My 4 year old step son is rebelling against me

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i married my husband a year ago. i have 2 children from a previous marriage and my husband also has a son from his first marriage. unfortunately, my step sons mother died when he was 6 months old (way before i married his father). i am now 8 months pregnant. basically since my husband and his 4 year old son moved in with me, his son has been acting up in various ways. he wets the bed 2-3 times a night, he refuses to eat or if he does eat it takes him hours to complete his meal. he hardly sleeps, sometimes i wake up in the middle of the night and find him playing in his bed. he has also on occasion after he has been to the toilet smeared his faeces all over the bathroom walls and floors. when i ask him about why he doesnt eat and why he purposely wees himself (because we have established he does not has a bladder problem) he answers 'because it makes mummy and daddy unhappy'. after watching a few super nanny episodes i decided to try to make him sit at the dinner table until he has completed his meal. and if hes not eating, make him stand on the wall for 4 minutes and then return him to the dinner table. this can take up to 4 hours. i am literally about to break down. im so worried that this will continue, because i have a new born baby on its way and i dont think i can deal with any less sleep. does anyone know what i should do????

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Amy - posted on 11/13/2012

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Who has that much time to fight with their kids to eat? If he doesn't want to eat don't make him, when he says he's hungry later give him his dinner. My son is 6 1/2 and most morning before school he doesn't want breakfast even though I would make him whatever he wanted, if he doesn't want to eat he's the one that's going to be hungry at school not me.



As far as the bed wetting goes just put him in a pull up, it's another power struggle and it's not one that you get to win. Food and bathroom usage are the two things that kids can have control over. Honestly it sounds like he may be doing this stuff for attention, most kids don't care if it's negative attention they just want attention and he's found that these two things get him a lot of it! I would maybe seek out a family counselor to help him work through some of his feelings. I mean honestly who knows what impact his mothers death is having on his behavior now, I can't imagine how hard that can be for a 4 year old.

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Dove - posted on 11/13/2012

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**i decided to try to make him sit at the dinner table until he has completed his meal. and if hes not eating, make him stand on the wall for 4 minutes and then return him to the dinner table. this can take up to 4 hours.



You did. Right there.

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ok 1) i stopped the last thread because my sister made it and she left out important information and 2) who said i fight with him???

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