My 5 month old won't go to sleep at night without being on my breast, HELP!!!

Sherrine - posted on 01/02/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I have 3 children and tried breastfeeding with my other 2 but it nvr worked out, third time around it's going great EXCEPT I can't get her to go to sleep at night without being on my breast, I supplement with a bottle every once in a while but that won't get her to sleep at night, what should I do?

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Falling asleep on the breast is normal. My twin girls did it for 15 months... and are 10 years old now.

My son did it every single night for 9 months and many other nights til he weaned at 3.25 years.

If you want to change it, go ahead and take steps to change it, but also know that if you like how things are working now... you don't HAVE to change it. It's normal.

Mandie - posted on 01/02/2012

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Unfortunately this is where the whole "tough love" term starts to come into play. Your baby girl is now used to going to sleep this way and trust me once they get a set routine,its hard to break them of it(I have 4 daughters). Try to feed her earlier in the day,say you feed her 15 minutes before "bedtime" take it back another 15 minutes and then leave those extra 15 minutes for her to fall asleep without the breast. This happened with my first daughter,and the way I broke her of it was the cry it out method. She didn't like the fact that I took the breast away that was her "security blanket" so to speak. To top it off I put her in her bed awake,but she was tired. Then I left her in her bed and left the room how it usually is when she fell asleep(dark with a mobile going). She would start fussing but I would wait about 3-5 minutes,then go in(don't turn the light on or pick her up because this will give her that jolt of energy to keep her awake longer),softly tell her that you are still there and didn't leave her. Once she calmed down I walked back out of the room,and continued this til she fell asleep. After about 3-4 days of doing this she kinda caught the drift that the breast was no longer a security blanket to go to sleep and started falling asleep without it. I know it sounds easier than what it really will be,and also it sounds a lot harsher than what it really is. Unlike most people's theories the Cry It Out method is not horrible to do. Never let baby cry excessively.Wait 3-5 minutes then reassure her she is not alone,let her calm down and then repeat process. Its long,tiring,and can strain a nerve but it is well worth it. Best of luck momma =)

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Sherrine - posted on 01/02/2012

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Well i've been tryin to get her suck a pacifier since birth and she won't suck one .. But I will definitely try the Cry It Out method, thx

Mandie - posted on 01/02/2012

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I'm not saying anything bad about mother's who do this,I'm just answering her question. She wanted to know ways of breaking the habit. And yeah mommy and daddy time might be delayed another 3 or 4 days but in my opinion mommy and daddy time was a lot more frequent after my daughters learned to self soothe and fall asleep without being latched on,then everytime they were,when I took them off of it to put them in bed they were up fussing until I did it again.So on and so forth. After about 15 minutes of off and on fussing with the Cry It Out Method my girls ended up falling asleep for a few hours before the actual feding time came. Even a binkie,pacifier would suffice because 90 % of the time they just want something to suck on instead of actually being hungry at bedtime. And new studies have shown that baby's who use binkie's reduce the risk of SIDS. So that is something to look into as well. I found the ones the hospital give or the brand just like it only smaller nipples worked the best for my girls.I think its NUBY but I'm not 100% on that one =)

Sherrine - posted on 01/02/2012

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Its not really a problem problem just that once she falls asleep on me I cant get her off, if I break her suction she will start squirming and eventually wake up, and I need her to not use me as a pacifier so I can get her to sleep in her own bed

Amy - posted on 01/02/2012

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I honestly don't see a problem with it unless it's a problem for you. There are night my daughter breastfeeds to fall asleep, there are nights I rub her back to fall asleep, and then there are nights I put her in the crib awake and she falls asleep on her own. She's now 21 months old and it's been this way since she was 3 months old. If it bothers you then you can feed her till she's almost asleep and then put her in the crib but if it doesn't bother you then feed her till she's asleep and then put her down. My theory was hubby and I weren't going to enjoy any more time together off I was going in every 5 minutes as opposed to just feeding her to sleep, but I also knew she was capable of settling in on her own so it didn't bother me.

Mandie - posted on 01/02/2012

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I totally understand. It was hard on me hearing them cry,but it is really for the best and it does work as long as ya stick to it.

Sherrine - posted on 01/02/2012

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Thank u so much I will try it although hearing her cry makes me wanna cry, lol... But I have to break her out of this for the sake of mommy & daddy time

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