My 6 week old wont let his dad hold him....help!!!

Elisa - posted on 10/31/2008 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My son is 6 weeks old and every time my husband tries to help out he cries bloody murder. Any suggestions???????????

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Carrie - posted on 10/31/2008

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I don't think the bottle thing is an automatic fix, it has to do with the time spent. How much time does he spend with just daddy? It's so hard as a mom not to just jump in and take over (for me at least) but you need to give dad and son a little time to get used to each other. Dad probably needs to build some baby confidence too. Take a short walk and let dad figure it out, I bet that within five-ten minutes alone they will be snuggling and cooing at eachother.

Jennifer - posted on 10/31/2008

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Oh yeah, also when my son was about that age, he wasn't comfortable with dad either, and im sure it was because dad wasn't comfortable alone with him...baby can sense when daddy is uncomfortable, so like Carrie said, let dad get more comfortable, and once hes confident, your son will feel more relaxed and secure...make sure they have time alone, start with 15 min (go for a walk or bath), then 30 min and so on, i left him alone with dad once, i said id be ONE hour (i went with my mom), and sure enough at that 60 min mark, my cell rang...haha, 'Where are you guys?', poor guy, anyways eventually he got comfortable, and so did our son....

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Debbie - posted on 11/25/2013

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Mine 9 month old son will not let his dad hold him he cry and crys I always step in and take over and we he try to wake up with him he cry and crys and he want me all the time mine hubby getting mad why he doing this and I think it mine fault what can I do. Help email at sassylucy0472@aol.com

Emma - posted on 10/31/2008

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my son was the same as i dont live with my partner. so wat i did was got him to do everything from feeding ( i didnt breastfeed) to changin so our son could get used to him. plus to get him used to my bf smell i placed one of his shirts in his cot so the smell could become familiar to him (just remember all the know is mum scent)

Christine - posted on 10/31/2008

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Time may be the trick but how about dads tone of voice/touch of his hands?warm/cold? My kids would not go to anyone wearin a hat not even their dad.

Heather - posted on 10/31/2008

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Same situation took place with my husband and our son. It just took time. Our son was simply used to being with me all the time and felt the difference between my husband and myself. My husand had to build confidence and learn his own way of soothing our boy. We slowly built up time with my husband holding him even if he was crying. Start after a feeding when he is most content and go from there. 2 minutes, 4 minutes, ... eventually he will just hang out with dad. It was still a work in progress at 12 weeks.



Now that I am back to work and our boy is 16 weeks - he has taken to hanging out with dad and having a good time doing it.

Janie - posted on 10/31/2008

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I agree with Carrie, give dad and son a little time to get used to each other. Dad probably needs to build some baby confidence too. As hard as it is, let dad figure it out. Leave the room or house and even if the baby is screaming, let Daddy be the one to do the soothing. They will figure it out together!

User - posted on 10/31/2008

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One of things that your husband needs to make sure that is when he starts to cry that he needs to still comfort him until he stops. If he just gives him right back to you that is not only spoiling him he needs to know that dad can comfort also.

Angie - posted on 10/31/2008

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Your baby is used to you and that includes the way you smell. Have your husband put your recently worn shirt on his chest when he holds the baby. Also, is he trying to hold the child the same way you do? Sounds a little cheesy but it might help

Aimee - posted on 10/31/2008

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My little one did that too, my husband kept saying that he didn't like him. After I went back to work, he got used to him real fast. They just see our face more and get used to us. Try to let your hubby hold him even when your in the room so he see's that its ok that someone else is holding him. Good luck.

Emma - posted on 10/31/2008

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I'll disagree with pumping a bottle for dad to feed, there is no need to potentially compromise a breastfeeding relationship for this reason. It's very normal, my DD wouldn't let her daddy hold her for at least a year! Now she's a fully fledged daddies girl! I'm sure he's just attached to his mommy. I agree with Jennifer.

Michelle - posted on 10/31/2008

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If you are breast feeding - pump a bottle for dad - it worked for a friend of mine. Good Luck :)

Jennifer - posted on 10/31/2008

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Does your husband work out of town? im thinking your son just is more comfortable with you because hes been so physically close to you all the time, let your son get used to dad, make sure he sees you close by though at first....

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