My 5 year old son is out of control I need help

Cheyanne - posted on 10/17/2017 ( no moms have responded yet )

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I have a 5 year old son who can be the sweetest kid ever at times but it don't happen much at home. He's in kindergarten now and his teacher now n his last year teachers say he's a angel at school listens follows directions. At home it's the totally different he screams freaks out if he don't get his way he'll start throwing thing kicking walls, even starts hitting and kicking his 7 year old sister and me I've tried so many different things and he won't do anything I say won't listen to me says rude things to me. He's got so much anger inside and I don't know why how or even what to do to help him get rid of it. I hate it it seems like all we do is yell at him and he's always in trouble. I just want my sweet baby boy back please if you have any suggestions or advice please let me know.

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Jacqueline - posted on 11/01/2017

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What has changed? He didn't get this way overnight. You have to be consistent with your child. He knows that he can do these things with you because you have allowed this type of behavior. His teachers have boundaries and rules in which they go over with the children and let them know the consequences of their actions. What are the consequences when he kicks the wall, hit/kick his sister or you? Sometimes you have to look for the good in them, especially when they are having behaviors. Encourage him when he gives the right response. You may have to give him choices. You also may have to monitor what he watches on tv. May of the kids shows teach rebellion & disobedience. You have to let him know what is acceptable behavior and what is not. Reward for the acceptable behavior and correct/discipline when he is not making good choices.

Jacqueline - posted on 11/01/2017

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What has changed? He didn't get this way overnight. You have to be consistent with your child. He knows that he can do these things with you because you have allowed this type of behavior. His teachers have boundaries and rules in which they go over with the children and let them know the consequences of their actions. What are the consequences when he kicks the wall, hit/kick his sister or you? Sometimes you have to look for the good in them, especially when they are having behaviors. Encourage him when he gives the right response. You may have to give him choices. You also may have to monitor what he watches on tv. May of the kids shows teach rebellion & disobedience. You have to let him know what is acceptable behavior and what is not. Reward for the acceptable behavior and correct/discipline when he is not making good choices.

Jacqueline - posted on 11/01/2017

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What has changed? He didn't get this way overnight. You have to be consistent with your child. He knows that he can do these things with you because you have allowed this type of behavior. His teachers have boundaries and rules in which they go over with the children and let them know the consequences of their actions. What are the consequences when he kicks the wall, hit/kick his sister or you? Sometimes you have to look for the good in them, especially when they are having behaviors. Encourage him when he gives the right response. You may have to give him choices. You also may have to monitor what he watches on tv. May of the kids shows teach rebellion & disobedience. You have to let him know what is acceptable behavior and what is not. Reward for the acceptable behavior and correct/discipline when he is not making good choices.

Jacqueline - posted on 11/01/2017

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What has changed? He didn't get this way overnight. You have to be consistent with your child. He knows that he can do these things with you because you have allowed this type of behavior. His teachers have boundaries and rules in which they go over with the children and let them know the consequences of their actions. What are the consequences when he kicks the wall, hit/kick his sister or you? Sometimes you have to look for the good in them, especially when they are having behaviors. Encourage him when he gives the right response. You may have to give him choices. You also may have to monitor what he watches on tv. May of the kids shows teach rebellion & disobedience. You have to let him know what is acceptable behavior and what is not. Reward for the acceptable behavior and correct/discipline when he is not making good choices.

Jacqueline - posted on 11/01/2017

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What has changed? He didn't get this way overnight. You have to be consistent with your child. He knows that he can do these things with you because you have allowed this type of behavior. His teachers have boundaries and rules in which they go over with the children and let them know the consequences of their actions. What are the consequences when he kicks the wall, hit/kick his sister or you? Sometimes you have to look for the good in them, especially when they are having behaviors. Encourage him when he gives the right response. You may have to give him choices. You also may have to monitor what he watches on tv. May of the kids shows teach rebellion & disobedience. You have to let him know what is acceptable behavior and what is not. Reward for the acceptable behavior and correct/discipline when he is not making good choices.

Sarah - posted on 10/18/2017

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Well, if he can obey at school then he is capable of being obedient at home. Does he need a post school nap, snack or activity? Staying on task in school is hard work. My eldest son was sensitive to Red Dye #40, so if I ever gave him a snack with that in it (which is everything!) he'd go bonkers. Look for a pattern and you'll find an answer.
He may be acting out at home because he knows he can; what are his consequences? In the short term you can try an incentive; for eery good day he gets a token and for every 5 tokens he gets...cereal for dinner, extra TV time, something small. The thing is is kids are very smart and external rewards only last a short time to fix an immediate behavior. Praise of positive behavior is the best reward! Lot of praise and how he is such a big boy!

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