Summer - posted on 08/11/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )
This is my son's first time in school ever, straight to kindergarten. I slightly regret not sending him to preschool or even pre-k before hand, but only because of the lack of social interaction he could have gotten. He is very smart, can spell and write his name along with other words. He knows more shapes than most kids in his class (20 other some kids something they are trying to fix) and is on the verge of reading. But his behavior has always been a bit of a challenge. Here at home he listens pretty well, picks up toys when asked, argues but not for along about dinner before dessert, he does not hit or bite or sctratch, he has stopped throwing himself on the ground finally understanding it won't give him his way and that he is also to old for that. Away from home is a bit different, though this past year has been improvement with him. He likes to run away a lot as if he WANTS to be chased, and giggles a lot even though we are telling him to come back, hold our hand, or just plain stop. This was while we were out eating at a buffett. He likes to climb under the table, and if he were to get out I know he'd run off laughing.. All of this has improved a lot this past year, but we are beggining to see it again now that he is in school and this is how i imagine him acting in school also. The school has been amazing with him. Has tried SO many different methods, are so kind and patient, and today told me I don't need to apologize and that even after everything want to keep trying!! Day 5 though and here's the school reports I have gotten since day 1. He hit his teachers!! Tried running out of the building first day, now just runs from teachers around class room, he won't sit and stay still in his seat, climbs under tables laughing like its a game, crying and literally saying whah like he is a baby, scratched his teacher one day!! He knocked over chairs when he was in the office, knocked off one teacher's glasses, and literally refused to come off the playground when recess was over my fiance had to go up there (I thought sending dad would be more effective) but he still didn't want to listen.. The running and laughing and not staying in his seat don't surprise me, but the rest does. We expected some calls but nothing like this. The hitting and scratching is not like him. And knocking over chairs, and breaking his craynos and throwing all the magnets off the teacher's board is surprising to us too! He had to come home early once, has been in the office multiple times, and had a full day out of class with another teacher which was a little better he at least sat in his chair, but was still difficult. Took recess away one day. He has always been a big boy at home and is a huge help with his 1 year old sister. Is so loving to her and shares well. The principal said he plays well with the other kids though. My fiancé and I have always been stirn with him, we have spanked him only when necessary, we tried time outs, we do groundings, and take away certain privlages like sweets or TV time. But we also reward him when he does good. We have met and plan to meet again with his principle. We want to give him time to adjust and to keep trying but a week in and he hasn't showed much improvement. Here at home I took all his toys TV time and no sweets he goes to bed earlier now. He understands why. And I know he knows what he is doing is wrong. The day I went to the principle's office he was doing that laaughing giggling thing on the floor in front of principle's desk. As soon as I walked in his face went straight and he got up and sat in the chair with a pouty face. I know part of it is testing his boundaries and seeing how he much he can get away with. When I ask him what happened today, he tells me. And when I ask why, he either don't say anything, or it's a very small excuse. I told him when he starts being good in school he can have his toys back, and I thought today since I had no calls from the school for once that it was a good day..but he was crying and trying to run from me and teachers soon as he came out of the doors and threw himself to the ground, because he was ready to leave but I was talking to his teacher. My fiancé and I have descussed getting him evaluated for ADHD, but want to give him a chance first. And we don't agree with medication. He is only 5. I really believe he can do this, but we have hit a wall...we are going to talk to the principal about a one on one program at school from 9-230. He has mentioned it before but wants what we think is his best interest. We want to give him a good chance but feel like a week in there should be SOME improvement. Needing suggestions, ideas, opinions, experiences, ANYTHING that could be helpful please!?