my 4yr old boy

Beatriz - posted on 08/11/2014 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My son is 4yrs old he loves to play with girl toys he also preferres to play with girls.. should I be concerned

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Dove - posted on 08/11/2014

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Toys don't have gender. Toys are toys and kids are kids and there is nothing wrong w/ any child playing w/ any toy they like.

My 6 year old son plays w/ lightsabers and swords... and all the kids in the neighborhood (boys and girls) play right along w/ him. My best friend as a young child was a boy... and we played made up games combining Transformers and My Little Ponies. :) Nothing wrong w/ any of it.

Trying to change who your child is and who/what they like to play w/ can cause damage that you would need that counselor for though.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/14/2014

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Toys do NOT assign sexuallity. They will not turn your son gay. If your son happens to be gay, it is not because of his choice in toys as a child. He was born that way.

Most of the time, people won't bat an eye at girls playing with "boy" toys, but people freak out when boys play with "girl" toys. It is so hypocritical.

Heather - posted on 08/14/2014

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No you shouldn't be concerned. I am in early childhood development and I can tell you that I've never had an issue with boys playing with girl things. It's all part of there curiosity and development. Also from personal experience, my brother played with dolls and dressed up as a girl and pretended he was my sister. He is now 22 and is getting married to a lovely East Texas women. Boys at that age know the difference between pretend and reality.

Amanda-Beth - posted on 08/14/2014

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Not at all its perfectly normmal for four hear olds their all about pretend. And a lot of them like dolls as they like being mommy or daddy.

Leela - posted on 08/13/2014

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Don't be. I'm presuming that your concern is about his sexual orientation. I have a cousin who was like that. He's now very happily married. I also have very manly guy friends who are gay. A gf of mine also has 3 boys and 2 girls. They play with each other's toys all the time. Stereotypes are just stereotypes. Most importantly he needs you to accept him for who he is - now and in the future.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/12/2014

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The only people that assign a gender to toys are people who are afraid that their children 'may turn out gay'.

There's nothing wrong with boys playing barbie and girls playing soldier.

Selita - posted on 08/12/2014

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My daughter loves playing with boy toys. Cars, Trucks, Little swords. I think its a phase they all go through.

Michelle - posted on 08/11/2014

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What would you be concerned about?
Like the others have said, it's normal. Stop stereotyping toys and what it means and let him be a child exploring.

TJT - posted on 08/11/2014

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You know what I agree with Dove now. It is likely to make it worse when he gets older if you try and change him. I have to agree my best friend has always been a boy, it is your childs choice with what he plays with, saying the toys are for boys and girls isn't entirely true that is just a suggestion. People say basketball nets are for boys, how many girls do you playing with basketballs and the nets? quite a few. Just like football always has been branded as a game for boys but girls do play.
I take back most of my other comment,

TJT - posted on 08/11/2014

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I don't think you should be concerned yet as he is still learning and growing, finding his feet.
Can you maybe introduce him to a unisex toy then gradually introduce more boyish toys.
Have you tried taking away the girl toys and just giving him boy toys to see what he does and how he reacts.
I am assuming he doesn't have any sisters, but do you have any friends that come round with daughters. If so that could be what is encouraging him to play more with girl toys.
Also he will play with girls more if he is playing with girl toys.
I think you should be more concerned if he is still playing with girl toys when he is like 6 or 7 as that is when they are more likely to choose what they are going to play with for a couple of years. At 6 or 7 as they will be in school it could cause other children to start bullying him because of the fact that he isn't playing the same games or with the same toys as they are, it will get worse as he grows up.
So I would say if he is still playing with girl toys at like 6 and 7 then go and see someone that may be able to give you proper advise.
You could see someone now at this age if you want to as it may give you advise on how to encourage him to play with more boy toys.
Try and find a club that he may be able to go to that is mainly boys, quite a few club start at 5 or 6, that will help him play with boys more.

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