My 6 year old still doesn't know how to swim, he hates the pool and ocean but loves the beach

Elkewentzel - posted on 01/27/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Has had an assessment and was observed to have some behaviors on the spectrum but didn't get a diagnosis, report states he's a bright sensitive boy, suffers from some anxiety and has difficulty calming himself down once he is excited, he is loud, very loud and has sensory issues related to noise, ( will not flush toilet because of the noise,) lights sounds and smells, heat and textures, hates tags on clothes, any restrictive clothing, prefers to it on a flat stool to watch tv, or on coffee table, loves to touch everything, also has an amazing memory for details, I try and give him boundaries and set limits, when I do he asks me to calm down, and relax, my exact words to him when he is excited. Anyone else out there with a similar sounding child?
Oh I might add he is extremely social and is quite popular and well liked.
P.s he had his assessment at 5.7 he snow 6.7.

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Mary - posted on 01/27/2013

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I'm a little unclear about what you are asking....are you looking for other moms whose children have similar sensory and behavioral issues, or are you looking for suggestions about how to teach your son how to swim? Is his dislike of pools and the ocean related to his sensory issues (i.e the temperature of the water) or is it fear related to his inability to keep himself afloat?

A lot of children, with and without sensory/behavior issues, are terrified of large bodies of water. It's not an unrealistic fear, either, since being in a pool or ocean when you don't know how to keep yourself afloat can lead to drowning.

Have you tried swimming lessons with him? Based on what you said, I don't think your average group lessons would work; in fact, it may make him even more terrified and overwhelmed. If you look around, there are places that offer private lessons that will take the time and effort required to help your son acclimate himself to the water, overcome his fears, and eventually learn how to swim.

My own child has no fear of the water - in fact, she was the complete opposite. At 2.5, she was not only fearless in the water, but she wanted to be completely independent. In some ways, this was even worse, since this behavior was going to lead to her drowning. At 3, I tried some group lessons at a nationally recognized chain - and it was utterly useless. She had a lot of fun playing in the water with other kids, but the second the instructor was doing something with another student, she was off, trying to do things on her own, without the ability to keep her head above water. I did some extensive research, and found a private instructor. She worked with all types of students, of all ages especially those who were afraid of the water. The results were amazing. After 10 lessons, at the age of 3.5, my daughter could independently swim the width of the pool underwater. I also watched this instructor work with kids who were simply terrified of the water, and how, over time, she was able to work through their fears, and then start to work on teaching them breathing techniques and keeping themselves afloat.

I'm not sure if that was what you were looking for with your post - but if one of your goals is to overcome your child's fear of the water and teach him how to swim, I think a private swimming instructor is the way to go.

Elkewentzel - posted on 01/27/2013

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Oops! Sorry! I meant say; hates the pool and ocean but loves the bath!! It's 12 am here!

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