that Kitty was doing his pre- bedtime monster patrol. Worked like a charm. Sometimes telling them its not real just does not cut it, and playing along to an extent is the only way to help the situation.

Cristal - posted on 05/28/2010

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Ask him questions about it to get a better idea of what he is talking about....I khow it sounds crazy but ask him if he talks to him and why he is scared of it... I did that with my son and it seemed to help

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Rebecca - posted on 12/29/2011

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my son does this too and he says the man points at his head..he will not go in to his room alone and only sleeps if i sleep with him but i go to my room during the night and he comes running in with his flash light scared to death...who ever this man is he go's where he go's and he is scaring him...

Amy - posted on 05/30/2010

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I have the same problem with my 4 year old he tells me if he doesn't leave food out then the skeletons will eat him... thanks to his older cuzin. ugh! I would ask more questions and find out more about this sleepy guy. Night lights have worked for us. He doesn't like shadows. The best thing u can do is ask questions and don't dismiss it. U have to care. It is his feelings and as u know kids get hurt easier and wear it on their sleeves. I check the closets and under the beds and we say a little prayer also. Hope it helps

Letitia - posted on 05/30/2010

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Ive seen a ghost he was a soldier in world war 1 about 17-20 years old and very handsom i only sor him once but in my room at that time i kept feeling like someone was whatching me and couldnt sleep at night ive since had 2 changed rooms because i became pregnant and needed a bigger room 4 me and my daughter and i still feel like im being whatched and my daughter will look at a certain point in the room and start laughtin and babbaling so i no some one is there x

Jade - posted on 05/29/2010

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My Neice has a man that talks to her all the time...i have seen him once and he is very friendly and has a smile on his face...my niece calls him dudie and she is not scared of him...she told us that he is her friend...i have seen many ghosts and my mum has to...my mum used to tell me (because i was scared of them) to just say to them, "GO TO THE LIGHT, PLEASE DON'T SHOW YOURSELF AROUND MY FAMILY AND GO TO THE LIGHT, GOD IS WAITING FOR YOU" and i think it worked because i wouldn't see them after that...I'm glad that your moving...must be scary for him...Just pretend to chase the man out of the room and say the above thing that i wrote and hopefully he will leave him alone. Good Luck!

Jennifer - posted on 05/29/2010

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poor kiddo... maybe try to find out a little about that house and land before you move....if it was me i would be very careful not to feed into any imagination that might be going on..but ask him open ended questions or just ask him to tell you about this thing he's seeing...might also mention theres nothing to be afraid of and he can't be hurt by anything like that. But i would for sure let him spend nights with you if he would rather until you move. good luck!!!! :)

Jaclyn - posted on 05/28/2010

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I have the same issues, but My 10 yr is still doing it. My suggestion is to get a night light and I got my oldest a "special blanket"lol, that protects him from anything bad, just pull it over his head and tell it he isn't scared cause he has super powers from his blanket, and see what happens. Good luck

Brooketrout274 - posted on 05/28/2010

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burning sage for a scary ghost is best. Smudge sticks, you can get them at your local herb store or just ask and they can direct you. have the child help you this will empower them. i't truely works, I've smudged many different places for people with scary ghosts

Julie - posted on 05/28/2010

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A neighborhood child has been frequenting our house lately and she is 11 and my daughter is 6. The older girl (very dramatic) said there is a "big foot" living in the woods. Subsequently, my child wouldn't play in the backyard anymore. I don't know how old your child is, but this is what worked for us: I asked her how can she be afraid of something that isn't real? I told her I was afraid of flying unicorns. She laughed and said, "Mommy, those are just make-believe!" I suggested that maybe her "bigfoot' was make-believe and it was part of her vivid imagination. She said, oh, yeah- I thought about what it must look like a lot. I told her that maybe bigfoot was friendly and lived in the forest because he liked the trees and the outdoors. He liked being alone. She said, "Yes, mommy! Maybe he likes the birds and and the bugs!" that was the end of the fear. He could be having night terrors, in which you would need to speak with your pediatrician- those are more complicated. For a long time I had to close the closet door in her room and even went as far as buying her a special light (disney princess flashlight) that would "scare" the monsters away if they came out of the closet. (This started after we watched Monsters, Inc.) Good luck- I know that interrupted sleep is a monster in itself, but it pales in comparison with worrying about your child.

Karen - posted on 05/28/2010

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I have a 5 year old and a 3 year old. We have went through the monsters, ghosts, and angels stages of sleeping. When it came to ghosts I gave the boys a night light for when they were sleeping, and before bed we would do a "ghost sweep". I would have them check with me under the bed, under the dresser, in the closet and behind the door to make sure there were not any ghosts. Each boy then had a "ghost weapon" such as a toy sword, water gun or something that they could beat the ghost up with if they saw it. If the ghost issue persisted after they were in their room for a bit then I would go into the night light room and we would talk to the ghost. We would tell the ghost our name and tell the ghost we were tired and could talk later and so on. You want your son to know that you believe him and that you are there for him. If you are spiritual people then you could tell him that sleepy guy might be an angel sent to watch over him to keep him safe too.

Brenda - posted on 05/28/2010

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Tell him that its ok! And that you love him and if he needs to talk to you about what he sees tell him you will always be there to listen. Also tell him if he is scared to tell the gost to go away and not to scare him any more.

Kelly - posted on 05/28/2010

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I hope all goes well for your move but i woudlnt dismiss that he is seeing a ghost. My mates little brother use to see ghosts in the house they lived in and only told me why he was scared to go to bed at night. The ghosts couldnt go into his room but woudl call his name - all of is at one stage had experiences in that house but at the time his family didnt believe him as he was only 4.
What i woudl do is what one of the other ladies said. Go into the room and talk to it, Tell him he is scarey your son and if it was possible could be leave your son alone - if he is friendly then he wont want to scare your son and you shouldnt have a problem... Good luck and i hope you can get a soloution before you move.

Tanya - posted on 05/28/2010

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Hi! Please please don't go into any paranormal or spiritualist type things - they are so so dangerous, all they do is invite more stuff into your life. Ask Jesus into your heart and tell this thing to go in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. I suggest you get into a bible believing church asap - one that is very active and loving eg- full Gospel( yep, I used to think no way) - my life turned around - we don't realised the dangers in this world cos we go around with blinkers on our eyes. " The Truth will set you free". I will keep you in my prayers, God bless, Tanya

Lisa - posted on 05/27/2010

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This is something you shouldn't ignore when my boy was that age it was tormented for a long time he didn't sleep unless he was with me. He told me the ghost wasn't bad just grumpy. We had a person in to bless our house and they said something was in our house it wasn't trying to hurt him but because he was so young it terrified him just cause we cant see doesn't mean he cant. After a few bad experiences we moved house my son now sleeps and is happy. He still remembers this experience very well and he is 14 now.

Leah - posted on 05/27/2010

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You should buy the book The Secret Spritual World of Children by Tobin Hart
It's absolutely amazing!!
Honestly, I would honour his sincerity and the fact that he's open enough to tell you. You should continue asking open-ended questions about sleepy Guy. For example, "How does he make you feel?" "Why does Sleepy Guy stay in your room?" Stuff to make him think and sort out his problems. If it's a negative feeling that he gets, trying smudging his bedroom with sage and sweet grass. While smudging, you can visualize the smudge stick as a bright light to shoo away the shadows.
...Heh... Hope I don't sound like a crazy person. lol
Good luck, my sincerist wishes!!

Anna - posted on 05/27/2010

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You mentioned you're moving, but if you're curious before you go, start keeping a log of when your son sees "sleepy guy" and of any other strange happenings in your home. I wouldn't dismiss your son's fears, even if it ends up being his imagination, and instead empower him to stand up to what scares him. You can do this by having him yell loudly and sternly for whatever's bothering him to leave him alone, and you can do this as well. Most actual spirits will respect your wishes if you make them clear and put your foot down. You might have your son draw a picture of what he's seeing as well, to help him better express what's frightening him.

If you notice activity following you to your new home, check out a local REPUTABLE paranormal group for some help and/or pointers.

Tera - posted on 05/27/2010

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I'm sure this is so scary for you guys... my son did something similar. I taught him that if he sees a ghost to put his hands out in front of him and say "STOP- Please go away and leave me alone!!" I'd get him to say it really sternly. I would also practice with him. "What do you say when you see a ghost?," he'd repeat what we taught him and then I'd say "look! the ghost is going away!" It worked for us- might be worth a try as it gives him a technique to use when he's scared. I would also do like Abbie said and tell the "ghost" to go away yourself very firmly. Good luck.

Wendy - posted on 05/27/2010

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Our children are Gods children and God would not allow anything to hurt them as long as we dedicate our children to him n pray for them every day try saying a prayer with him before he goes to sleep. It is possible that he is seeing something i strongly believe it's a possibility because i myself seen a spirit when i was a child n i never forgot it and i no i wasn't imagining it because i was sleeping with my cousin n i woke her from her sleep n she witnessed the same exact thing now how creepy is that? iIve had my other share of similar experiences and most ppl might think i'm crazy and if you do i do not blame you i would think i was crazy too had i not read the Bible and seen for myself that there is in fact a spiritual world aside from the physical world. Well i hope i was a lil helpful i will keep your boy in my prayers take care n God bless!!

Theresa - posted on 05/27/2010

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I would suggest looking into local papanormal groups that might be able to come in and set up some testing to help seperate fact from fiction. I would suggest looking for one that takes a more scientific approach and will try to keep things professional giving you an objective opinion and not try to scare anyone. If you live in or close to texas you can message me and I ca tell you some I know personally and will be discrete.

Natasha - posted on 05/27/2010

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Hi i wouldnt be too put out by your son seeing strange things, although if it is affecting him in a bad way then yes look into getting the house cleansed, my daughter who will be 3 in September sees a man, woman and boy in my back bedroom and she goe in there to play with them, i encourage her as i cant tell whether or not its made up or real, i ask questions without putting ideas in her head and she seems to be happy with it, it seems natural to her, i know tlking to my prnts and other family members it eems to be a natural thing at a young age for kids to see things that adults cannot

Best of luck with it

Ntasha

Tracey - posted on 05/27/2010

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Ask your son how he thinks you should get rid of ghosts, most kids have some ideas from watching TV, then do whatever he suggests. Could you " telephone" Ghostbusters and ask a friend to come round dressed up and make a big fuss about him catching the ghost and taking it away.

We gave our daughter a dream catcher above her bed and told her that ghosts wont come near her as they would get caught in it.

Could this be simple like seeing a shadow in the room or a branch scratching the window?

Rhiannon - posted on 05/27/2010

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When may daughter was about four she always said that there were monsters in her walk in cupboard, I finaly managed to get her to sleep in her own bed by by giving her a 'magic' stick (a peice of wood out of an old fashioned deck chair) i took it in to the cupborad and waved it around while asking the mosters to leave, i then closed the cupboard door and put her toy box in front of it. I put the stick under her bed and told her that while the magic stick was there she was safe and no monsters could get her. It worked a treat and there has been no mantion of monsters since.

Jen - posted on 05/26/2010

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Your child is most likely seeing a spirit, I my self can sense when there is a spirit around, in fact I can feel my best friend around me very often and he's been gone for 14 years now, I have a spirit in my house now and if I feel too freaked out by him I will tell him this out loud "Your not welcome to stay in my home, you need to go into the light and go to God, you cannot stay here on earth anymore so please go into the light and go to God" so far it has worked with the other spirit who was here when we first moved in. My friend remains with me because he's my guardian, ghosts can't hurt anyone either they can make you think they are hurting you but they can't and if you go into your son's room and tell sleepy guy to leave and you have to be stern about it as well he/she/ it should leave. Good luck

Cassandra - posted on 05/26/2010

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my 6 year old has had the same ghost friend since he was 4 years old he called him ghost boy at first. what i would and did do is ask your son more questions about "sleepy guy" like what is name his mommy gave him and does he do things to scare and is he a nice sleepy guy. then just wait and alittle at a time you will come to learn alot about "sleepy guy". it has to be up to you if you want him to stay or go. if you choose to let him stay it is a good idea to lay down some rules for him(as i had to with "johnny"/ghost boy ) things like you are not allowed to bring any other ghosts into this house.(also a scary chain of events on my part)and if you are going to stay here you are not allowed to touch things/move things and never never scare my child or i will make you leave my house. i am not a crazy person just a mother who a few years ago was in your same shoes i hope it helped and only you can make the choice in this matter as we still have "johnny" with us today♥

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I understand that 4 year olds have wonderful imaginations, and accept reality and magical things equally. That's why Santa Claus and the rest are so fun at this age. And also why they have imaginary friends around now!

While the ghost is real in his mind (b/c of the age) I wouldn't worry about it actually being real.

How can you help him change his perception of this ghost? Can you invite the ghost to lunch & dinner, & introduce them, so they become friends?

Or can there be something magical (his teddy bear) that ghosts are afraid of?

Try to follow his lead.

Good Luck :)

Firebird - posted on 05/26/2010

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I had a ghost in my daughter's room a couple of weeks ago. Burn some sage in the room, get every corner. It wards off negativity. That got rid of our ghost.

Kathy - posted on 05/26/2010

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Ask him if he thinks sleepy guy would like to move onto heaven. Have him ask sleepy guy. Then have him tell sleepy guy that he isn't allowed to stay anymore and he has to move on and go to the otherside. Not only are you acknowledging what he is seeing, you are giving him power over his "ghost". All that matters here is what your son beleives. Give him the power to banish what frightens him. Also watch Psychic Kids on A&E (episodes are online)-it is a interesting show. Good luck.

Angela - posted on 05/26/2010

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With my son who is now seven it used to be monsters and my hubby would just go into his room and throw all of the monsters out the door and out the window LOL Making a big deal of it..This really worked and we only had to do that for a short while! Hope things get better for you soon:)

Raina - posted on 05/26/2010

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I have a friend that has a daughter that sees a lady in her room...and well there is a lady in her room..it is an actual ghost. My friend has seen it as well....NOw some kids just have wild imaginations or make up excuses for you to lie with them or delay going to bed ....whatever the case ask him questions about what he sees... if you're a believer in the paranormal anything is possible!

Nonya - posted on 05/26/2010

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honesly depending how spirtual you are, i would pray over his room, we did that with our daughter and annoited the room with oil and had other friends come over to pray too! It has worked great my daughter has not seen a thing anymore! Keep him also from watching shows that would let those spirits into his room and your house such as shows ones with ghost, or witches etc we don't allow any of those things to be seen by our daughter

Cindy - posted on 05/26/2010

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Lol crap I just saw your last post that you said you're moving. Well thats great! Hopefully my advice may help if the ghost thing were to ever happen again sometime in the future.



Good Luck!

♥ Cindy

Cindy - posted on 05/26/2010

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I've read all about this stuff in all kinds of books since I was around age 11 and everything every book said to try to get rid of a ghost is to say outloud "Go to the God, go to the tunnel and go to the light, you're no longer living on earth, go to God."... and say that everyday and night untill your son says that the ghost is gone.



When a kid is saying there's a ghost in their room...... chances are very great that there is, I know this because it happened to me from when I was age 9-14...... lol and I wasn't lying either. There was nothing I could do for a while until one day when I was around 12 I told my Mom I didn't want to sleep in my room anymore because of the ghost in there. It had gotten worse and I was seeing more and more of the ghost. So from age 12 to around 15 (no joke) I slept on the couch in the living room.



Do you have another room that you could switch your sons room to? that definitely could work.

Kimberly - posted on 05/26/2010

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thats what im afraid of because i will be laying with him at night in bed and he will say mommy he wont quit looking at me and im like who and hes like sleepy guy and im like wheres he at and he'll tell me and i get up and turn the light on and never see anything myself but i am moving in a couple weeks so hopefully it will stop.

Louise - posted on 05/26/2010

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This maybe becoming a habit and a ritual to get into your bed. Tell him that sleepy guy phoned you today and he said he is not coming back. Have the imaginary phone call in front of him. He then has no excuse. Is there any chance at all that he has seen a ghost. I lived in a very old house when my oldest was very young and when he was two he used to talk to a woman over the intercom it was really freaky. He was not scared at all and did not call out for me but at least once a week he would talk to her. I moved in the end! Spooky

Elva - posted on 05/25/2010

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I agree with the other mums, that maybe there is a possibility that he can actually see something that you can not but in the event that maybe he is putting it on so that he can crawl into bed with you then maybe you can try the fly spray.. A friend of mine once told me that when her kids were scared of the monsters under their bed she got the fly spray out and told them that it was the monster spray and when she sprays it it makes the monsters go away, so she sprayed it under the bed and they went straight back to sleep.. It made me laugh at the time but you never know it might work, maybe you can try it before he goes to bed and tell him that you are going to stop the ghosts from coming.. the things we do.

Norma - posted on 05/25/2010

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WELL YOU DO WHATEVER HELPS I DO BELIEVE THAT CHILDREN SEE THINGS WE DONT SO I FEEL THIS IS A POSSABILITY

Abbie - posted on 05/25/2010

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Children prior to age 7 actually have the ability see spirits if they are there. Is he doing this the same time every night? I would be then there is something going on.

when we bought our house, we were told there was a spirit living there. FREAKED the crap out of me, so in stead of being scared what I did was. Hubby was out in the garage I went in the house, and just made an announcement ( i know makes me sounds crazy) I just said, we are the new owners of this home, we promise to take good care of this house and you are welcome to stay but I don't want any weird happenings.

Honestly we never had a issue. I would go in your sons room when he is not home, and just have a talk wiht it, I know it sounds insane, but it has worked for others. I wouldn't write it off though, seems very possible to me.

Norma - posted on 05/25/2010

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T0 OUR CHILDREN THIS GHOST ARE REAL WHEN MY OLDEST SON WAS THAT AGE HE CAME AND TOLD ME THERE ARE BLUM BLUMS N HIS CLOSET WHAT I DID WAS GO INTO HIS ROOM AND CHASE THEM OUT SEEING THAT YOU ARENT AFRAID OF THEM THEY WILL SETTLE DOWN AT LEAST THAT WORKED FOR ME

Amy - posted on 05/25/2010

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My son sleeps in our bed because of the slurpy slurps that live in his closet. He used to tell us that they would lock him in the closet and tie him up! We've since switched his room due to the birth of his sister and starting next week he'll be sleeping in that room! I don't have any advice to offer you but I feel your pain because we tried everything to get him through it which included stuff like closing the closet door and telling him the dog would protect him! Can't wait till his sister is old enough to understand and he tells her about the slurpy slurp, I figure I'll have an empty bed in 4 more years!

Charlie - posted on 05/25/2010

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How old is he ?

maybe you could ask him more about this ghost to get a better sense on what it is he is experiencing .

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