My 5 almost 6 year old having Poopy accidents at school:(

Terry - posted on 05/21/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hello!!! Feeling really helpless. At four days old my son had a massive seizure and was in a coma for seven days straight. Now that he is almost 6 we are seeing residuals from his brain trauma as a baby. He has short-term memory loss, and learning delays, With an unknown diagnosis.
My son Jake was 3 1/2 years old when he was fully potty trained. Jake was 4 1/2 when he started regressing and not using the toilet . The summer before we started kindergarten he started having poopy accidents. He doesn't even realize that he has had an accident in his pants. It happens multiple times within the school day. Our school team has no idea how to help him. His teacher will take him to the bathroom multiple times with no success. He has accidents at home also. We have used every incentive under the sun and nothing has worked. We are in the process of getting an allergy test done and also checking w/ our neurology team to see if it's something underlining. I feel like I do not have a clue how to help my son. Do any of you out there have a similar story or any suggestions at all? I would greatly appreciate it, thank you so much. - Terry

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Terry - posted on 05/21/2014

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Hi Shawnn. Thankyou so much for your response. This is my first time using a support group on line. My guy too, is soooo stubborn!!! It's been a very hard journey. When I tried having consequences for his accidents, he would forget why he was loosing out on things. He couldn't remember!!! Complete madness!! How to teach a child from their mistakes, when they can't even recollect what they did is the toughest part:( hopefully the allergist will give me some kind of lead! Thanks again, -T

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/21/2014

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So far, you're doing fine. Regression (especially in boys) at that age is not uncommon.

My sons both had the same problem, at different ages. With one, it was a manner of finding out that he had lactose intolerance, and some other digestive issues. Once we got those taken care of and 'retrained' his bowels, he was good.

The other was just a stubborn little shit! I say that with all the love in the world, because he's my boy, and my world, but damn was he stubborn! He'd rather sit in poop than take the 5 minutes to sit on the toilet if he was heavily involved in something. So, I basically did the 'take away privileges' discipline for that one, and helped him retrain his bowels as well.

Both are happy, healthy average guys now, at 20 & 17...hang in there. With the other complications your son has had, it may be that he's not got the nerve development necessary to 'feel' when he needs to go. Believe it or not, you can poop on a schedule, and that may be what it takes.

GOOD LUCK!!

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