My 5 year old son is extremely shy and now his teachers think he's "not focusing, or paying attention"

Gaby - posted on 04/15/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




My 5 year old son just started preschool this past September. He goes for 2.5hrs/day, 5 days a week. He is a very smart, bright kid but is really shy and now the teachers are telling me that they feel he is not focusing/paying attention when they read stories and doesn't engage in their talk about the stories that were read, etc. BUT when I ask him what story was read, he's able to tell me so I know that he is paying attention but since he is being "called on" he's shutting down because he doesn't want the attention. I have had a conversation with the teachers about him being this way, but they do not seem to understand and want me to have an IEP meeting-with their psychologist, therapist to "evaluate" him. I know they are trying to say he has attention deficit but I KNOW he doesn't. I told his teacher that when I read to him, I have his full attention and she went on to say "yes because its individual attention, in a classroom with 12 other kids he acts otherwise". I have a conference meeting with his teachers tomorrow and want to express that there is nothing wrong with him, but how could I get them to understand him? Have any of you been in similar sitations? Don't you think it is too soon to think something is wrong with him since he doesn't even go a full day to school?


Sarah - posted on 04/15/2015




I believe that as his mother, you have the authority to decline an evaluation. However, what would be the harm in having it done? The evaluations can be done at home and you contribute lots of information. Whatever the outcome, it is more information for you in the end. If they do come up with some sort of diagnosis that you disagree with, then tell them you disagree and you will revisit the issue in six months or a year.
Tomorrow when you meet with the teacher, ask for specific instances of "not focusing". Let them know you want clear objective descriptions and not just a general opinion.


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