Heather - posted on 01/12/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )
My 4 year old son has began stealing, lying, tearing up the house, peeing\
/pooping his pants. He is constantly in the corner. Has lost all of his toys, one at a time for stealing. I have tried many times to sit him down and talk to him calmly about what he is doing wrong and why. His response to me proves he is extremely smart. He can admit and describe why he is in trouble, and how he could have prevented getting into trouble. He fully understand what he does is wrong and what kind of trouble he will be in for doing what was wrong. He has told me every time that he wants me to leave, he doesnt want me to live here because when im here he cant do bad things. His father and i are on the same page with discipline and have tried time out, taking his things, spankings, extra chores, stern talking to and calm talking to. its always the same story, he doesnt want mom (me) to be here, he wants to do bad things and he wont stop doing them. I am at my wits end his actions are affecting my 3 year old, watching him act out all the time makes her think that is how she should act, i have spent almost 8 months trying to potty train the 3 year old, she is pretty much done with potty training but she refuses to use the bathroom, stay in her bed at bed time, throwing food across the room at meal times (that she got from her older brother, he loves to throw food from kitchen table to living room floor everyday)! and just all around doing anything that is wrong. how can i stop them from doing bad things? i use my 2 oldest children as examples of what happens when you are good, my oldest son has never stolen or lied to me and he is almost never in trouble, my oldest daughter had sticky fingers for a while but she is making good progress on not stealing or lying and has been in a lot less trouble lately but it doesnt matter if he ends up constantly in the corner watching his older siblings play with out him the second you let him out of the corner and take your eyes off him he is into something. i see a lot of responses of people going through the same thing i need to know what people have done to fix this because i have tried not disciplining and ignoring his acting out and i have tried serious discipline. he says he will never change he doesnt want to do good things...
p.s. sorry for the crappy typing, with 4 kids most of the keys on my laptop are missing...