My 6 year old son, walked in..

Vanna - posted on 07/01/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My 6 year old son, who was supposed to be sleeping (1 am), walked in on me and my boyfriend... i was about to perform oral sex. I felt HORRIBLE!!! Please help me figure out what I should tell him or how to explain the situation to him.

Thank you all so much.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/01/2015

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Well, now you know to lock the door ;P

I would ask your son what he saw, and take it from there.

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Raye - posted on 07/02/2015

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When I was dating my current husband, we fooled around on the couch after the kids had fallen to sleep. I am a bit paranoid about being caught, and would have my ears open for anything that sounded like them out of bed and coming down the stairs. And there have been plenty of times since (behind closed doors) where I hear a noise and wonder if the door is locked, or if the kids can hear us (and do they understand what they hear?). There's been a few close calls. But really it's not the end of the world to get caught.

There is no harm in children understanding that adults share a special way of being physically intimate with each another. (In fact, it's healthy.) Such an experience may be embarrassing, but the best approach is to remain calm and matter-of-fact. Don't lie, but don't go into graphic detail either. Keep it age appropriate. Parents can say, "We are having some private time together. Go back to bed, and I'll come see you in a few minutes." As I mentioned before, explaining to them about "good touch", "bad touch" is not only helpful for them to understand when others are behaving badly toward them, but also explain adults acting lovingly toward each other. They should also know that they can say "no" in any sexual encounter to anyone at any time, even if they are in love with or married to that person. They never have to engage in any sexual activity if they don't want to.

Michelle - posted on 07/02/2015

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Wow the last 2 posters are a bit out of touch.
At 1am I expect my children to be sleeping as well.
If he hasn't said anything then don't worry about it. I agree with the talk about good and bad touching but do it in a normal conversation way. Just bring it up casually and make sure he knows what's right and wrong.

Drama - posted on 07/01/2015

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Is this the example you want to pass on to your son? Children learn by example. They deserve to be protected.

Raye - posted on 07/01/2015

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If it seems he didn't see/remember anything ,then you can let it go unless he starts to ask questions. If you haven't already started talking to him about "good touch" and "bad touch" this may be the time. Tell him his body parts are his and that no one else should touch him there unless it's mommy/doctor making sure he's medically ok, or when he is an adult and loves someone then it's okay to touch each other's body parts. If you don't act weird about it, he won't be so weirded out about it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/01/2015

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He truly may not remember anything. My son has gotten up in the middle of the night, and had no memory of it in the morning at all.

Vanna - posted on 07/01/2015

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We were in the living room and it was 1 am. When I talked to him this morning, he acted as if he didn't see anything. I still feel so awful and speechless..

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