my 6 year old is stealing food in the morning. he has been doing it for the past 3yrs. its not every morning he goes through stges

Aimee - posted on 05/15/2013 ( 11 moms have responded )

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hi there my 6 year old has been stealing food in the morning, it started when my youngest was around 9months old (he has problems and screemed frm 10pm till 6am every single night) so at around 6am i used to fall asleep till 7.30 latest and before i got up my other son would wake up and sneak down stairs and help him self to food. I used to think it was because he was hungry so i told him to wake me as soon as he was up and do not go down with out me as it is dangerous. He never woke me. I started to stop buying treats and on the days he stole i would not let him have pudding and drink was water not juice etc. other times I have banned him from going to his nannas. At one point i thought he'd stopped and 1 day I moved the fridge only to find so many wrappers what had been hidden. Also under the whashing machine, and other hidden places. I have took him to the police station as we got there i said one last chance. it stopped for a while. not long ago I found he'd stole £40 from my mums house again i banned him from going scouts and to my mums for a long time i made him apoligise explained why it wrong etc. Again it stopped then yesterday he got up I was awake told him to get ready for school why i wake his brother when id come down 10 minutes later he'd ate cake and left loads of crums i took him police station took all my effort to get him out of the car because he was scared i felt so awful but he needs to learn. as i got to the door station was closed. i am glad in a way but im at my wits end. I have tried to let him make brekfast on the weekends on the condition his older brother was up aswell but again on this he was put spoonfuls of suger more than cereal so in time had to stop this to. he is not hungry as we get fed alto and have a lot of fruit in my house. im hoping yestreday will be enough for him to stop but what do i do if not? oh and 1 other occasion i was at my nannas and she has a cuby hole has games for kids and her sweets chocolate etc my son said he was playing in there when i said time tio go he took his time we got in the car and he had half a bar of choclate other half eaten said it was his friends. it was not. i made him take the rest back and apoligise.

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Michelle - posted on 05/17/2013

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Sometimes a child uses food as a coping skill and that he may feel like that is his control even though he knows there is consequences to his actions he is still willing to take that risk for FOOD.... so what he is feeling is way beyond hungry it is a security or safety net if u wish... When us women get depressed or start our monthy food is the most relaxing thing ever mostly chocolate.. maybe he is eating or sealing food because it is satisfying his need to keep his mind off of something that may scare him or cause anxiety... I know when i am anxious or scared keeping my mind occupied is a way to calm down so maybe food is his way...

Jessica - posted on 05/17/2013

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I'm 27 and I did this from the time I was 1 until I was about 5. My mom tells me stories about all the the things that I used to sneak into and eat and truth be told I'm perfectly fine now. I have 5 siblings and according to the doctor I was having trouble coping with things so I stress ate or bored ate. It's normal to eat I guess the rest of it I don't know about and maybe you could try having other people talk to him but maybe he just wants more attention? I say talk to a behavioral specialist instead of the police.

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Corina - posted on 05/17/2013

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What I`m missing from the story: have you talked to him ? Asking why is he doing that, (supportive attitude-without an upset tone), just trying to understand?
He is an innoncent child having some impulse to do things. You can help him better if you understand the mechanism. I don`t think children are not good, they are mostly misunderstood by adults, because we don`t do enough efforts to understand.

Danielle - posted on 05/16/2013

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You took a child to the cops for eating food in his own home--solution, give this child to people who want to be parents. Or if you insist on keeping this poor child, FEED him--

Jodi - posted on 05/16/2013

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I 100% agree with Mary. I don't understand why it is dangerous for him to go downstairs by himself either. He's 6, not 3. My children have been getting up and helping themselves to breakfast before I wake since they were about 5. The choices they have are within easy reach. Even my daughter has been making her own toast since she was 7, so they are more than capable. Just lock up the choices he can't have (or, given you are talking about food in wrappers, dispense with the junk altogether) and then it won't be a problem.

Cecilia - posted on 05/16/2013

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I think even as adults we eat all day long and just don't pay attention to how many times we put something into our mouths. I bring a bag of carrots with me when I sit down to work at night (I work from my livingroom) This way i don't wake everyone walking downstairs to get some snacks.

Dove - posted on 05/16/2013

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All of my kids seriously eat ALL DAY LONG... Youngest is 5, oldest is 11. They are hungry 24/7....

Mary - posted on 05/16/2013

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I'm utterly confused. Why is it "dangerous" for a 6 y/o to go downstairs in your home unattended? And why, for the love of dogs, would anyone take a child to the police station for eating cake??? That's just all very odd and overly dramatic to me.

Maybe you need to empower him a bit instead of acting as if he has committed armed robbery in your kitchen. If you don't want to wake up with him, and address his needs immediately (which is not unreasonable, although the tone of your post seems to imply that he gets put off quite a bit for you to tend to his sibling), perhaps you could come up with a plan for him to suitably meet his own needs. What I mean is that you develop a very specific list of those foods he CAN help himself too. Obviously cake is not an acceptable breakfast choice, but couldn't you say to him, "If you wake up before mommy is ready to get your breakfast, you may help yourself to X,Y, or Z" - and then make sure that those items are readily available and accessible the night before. I'd also be proactive and make sure any unacceptable items or treats are kept in a place where he cannot access.

Perhaps I'm misinterpreting your post, but it gives the general impression that since the birth of his younger sibling, you've sort of put him off to deal with the more pressing needs of the baby. It's totally understandable to another parent or adult - but probably not to him. However unintentional, you have put him in the confusing position of expecting him to be old enough to know better, but too young to be independent. It really sounds like a lot ow what he is doing is acting out his frustrations, as well as trying to get some attention from you in whatever form he can.

Cecilia - posted on 05/16/2013

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See I misread that part, I thought she took him when he stole money.

Besides for all that just stop buying cakes and things for him to take and only have fruit.

As far as him not being hungry. Don't always be so sure. He might be going through a growth spurt and need extra. He should be getting a snack after breakfast before lunch and a snack after lunch before dinner. When I say snack i do mean healthier options.

My teenagers typically eat 6-7 times a day. (not even kidding.) They do eat smaller meals but yea they eat all day and not one of them are over weight. I actually have two underweight children lol. My two year old eats 5-6 times a day. They each have a snack jar. In the morning i unlock our snack cupboard(yes i do lock a cupboard because things were coming up missing) and everyone puts their snacks for the day in their jar. Then when ever they feel the need to graze, they can.

Dove - posted on 05/15/2013

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You took your 6 year old to the police station for eating food in his own house? Wow....

Sounds like your son needs better supervision... or lock up your food.

Cecilia - posted on 05/15/2013

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Well first you need to get up before him. Sorry if you're tired but he knows he can get away with it. When you're at your nannas you need to watch him closely. if you leave the room he needs to go with you. Explain to him why. Tell him that you're not able to trust him.

Also you can call the police and ask them to send someone over to talk to him. This way you don't have the stress of taking him there.

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