My 5 year old keeps having melt downs (crying episodes) at school.

Irene - posted on 09/23/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




My 5 year old keeps having melt downs (crying episodes) at school because of not being able to finish her work. We never had this problem in Pre-K These meltdowns get her a bad conduct grade at school which causes more meltdowns when we try to talk about it at home. She is a very dramatic but wanting to please child. I just don't know what to do because I want her to care about her work but at 5 years old I think she is stressing too much about the work. We give treats for bringing home good conduct grades and take some of her TV time away when she gets in trouble at school each day. Has anyone had a child that has had these issues? Is it something I need to talk to the teacher about? I am trying not to crush her spirit. Any suggestions would be appreciated.


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JuLeah - posted on 09/23/2011




Regulating and controlling emotions is challenging at this age. It will improve with time.

When she is not upset, teach her skills for calming herself; deep breathing, taking a big breath and holding it for 20 sec. tensing all her muscles and letting goo ... whatever works for her

She needs a lot of time to run, play, jump, throw, kick .... emotional kids do best with very very little TV time

Help her out by making sure she sleeps for 11hrs or so a night ... doesn't eat a lot of sugar or processed foods ....
She needs to learn there is nothing to be that upset about. Lowering the bar won’t help her in the long run. Helping her deal with the big feelings and helping her learn to relax will.

Morgan - posted on 09/23/2011




I would talk to the teacher. My five year old had the same problem with the transition from prek to k. Kindergarten is much more demanding and they have a tough schedule. I think you and her teacher should be able to work something out.

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