My 6 month old daughter will not go to sleep at night until I rock her to bed. She has to be asleep before I put her down. Sometimes she wakes up while I am putting her down, and I have to rock her back to sleep 2-3 times before it will work. If I leave her she cries unbearably.....and then my husband gets upset. He doenst like to hear her cry like that. Any Suggestions?

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Ally - posted on 02/19/2009

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It is kind of shocking to see how many people think it's ok to leave a baby to cry alone in a dark room simply because they want to be rocked or held and comforted! Why on earth do we expect infants to self soothe? They look to us for everything and are crying for a reason. All books certainly do not say to let your baby cry. More current research shows that babies left alone to cry for for any period of time are forced to learn that no one will come to their aid when they are distressed when they should be learning attachment to their caregives at this developmental period. Honestly to all those people who let your kids cry just because they want you to hold and comfort them...even when we as adults are upset or need special attention would you want your spouse or family member to leave you on your own to figure out your problem on your own...very doubtful! But yet people think it is ok for infants! Letting your babie cry like that increases blood pressure in the brain...prevents drainage of blood from the brain and raises the stress hormone cortisol which can leasd to emotional problems later in life...



Melissa...LISTEN TO YOUR HUSBAND... it hurts him to hear his baby cry for a reason...it does not last forever and your baby needs to know that when she is upset mom and dad will be there for her...enjoy your baby being little and rocking her to sleep ...it will not spoil her it will teach her that if she has a need it will be addressed swiftly and consistenly teaching her the world is a safe place. I would really recommend the baby sleep book by dr sears. It gives you a ton of insight into your babies development ways to help them sleep and coping skills for when they dont that dont ever invole crying it out alon. Let her be little ...she will grow up soon enough and you will wish she wanted you to rock her at night so hang in there!

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First of all it is not mean to let your baby cry, crying is good for them and 2nd that will teach them to be more independent and third I recommend to break them out of the attachment early because it gets harder the older they get

Hina - posted on 03/07/2009

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Quoting Melissa:

My 6 month old daughter will not go to sleep at night until I rock her to bed. She has to be asleep before I put her down. Sometimes she wakes up while I am putting her down, and I have to rock her back to sleep 2-3 times before it will work. If I leave her she cries unbearably.....and then my husband gets upset. He doenst like to hear her cry like that. Any Suggestions?




Hi, i found tht i had to rock my daughter now 4 to sleep as she was 3 mths prem, like u i had trouble puttin her down as sometimes she would wake up!! i found tht rolling 1 bunny rug up long wayz placing one down the back of ur lil one n tuckin it just a lil between her thighs she still feels cradled, even though u r not rockin her she still feels astough she is in ur arms. I started by hvin the bunny rug with me wen rockin bub asleep, then puttin her down she slept wit out any hassel. I hope this will help gud luck

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I have a 14-month-old little boy and have had ups and downs with his sleep patterns the whole time. Last night was the first time since he's been born that he went to bed at 8:00 p.m. and slept until 7:00 a.m. Joy!! He did 10 hours at a time when he was just six months old -- but that started at 5:30 p.m. so it still was a very early morning for us. So now . . . swaddling is really a wonderful thing, as I read another mom suggest. I also would suggest getting the Moms On Call book. Great suggestions. The one that stands out the most from their book, though, for you, is letting the baby cry it out. I thought that sounded incredibly cruel but it really worked for my son at that age. Put her down and let her cry. Go for maybe 10 minutes, check on her to just pick her up and give some cuddling. Keep the room dark and quiet when you check on her, trying not to keep her too alert -- as if the crying wasn't enough. Then put her back down and leave for 20 minutes this time, gradually increasing the time until she pretty much will just wear herself out. This process took me two nights. And I swear it was like a miracle. On the third night he just stopped. The reason I did it was he would wake up for a 2:00 a.m. feeding. The book said he won't starve without that 2:00 a.m. feeding. And he didn't. He hasn't woken up at 2:00 a.m. since. And the solution as far as your husband goes, tell him to get some ear plugs. I'm not being a smart aleck. Seriously. If he has to get up and go to work and the agreement is that you are the "night duty" person in the house, I totally understand his position. The same was true in my house for a while. Then I went back to work. But the best time to try it is on the weekend, starting Friday night. It is so hard to do but well worth it. You'll all get a better night's sleep after this process. I promise it works. Good luck!!

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Kylie - posted on 03/07/2009

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Letting a baby cry and cry on their own or with you standing there patting them is mean to the baby and equally as stressful to the parents. I cuddled my little girl to sleep and co-slept with her when I was too tired to rock her until she was almost two. Some babies need the extra comfort and want to be next to mum (and the boob). It’s only natural really.



And I want to let you know that my girl is now 4 years old and is a wonderful sleeper. She loves bedtime and her own bed and she has never had a nightmare or night terror. I think the extra time I spent with her in the nights has made her a confident sleeper. How any mother can let their little baby scream itself to sleep it beyond me? It goes against every maternal instinct.



Remember a six month old baby is not crying to manipulate you she is waking and crying because she needs you, her who ever said parenting is a 12 hour a day job??



My suggestion is try co-sleeping.. a double mattress on the floor of the nursery might be what she needs… enjoy these baby years! They really grow up so quickly. Good luck.



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Quoting Cynthia:



Honey!! I know that your husband doesnt like to hear the cry of his lil girl...thinking that there might be some thing wrong....but its because you have done this for so long...the rocking! Let him know that the baby MUST learn on her own to soothe herself at this age! It is recomended by ALL of the books that I have read that we let them cry for up to 45 minutes so that they learn how to soothe themselves. It was hard for me in the begining!!!! But then after 2 days, my baby girl was sleeping soundly by herself!!






 





She's absolutely right my sister decided to go running in at every little ho hum and now she has a 4 year old who cannot go to bed on his own. My own son had the same issue and I finally spent 3 hard nights crying outside his door while he cried inside (I only lasted 15 minutes) would go in rub him assure him I was still there and leave again. It did take a couple of nights but now my son is 6 he puts himself to bed every night without fail and we have a very good relationship so I don't think he hates me for it.

Mary-Ann - posted on 03/07/2009

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Unfortunately I also did the same thing to myself and my daughter.  Being a first time mom I let it all spin out of control and she ended up co-sleeping with us.  What a disaster!!!!  She is now almost 12 years old and I still sometimes battle to keep her out of my bed.  LOL!



With baby no. 2 it went a bit better.  I let him fall asleep with me in my bed, but carried him to his bed as soon as he was fast asleep.  I also did not allow him to come back to my bed if he woke at night.



By the time baby no. 3 came along, I had learned my lesson.  He is put down in his bed at 7 and I turn the light off and that's the end of it.



The advise I have for you, which I gained with the horrifying experience with my eldest, is to put her in her cot, rythmically pat her on her bum/back and softly say shhh in time with the patting.  Your baby will more than likely put up a tremendous fight, crying and screaming, but don't make eye contact and whatever you do, do not pick her up and rock her.  After a couple of nights she will realize that she is not getting her way and that you are not going anywhere.  With you staying in the room, remaining calm and not just leaving your child to cry unattended, you will feel in control and confident.



The keyword here is perseverance!!!  Good luck!

Heather - posted on 03/07/2009

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My daughter was the same way.  By 6 months they are getting the idea that if crying gets them picked up, they do it more.  I finally just put her in her crib.  I let her cry for 5 minutes, then went in to comfort her... but did not pick her up.  You can rub her belly, stroke her head, talk to her.  Then leave again.  Do this every 5 minutes.  Then make the time longer by 5 minutes every night until, finally she goes to sleep after only crying for 10 minutes.  You may not get any sleep for 3 or 4 days, but eventually it is worth it.  I would put the monitor volume down a bit (not completely off)  but not so loud that it drives you crazy.  It will not hurt her to cry.  And she will learn to self soothe.  Good luck.

Kelly - posted on 03/06/2009

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I just went through this with my 7 month old.  I waited until she was 6 months because I knew that the only way to do it is to let her cry it out.  It took about a week, but it got better.  It went gradually got better each night but then it got bad again (crying for up to an hour) but I knew that it can get worse before it gets better because she is just going to try harder to get me in there to rock her.  I was consistent every night as difficult as it was but then after a week she learned to fall asleep on her own.  My husband supported this and told me don't go in there because you will just undo everything and have to start back at square one.  I am so glad I did it, I feel like I helped her learn how to be an independent sleeper.  Good luck!

Tess - posted on 03/06/2009

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I have to say after reading that 'quoting ally' about Leaving to cry gives emotional damage, my son is in no way emotionally damaged. He knows I'm always here for him and is a very secure little person. On the other hand I have a cousin that does the no cry policy and her baby is still not going to sleep on her own at nearly 18 months! Whats better a little one not feeling secure enough to go to sleep by themselves or having a couple of nights of tears, which are more tough for the parents than anyone (baby wont even remember). I think what ever you do it has to feel right to you and baby...hope that helps:)

Tess - posted on 03/06/2009

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we went through that with our son at about the same age, in the end we just had to grit our teeth and let him cry, let me tell you I HATED it, but I knew if I let him keep up that habit it would only get worse as he got older. You might have to just say to your husband to go out of ear shot while she's crying like that...I did. It takes a few days but she'll get there:) It's ok to go and give her a cuddle if she gets beside herself but I found it only meant the process took longer if I did. From then on my son has gone to bed no problem.

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Hi there.



I don't know if you are aware but Johnson and Johnson have a bed time range. Its bath wash, lotion and powder. Those products work really well to get babies tired.



Otherwise the only other thing I can suggest is letting her sooth her self to sleep- of couse make sure she isnt hungry or nappy change is needed first.



My son hates going to bed during the day when he is very tired. He does cry when I put him to bed, but i have a talking Elmo by his bed and this hanging animal thing on his bed that sings a tune. He does cry but not for long.



I used to rock my son to sleep when he used to get up early hours of the morning but then I realised he relied on that so I stopped. If he does get up in the middle of the night for a feed, i rub the johnsons lotion on him, feed him his bottle and he falls asleep while he is drinking. I make sure he is okay then he is off to bed.



I personally dont feel that letting him cry himself to sleep does him any wrong, my mother in law did that with my partner and he turned out perfectly fine :). But in saying that, I do respect those who think otherwise. What works for some, dosen't always work for others.

Amy - posted on 03/05/2009

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Lot's of good advice here.  If all else fails, enjoy holding her!!! They grow up sooooo fast!!

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Hey sweet thang ~  I didn't see this post until tonight.  My two cents.....With Caleb, I ended up having to get my baby monitor and go outside for a while and just let him cry (turned the monitor down really low and just turned it up a little every once in a while to listen in).  It only took a couple times of some major crying and then he knew that when it was bed time he needed to go to bed.  It's sooo hard but I think in the long run it's better for them because they get the sleep that they need and you get the much needed time that you need at night too.  Another thing that Caleb liked was his Fisher Price fish tank (w/ night light and music).  I would turn that on when I left the room and he didn't feel so lonely :-)  I love you and miss you!  Hope to see you soon!!!!  XOXOXOXO

Debbie - posted on 02/19/2009

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Quoting Ally:

It is kind of shocking to see how many people think it's ok to leave a baby to cry alone in a dark room simply because they want to be rocked or held and comforted! Why on earth do we expect infants to self soothe? They look to us for everything and are crying for a reason. All books certainly do not say to let your baby cry. More current research shows that babies left alone to cry for for any period of time are forced to learn that no one will come to their aid when they are distressed when they should be learning attachment to their caregives at this developmental period. Honestly to all those people who let your kids cry just because they want you to hold and comfort them...even when we as adults are upset or need special attention would you want your spouse or family member to leave you on your own to figure out your problem on your own...very doubtful! But yet people think it is ok for infants! Letting your babie cry like that increases blood pressure in the brain...prevents drainage of blood from the brain and raises the stress hormone cortisol which can leasd to emotional problems later in life...

Melissa...LISTEN TO YOUR HUSBAND... it hurts him to hear his baby cry for a reason...it does not last forever and your baby needs to know that when she is upset mom and dad will be there for her...enjoy your baby being little and rocking her to sleep ...it will not spoil her it will teach her that if she has a need it will be addressed swiftly and consistenly teaching her the world is a safe place. I would really recommend the baby sleep book by dr sears. It gives you a ton of insight into your babies development ways to help them sleep and coping skills for when they dont that dont ever invole crying it out alon. Let her be little ...she will grow up soon enough and you will wish she wanted you to rock her at night so hang in there!


I think that the important thing is for a mom to be calm in herself as well as to be consistent in parenting style - a calm and consistent mum means a calm and secure baby.   



My particular experience was similar to Melissa's, except that I reached a point wherein my son would want me to rock him to sleep as well as continue to rock him for the entire duration of his sleep...physically and mentally, I could not cope with that indefinitely, so I had to find a way to teach him to sleep more independantly.



At first, my husband was like Melissa's husband too...until I asked him to be the one to rock him to sleep.  When he was up at 3am, still walking and rocking the baby after 3 hours...well, let's just say he changed his mind about how to put the baby to sleep!



I don't think that allowing my son to fuss for 10-15 minutes before trying to soothe him gave him any emotional damage - now when he is tired and I put him down for a nap, he goes to sleep without protesting, sleeps well, and wakes up coo-ing and cheerful.  Everyone is always saying what a settled, happy baby he is.

Helena - posted on 02/19/2009

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Also, Self soothing works if your baby is only protesting. There is a difference between protest crys and emotional crys. If your baby is crying, and it is a constant emotional sob, go to her straight away and comfort her. However, if your baby is yelling with pauses between yells, and is yelling at different pitches - this is a protest cry and you can leave them for a short time so they can learn to self sooth. Also you need to introduce a comforter - something your baby has only at sleep time, like a soft teddy or a blanket. When you give this to her at sleep time she will learn that this is what she touches, sucks on etc to help her get to sleep. Once your baby is used to using a comforter, you should be able to give it to her as a sleep queue - even in the pram if you are out, and she will know that it is time for sleep. Trust me this works. As I mentioned above, buy the Save Our Sleep book - it is brilliant!

Helena - posted on 02/19/2009

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Hi Melissa. I highly recommend buying a book called 'Save our Sleep'. It is fantastic. You can go to the save our sleep website, www.saveoursleep.com.au and purchase it online. You can also join a forum on the website and ask questions regarding your baby's sleeping problems etc. I bought the book when my son was 5 weeks old, and he started sleep through the night at 6 weeks. He is now 5 months old and hasn't had one single night since where he has woken. It is just a fantastic book and worth its weight in gold. The author, Tizzie Hall, writes about the importance of routines with your baby. It may take a week or two to get your baby on the right track, but if you use the routines and stick to them, it will work. Good luck :-)

Donna - posted on 02/19/2009

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when my oldest and my second child wouldnt go to bed all i did was give them a warm bath then given them a bottle then put them in their beds and let them cry for ten fifteen min and then they would fall asleep but when you put them ion the room shut the door behind you to lock out the loadness and dont give in til the 15th min othwise they win and they know they always will

Marika - posted on 02/19/2009

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My daughter was the same at 4 months, she would cry until she was unable to catch her breath. It took me several weeks to make her go to sleep on her own. You have to do the 5, 10, 15 min rule. You can rock her a little bit but put her in her crib while she's awake. Leave the room. After 5 min. if she's still crying, go back, pick her up or rub her back. Don't stay in the room more than 1 min because that will give her a good reason to keep crying. Leave again and don't return for another 10 min. Keep going in the room if she's still crying, increasing the intervals by 5 min each time. It may take one hour before she goes to sleep the first time but by the next nap time you may go back only twice. The reason why you go back in the room after 5, 10, 15 min... is to ensure that the child feels secure; she knows you're there. The first time you do that rule do it while your husband's there so you can encourage each other not to go back in the room before the set up time....trust me that's the hard part. Good luck and be patient, it works.

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Well, she is six months old so if you swaddle her, she will get out of it now. Melissa, you and hubby are just going to have to try and get thru it. She will eventually stop crying. You will notice that it will get less and less each nite you let her cry it out. Can take a few weeks to get to that point but you will eventually get to it. That is what babies do best..cry. If you get her thru this now, it will be rewarding down the road...Believe me. Hate to sound crass but hubby has just got to be strong or just go to the other side of the house or something if it bothers him that much. Take daddy out of the picture if the crying really bothers him that much. Tell him to take a drive to the store or something. Good luck.

Marika - posted on 02/19/2009

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My daughter was the same at 4 months, she was screaming to the point of being unable to catch her breath. So it took me several weeks to get her to go to sleep on her own. You have to do the 5, 10, 15 min. rule. You can rock her a little bit but put her in her crib while she's awake, leave. If she is still crying after 5 min., go back only for 1 min max, you can pick her up or just rub her back. Put her down again. If she is still crying after 10 min., go back and do the same. Remember not to stay in the room too long because that will give her a good reason to keep crying. Repeat the same thing and increase the intervals by 5 min each time. She may cry for 1 hour the first time but by the next nap time it will be better. The reason behind going back in the room and not just let her cry is to make her feel secure: she knows you're there.
Good luck. Be patient and it will work. Do it when your husband is there so you can encourage yourselfs not to go back in the room before the set up time.

Debbie - posted on 02/19/2009

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As long as you're sure she isn't teething or ill, resettling via controlled crying is a good idea - especially if you're getting frazzled. Take 5 minutes to sit in a separate room and gather your nerves, before picking her up again. Once she's soothed and relaxed, try putting her down again for 10 minutes. I found that 10 minutes was the limit of my endurance in listening to my baby scream heartbreakingly so I'd go in every 10 minutes to soothe him...other mums are stronger and can go to 20 minutes.



I'd do this during the day when everyone else is out of the house, so that no one else gets distressed.

Anet - posted on 02/19/2009

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I see all the warning lights go on - just like in our house when our second son came along!!!



Tough love - exlain to your husband that this is a very serious problem and that she has to go to sleep on her own. She has to fall asleep in her own bed/cot. Routine is extremely important.



After our youngest had gone 3 weeks without sleeping a wink, I was exhausted mentally and physically. Getting him back into a sleeping pattern without falling asleep in my arms took a horrific 3 weeks!! He would scream, not just cry....and he was 10 months old!



When my husband would go into his room, he would stop, hubby would lay him down and cover him and walk out...screaming would start...every night for at least 2 hours!



Now, he is an amazing 6 year old that tells you when he is tired. (you don't even have to look at the clock, but it would be 20h00) He no longer sleeps with doggie.(his comfort teddy/doggie)



Your hubby must get involved in the night routine. He also has to apply tough love.SORRY!



My heart aches for you, but believe me, this you will be doing for your child's own good!



Good luck!

Allie - posted on 02/19/2009

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you say she only does this at night, what happens in the day time for her naps. try leaving the light on so she thinks it is day time. get a dimmer fitted and slowly turn the lights off over a few nights. or you could try sitting next to the cot so you are still there but not holding her, she may cry, but this is only cause you are changing things. babies like routine so find one that works and stick to it. our little girl is 6 months and still being wrapped, we started doing it when she was born, now we just do it losser. so she still has it but can move around, she has a dummy to, so she knows when she is wraped and has a dummy it is time to go to sleep. has worked so far. good luck.

Joanne - posted on 02/19/2009

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Leave her to cry, 15 minutes max, once you know she has been feed, changed etc, she should go to sleep, once you do this she will have the ability to go to sleep on her own and should sleep better through the night.  Try do it during the day if you can when your husband is not around.  Works for me with my 5 month old, but now i'm back at work so when i don't have her in the day it can be hard coz person who looks after her holds her till she sleeps.



Hope this helps.  Good luck :)

Angela - posted on 02/19/2009

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My first and third children slept through the night from 6 weeks with no effort on my part but my second child had me thinking I wasn't going to survive, I would be crying, she would be crying. Day and night she slept for no more than half an hour at a timeunless she was in my arms or being rocked. My husband also hated to hear her cry. I even wrote to Supernanny for help and was given her conrolled crying method of sitting the room with your head bowed and each night moving back further until ou are out of the room. All I did was achieve her throwing up in her cot. I tried this for 2 nights and both times she cried so much she vomied, which is more distressing and more cleaning. I have heard of other children doing htis also. Eventually I told my husband to try something, he would rock her and get up with her and then the next night my turn until I could get into a community service that runs speacial sleeping clinics for babies, they tried wrapping, controlled crying (more vomiting) rocking, patting, top up feed. Eventually i bought a special mini basinet that is designed to go between you and your partner in bed so that they are just as safe as they are in the cot but they are in bed with you. It was hte only solution, and I mean the ONLY solution even the nurses gave up in the end. She did this until she was 18 months and one day she just snapped out of it. She started going to sleep on her own, in her own room and sleeping through. Occasionally she will get and get in our bed but only if she has a bad dream or something.



 



This was a child who would wake up at 2 or 3 in the morning and decide thats it no more sleep. i agree to point with controlled crying, but it never worked for me and some children just get more distressed and you also need to take into account that parenting includes both parents working togather so you and your husband need to decide on a method that you both feel comfortable with and if possible both working towards the outcome. It is what is best for your family and child and letting a child scream for 45 minutes doesn't sound like its in the best interest for anyone, i can't stand it anymore than my husband could and our sanity is important to.



 



Goodluck

Sarah - posted on 02/19/2009

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I would suggest using "controlled crying". If you haven't already put her into a bedtime routine, then it's a good idea to start, it's half the battle. Nice warm bath, milk and a cuddle, to get her nice and sleepy and then put her down. Stroke her face and walk out of the room. You don't need to close the door behind you, and make sure she has a night light or light from the hallway so she's not in the dark. Now, wait 5 minutes. This part, especially at the beginning, is the hard part. But you need to get your life back, and this is how to do it. When the 5 minutes are up, go into her, stroke her face, put your hand on her chest, let her know that you are there, but don't speak. When she starts to calm, leave again. Wait 10 minutes. Go back in after 10 and reassure her that you are there again. Leave, wait 20 minutes. Each time you leave double the time before you go back in and reassure her. You're just letting her know that when you leave, you're not gone forever, and you will come back. The first night will be hard work, but every night after (if you follow the technique) will get easier. In under a week, you will have a baby getting herself to sleep every night.



Abandon the technique if she is ill or teething, resume when she's better.



Good Luck!

Sharelle - posted on 02/19/2009

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My daughter would still prefer me to rock her to sleep every night and she is 2 1/2 (i dont do it any more but she still asks every night to go to sleep on mummy's sholder). I rocked her to sleep since birth and then had trouble trying to get her to put her self to sleep. You need to get ontop of this early otherwise you will become stuck like i did. My sugestion would be to start by just lightly patting her bottom to sleep. After she responds to this you can then try putting her into the cot and patting her bottom until she falls asleep. Over time she will relax in the cot and will require less attention. I tried to let her cry it out but it didnt work for us as my husband was also quick to attend to her when she cried which only made the crying worse. We managed to get her into her cot and sleeping by herself in a few month. i didnt make the same mistake with me second daughter and have started putting her in her cot to sleep on her own and she sooks for a minuite or two then sleeps. Best of luck

Melissa - posted on 02/19/2009

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I understand where you are coming from girl! But have you heard the saying cruel to be kind. Believe me. My son would not go down to sleep without being rocked and if he woke while I was putting him down he wake up and it would start all over again and sometimes it would get to 12 or 1 in the morning before he finally went down. My ex would get very irate and it was really stressing. One day I though enough was enough I had been told that it was okay to let him cry and learn to put himself to sleep so for the next 3 nights I put him in his cot and let him cry it out. He usually cried for about 30 mins which is hard to listing to I know. But on the 4th night low and behold he laid down in his cot and slowly drifted off himself. When I had my daughter she was placed in the cot instantly to put herself asleep and I had absolutely no problems with her at all. So I know that it hurts and your hubby may get upset but a few nights of crying will certainly be worth it when she finally goes off by herself. Good luck lovely.

Bianca - posted on 02/19/2009

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Hey Girl!! That rocking is not doing her any good!! And its going to get worse. Trust me,the same thing happend to me. My husband also hated me leaving him to cry, but I did, and 2weeks later it was all worth it. My son slept after about 30min of crying. It was very hard,but I stuck to it. Good Luck!

Cynthia - posted on 02/19/2009

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Honey!! I know that your husband doesnt like to hear the cry of his lil girl...thinking that there might be some thing wrong....but its because you have done this for so long...the rocking! Let him know that the baby MUST learn on her own to soothe herself at this age! It is recomended by ALL of the books that I have read that we let them cry for up to 45 minutes so that they learn how to soothe themselves. It was hard for me in the begining!!!! But then after 2 days, my baby girl was sleeping soundly by herself!!



 

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I would sit next to my son for an hour as he fell asleep ( some times I ecven slept with my hand on him in the crib and I gradually moved away and I would sleep in a chair or something in the room and after about 2 weeks of him falling asleep in the nusery with me near I finally need a good nights rest so I let him cry and I was so relieved that he laid down after only 15 mins of the most heart wrenching screaming ever. he had been "crib trained" ever since, It probably helps we have a nighttime routine and he still has a pasi (it puts him back to sleep if he wakes in the middle of the night)

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My daughter was exactly the same. She would sleep with us during the night in my arms. I tried many times to put her to sleep in her cot so i didn't have to wake he when putting her down. Try patting her to sleep in her cot, when she gets disstressed pick her up for a cuddle then put her down again, this may take some time.My daughter went into a bed at 1 year old. had lots of trouble still sleeping in my bed, When i got pregnant with my son, she had to stay in her own bed, it was hard and you have to be ready to camo in their room. but if you really want it you need to stick at it. the same routine each night. My daughter now 2.5 sleeps in her bed and puts herself to sleep. my 5 month old is very different, i put him in his cot and pat him till he closes his eyes. He is still wrapped so that helps. Try wrapping her if you dont already. Hope that helps.

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