Brenda - posted on 01/10/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
I have 2 boys, ages 4 and 6.5. Their father and I split up 2 years ago, it was not a nice split. My eldest really looks up to his dad who is "big and strong" and but really his dad is selfish and immature and a bad role model. But he makes it "seems" like he is a loving Dad...now. S (my 6 year old) has always loved his daddy alot, even when daddy was never home. I know he has this respect for him based on his size and strength. S is also quite angry at me and he can say mean things to me and his little brother. He is also very rough with his brother. He loses his temper easily and often. He doesn't listen to me. Its as if he has no respect for me. He feels that he only loves his daddy. At home he gets into a trouble alot. I think its because he feels left out, isolated, he feels a sense of loyalty to his dad. I do my best to have fun and "include" him but he can be so difficult and rude that he ruins it so i send him to his room. I love him so much! I want to him be a happy kid and not so angry!! Its like a viscious circle. I am a working mom, so I don't have much time each night: dinner, homewaork, play (maybe?) then bath and bed. I feel that I need to be consistent and stern with him...it seems to be more effective than the huggy-lovey route. Ugh! So frustrated and sad! Any ideas?