My 6 year old has horrible melt downs in school

Passion Joy - posted on 09/20/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My son is 6 years old, and has been diagnosed with autism by his school. His behavior over the past 3 years has been challenging . I've tried all things to get him to realize its unacceptable. Taken toys away, he's been grounded, spankings, lectures. He'll say he'll do better and go right back to his horrible behavior. Academically, he's great! But eventually his behavior will affect his grades. His school is very supportive and helps us with his issues. He see's a special education teacher, and occupational therapist, as well as speech therapist .what we've all notice, is his issue with transitioning from on thing to the next. He has such difficulty of being told he can't do what he wants, and that's when the melt downs begin. He kicks, yells, hits, screams, runs, hides,.. They try different calm down tactics to Sometime they work. But most of the time they don't .And that's when dad & myself have to come to the school and pick him up for the day. Aiden challenges me, but does not display this type of aggressive behavior at home. And Never does one bad thing with his dad! Ever!. So my thoughts are he is manipulating and acting out with who he feels he can get away with this type of behavior with. He currently has an appointment for a medical evaluation. I'm praying we find and answer, because at this point I'm so worried about him. Has anyone, been through this or can give me any advice? I'd appreciate it!

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Passion Joy - posted on 09/20/2013

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Thanks Jane! Actually Aiden it's not always with his special education teacher. He's in a very large classroom setting . I'm not sure if the warnings are being done with his teachers, but I can ask. Thank you for your input . It's a appreciated.

Jane - posted on 09/20/2013

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Hi,

We went through a similar situation with our son who had special needs. Do you have someone with him the whole day - the special education teacher, does she/he remain with your son the whole time?

Transitioning with Autistic kids is always a challenge. It's really hard and upsetting I know. We were told to let our son have plenty of warning, and keep warning him every 5 mins until the time for transition. I'm not sure how easy it is to communicate with your son, but we used diagrams as well, to show what was coming next. It's hard for all kids to transition if they are fully enjoying what they are involved in but especially hard for Autistic kids. At school, they follow the school's routine, so it may take a while for him to adjust. Kids will often be easier at home because we have more leeway.

I would ask your therapist for help on how to help him transition at school. We used to let our son take one thing from the last activity to the next (whatever he was playing with) until he adjusted, and then take it away when he was engrossed in the next thing.

School is more chaotic than home, noisier, more going on. I'm not sure if your child is affected by that kind of thing, but that can lead to more outbursts and frustration as well.

I hope he adjusts over time, and sounds like a great school that's working with you so much - I would hope your special education teacher and therapists can give you ideas, and then it's just a matter of finding what works for him. All the best :)

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