My 5 year old is stil having bed wetting problems..is this normal or what should i do?

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Tereas - posted on 09/04/2009

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Sometimes kids sleep very hard and have weak bladder muscles. I dealt with my daughter having bed wetting problems until she was 7 before I finally asked my physician. She actually takes medication now Imipramine 25mg, the dosage was written for 1-2 tabs at bedtime but I've always have just given her one. It temporarily dries her up at night then she returns to normal function during the day. This has worked like a charm. She is now 11 and recently I tried to see if I could wean her off and sure enough she woke up wet in the morning. I'm sure she will outgrow this, I think for some kids it can last until about the age of 12, so I will try to wean her again in about a year. As for now it works!

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Kristie - posted on 05/24/2012

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my 9 year old son still wets the bed ocassionally. My 4 year old I will put water in my hands and put it on her thighs and she will go potty and no bedwetting. We do that right before it is bed time. Scot has the same problem that his uncle used to have. Mind and bladder dont connect at night. Just make sure she doesnt have anything to drink an hour before bed and that she completely empties her bladder before bed

Colleen - posted on 09/06/2009

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my daughter was 14 before she finally stopped completely. We did do the medications and had no side effects with them but we didn't start them till she was like 12. we were off and on for a while but she finally stopped. We did figure out some things that were triggers for her and she would wet if she did it but she still had some trouble even without finding out the triggers but it helped.

Shirley - posted on 09/04/2009

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It will click when he is ready, until then wear pull ups to bed and try not to make a be deal of it, as that could make it worse. my daugther grow out of it but it took a long time.

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This is just my case, but it may help some moms reading -- Mason wet the bed until 5 and I thought it was his drinking water before bed but withholding it didn't help. Then Mason was diagnosed with ADHD and sever bipolar disorder (yes - he is more than two handfuls), the psychologist told me that the bed wetting would go away after his medicine had time to take effect and he was right. I can now give Mason his cup of water at bed time with no worries of him wetting the bed - only the worry that he might throw a fit that send the water flying :) I shared this so that some mom's with ADHD kids that still wet the bed might now know they can talk to their psychologist about it and find out ways to help their kiddos because it is a symptom. I do not mean to start the whole "let's drug our kids" band wagon and please do not mistake my good intentions for that. I hate that my child is on these meds and I can't wait until he has worked with us (Mom & Dad) and his doctors to learn to control himself without them.

Melissa - posted on 09/04/2009

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to Katrina Gilbert. Get some of the good nights pants. She will out grow it. The pants look just like underwear and the other kids won't know. It will also help to talk to the mom of the girl she is spending the night with. Alert her to the problem and that she may need to throw away the good nights pants discreetly. She can use these at home too to save you some headaches. Like I said, just wait. She will grow out of it! Good luck.

Melissa - posted on 09/04/2009

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My son was potty trained at 2. He had to have pullups at night until he was 5 however. The doctor said it was fine. He had to grow a little more or he did not produce the hormone that slows down urine production when you sleep. He stopped wetting his pullup suddenly and hasn't had any issues since then. My two daughters wore pullups at night long after they were potty trained during the day also. Don't worry. He just needs some more time! Good luck!

Ciana - posted on 09/04/2009

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For my 6 year old son the best thing I did was get him out of pullups at night. Then we were both forced to face the problem. Now I can't talk myself out of a middle of the night trip and he has more ownership of it. I know that it isn't something he has total control over and I expect accidents. But he was wetting a lot every night and when I would wake him up to go in pullups we weren't seeing much success being dry in the morning.
It has made a huge difference for him though. He feels bigger to be wearing underwear at night and is only wetting like once a week. So my suggestion is if you are serious get rid of the pullups and attack the issue together with your child. I don't think chronic bed wetting can be totally eradicated but you will see some progress.

Beth - posted on 09/03/2009

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My 11 year old is still having bed wetting issues also. Talk to your doctor about an enyeresis alarm. It is an alarm that will sound when a single drop gets on it. My daughter is such a sound sleeper that I worried that she wouldn't hear it, but she did and would get up and go to the bathroom. Otherwise, you will hear it and can get them up.

Amy - posted on 09/03/2009

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I had that problem with my daughter who is now almost 7. I think it has a lot to do with if your spending time with her/him. What i mean is are there other child in the home weather they are yours or family/friend kids. When my sister and her youngest child (which is the same age as my daughter) stayed with me my daughter peed the bed every night no matter what i did and i tried everything. After they left she still had a little bit of a problem so she wasn't able to have a drink no later than 6pm since she went to bed between 8 and 9 pm. She stopped peeing the bed and i kept raising the time for her drinking limit every 6 months she went without peeing the bed. She told me that she was scared because someone told her there was monsters and boogie men that will get her if she gets out of bed. So there was a couple things helping in her case. She felt like i wasn't spending enough time with her so she thought if she peed the bed mommy will show her more attention. So we went for walks and done lots of things together just her and me so she wouldn't think that anymore and that helped out a lot. Just somethings that helped with me/

Stacy - posted on 09/03/2009

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agree with other replys... don't let them have any drinks a couple of hours before they go to bed. I think its normal though my son just turd 8 in August and he still wets the bed every once in a while... its gettin less and less!!!

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My daughter is ten and finally overcame bedwetting last year. LOTS of patience goes a long way. It is embarrassing to be these ages and then have a bedw etting problem. I never got upset with her. The doctors said it was a neurological issue with her. I just bought Good Nights pullups for her -- they come in pretty big sizes and it saved much of the mess. Also, withholding drinks from her didn't seem to have much impact at all -- if it was going to happen, it happened. I know it is frustrating, but it will eventually go away. I always reassured her of this point because she would get so frustrated.

Amy - posted on 09/03/2009

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OH, one more thing that you can do to reduce your stress. I have done this often when I was potty training, etc. I layered the mattress, protective cover/sheet, protective cover/sheet, etc. So then I just had to peel one layer at a time off and not change everything in the middle of the night. I did about four layers and then I could wash in the morning/evening when it was a better time.

Amy - posted on 09/03/2009

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I have read articles with my job that children who have enlarged tonsils/adenoids are often bedwetters. It sounds strange that they would be connected, but here's the basics behind that theory.

Children who have enlarged tonsils/adenoids tend to be mouth breathers/snorers/allergies/ear infections and they have restless sleep. They wake several times in the night, toss, turn, etc. So when they do fall into the deep sleep they are so tired that they sleep through anything. These children are in a sleep debt by the time they fall asleep they don't wake when the body would normally tell the brain, hey I need to pee. Some suggest to wake them in the night to go to the bathroom, but this disrupts the normal sleep cycle that your child may finally be falling in to and can become a habit.

Pediatricians will most likely tell you to be patient and not make a big deal about it. But take the time to observe how your child sleeps. Do they snore, have allergies, get stuffy noses often, have ear aches/infections, toss, turn, wake up. If so, I would talk to an ENT.

The best thing is to be proactive here and help prevent embarrassment and blame, this only adds to the stress on the child. Every night they fear that they are going to wet the bed, which in turn makes sleep restless as well. If you have other children who may tease them, then come up with some way that he/she can signal to you in the morning that they have wet the bed so that only the two of you know, saving them from further teasing. I have three kids and I know they do this to the littlest one about anything like that.

Hang in there!

Kelly - posted on 09/03/2009

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I know that taking medications isn`t always the best thing to do......but when it is you having to get up in the night getting them to go pee....changing bed sheet......them wanting to have friends over or visa versa.....it is with great relief when it stops! Even the child feels better about themselves when it stops. The meds are not long term and are worth every penny.........your child will thank you and you will thank you!

Kelly - posted on 09/03/2009

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Hi I went through tis with my daughter. She wet the bed untill she was almost 13yrs. I know you are thinking OMG I dont want it to last that long. We had a long time of it but we did learn to get through it. We learned that it is not their fault and it is very common. Some children sleep very sound and just cannot wake up. In our situation her bladder took longer to mature and when she went to bed it was like it relaxed and the flood gates would open. We bought goodnight training pants untill she grew out of them. This helped her to still be able to go on sleepovers and also saved us from washing bedding everyday. When she was about 10 we went to a doctors appt. and this came up in conversation and he ended up perscribing a medication for her to take before bed and it would help make her bladder not to relax and cut down on the wetting......well it worked wounders and she was able to stop the pills when she was about 12 and a half. I hope this helps you. I know what its like and its a very hard thing to get through cause its very frustrating. Good Luck!!!! Talk to your doctor.

Esther - posted on 09/03/2009

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How much is he/she drinking in the evening? Does he/she sleep too soundly to wake up? Be sure to potty before going to bed.

Jeanie - posted on 09/03/2009

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set the alarm and wake her up to go potty she might be a deep sleeper and unable to wake up on her on.

Wendy - posted on 09/03/2009

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Ignore the accidents, don't bring attention to them but reward dry nights! Lift them when you go to bed, did this with my daughter and almost always had a dry night.

Mariann - posted on 09/03/2009

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I wouldn't worry about it. Get some pull ups. It isn't about the child it's about the size of his bladder. Some kids don't have a problem. Some kids do until they are even 8-9.

Rachel - posted on 09/03/2009

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This is very normal, my six year old still wets the bed every night i use pull ups on him, he was dry for a year when he was 4 but when he started school he reverted back have had a lot of friends with boys say the same thing, apparently if they still weeting at 7 then its a problem hope this helps

Katrina - posted on 09/03/2009

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I am having the same exact problem with my oldest daughter wetting the bed and she will be 10 next month. It started about the age of 3. We were living with my mother-in-law for about a month before we moved into our home and on our first night at her house. I woke up in the middle of the night to her loud cry. I turned on a light so I could find her and she has just wet herself really bad and I felt bad for letting her sleep with her grandmother without a nightlight so that she can go to the bathroom. Since that night about 7 years ago she has been wetting the bed ever since. I tried not letting her drink past 7pm then 6:30 pm and nothing has worked. I even tried setting the alarm clock twice in the middle of the night but it drains me. I just don't know what to do and now she is getting request from friends to have sleep overs but I am ashamed for her and won't let her go just in case she wets herself and is made fun of. What can I do?

Michelle - posted on 09/03/2009

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We tried the no fluids after a certain time, but when my son was pleading he is thirsty, I had to give him water. I go to bed much later than my son so I would walk him to the bathroom and have him go then. It seemed to get him used to waking up to go. Also make sure your child in not overly tired, most of all: praise him for waking up dry.

Tanya - posted on 09/03/2009

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Its completely normal-he will grow out of it. Most people say to limit drinks by 7 or 8 o clock. I would still let him have a sip or two of water if he is thirsty. Going to bed thirsty is not fun and can be dangerous too. Our bodies get dehydrated very fast. Use pull ups for now and it will save you from having to clean a wet bed;)

Donna - posted on 09/03/2009

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Have him checked for allergies. It's what caused my daughter to wet her bed.

Jennifer - posted on 09/03/2009

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Our son had that problem until about age 8 1/2. We finally used an alarm that woke him if he started to wet. That really helped for quite awhile. This past week though he has started to have some trouble again--and he's now age 9 1/2. Some of it is because he forgot to go before he went to bed. I also think he might be growing and his bladder is maybe not catching up! We'll probably try using the alarm for a couple of weeks again to get him back on track.

Candi - posted on 09/02/2009

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My daughter was a bedwetter till she was the age of 10. After hearing from the pediatrician to reduce fluid intake, make her hold, get her up, etc. I took her to an Urologist. There is a pill that was prescribed and after taking it that night there was no more issues. She continued the pill for 6 months and after stopping the pill she was completely dry after that. Def made a difference in her self esteem as well since she could now stay with friends and not be embaressed. Good Luck... :)

Cassandra - posted on 09/02/2009

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I wet the bed til about 8. you can try everything, he will outgrow it on his own its not because hes lazy or how much fluid u give him he cant help it. just a deep sleeper. my father tried everything including shaming me...nothing work, one day i just stopped.now my youngest son does too and i know he will outgrow it, so be patient please, he doesnt mean to do it

Patti - posted on 09/02/2009

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My son did the same til he was 10. In his case, he just slept so hard at night, by the time he woke up, it was too late. Dont stress about it, deffinately dont give the child grief about it. Just use plastic matress cover, keep extra sheets by the bed. (if its a small amout just throw a towel over it till morning) Chin up, it wont last.

Melissa - posted on 09/02/2009

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My son is also 9 and still has problems. In our family it is kind of a hereditary thing with the boys. The doctor is against using medication for it because it can cause nasty side effects. Just be supportive and give it time he'll eventually grow out of it. The nights have been getting better and better for my son, they will for yours too.

Hally - posted on 09/02/2009

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i have a 9 year old that still wets the bed and we have been to the doc they say theres nothin they can do for it it will happin when it happins

Elizabeth - posted on 09/02/2009

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If you haven't tried this yet, try not letting the child have anything to drink after 8:00p.m.. and have the child go to the bathroom before you put them to bed.

Melinda - posted on 09/02/2009

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speak to your doctor they have a spray for the nose that will help him with the bed wetting and it works very well. At work right now so I don't have the name of it but the doctor should know.

Kayla - posted on 09/02/2009

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I agree with all of it.. My son is 4 and I have cut out drinks after 7, and I noticed that it does work. Just remember dont yell at them its not really their fault, my son always asks if im mad at him when it happens.

Nicole - posted on 09/02/2009

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I was told by my doctor that bed wetting can go on through the age of 10. He said that it was normal. You can also try not giving him anything to drink after 7. Also a lot of small children if they feel stressed or feel anxiety will wet the bed.

Michelle - posted on 09/02/2009

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This could be perfectly normal. I still have this issue with my 10 yr old. The Drs have told me it is a hormone that hasn't developed yet and sometimes can take a while to develop. Almost like puberty, was how they described it. We cut out liquid after 6, we wake him up, and we have also tried to stretch his bladder by making him hold it when he has to go during the day. Eventually they will grow out of it though.

Asabian - posted on 09/02/2009

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cut off his drinking supply by six. on those night you will see a difference.

Mrs.katie - posted on 09/02/2009

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i am having the same issue w/my 4 yr old son. I can say is stop giving drinks after 8pm. get him or her up during the night. This will teach them to get up on there own so their want be no more bed wetting. i hope this helps.

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