My 6 year old wont eat!

Robbin - posted on 03/17/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Okay Moms! I am in need of some serious advise!!! My 6 year old will not eat hardly ANYTHING!! We have done all we can think of! She has had to sit until she finshed, sent to bed at 5pm because she wont eat, been grounded and we are just at our wits end!! I have asked if her tummy hurts, if it hurts her to eat and or sallow...all answered no! I don't know what to do!!! Do I call the Doctor? Do I continue to fight with her? Do I just give here PB&J and Ceral, beacuse she will eat those things no problem??? I just don't know what to do!!! HELP!!

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Cyndi - posted on 04/05/2011

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My son is the same.it is driving me crazy.he is tall,and lanky.only eats nuggets,noodles,and steak.no veggies.only fruit cup no fresh fruit.I don't know what to do

Robbin - posted on 03/18/2010

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Thanks to you all for your help!! I will take everything in and try all! It means a lot that there has been so much help!! :)

Marci - posted on 03/17/2010

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I have 3 kids the oldest being 11 my middle one is 5 turning six in a few months. This is so normal my oldest went through it and my middle child is extremely picky, with my oldest I was afraid of him being malnourished so I asked the doctor and was told that as long as he is not losing alot of weight to not worry about it. I usually make my middle child a different meal than the rest of us, and yes at times it is a bowl of cereal he is healthy and so what if that is was makes him happy you will always hear different advise on this subject but honestly they grow out of it and their taste will grow with them as they mature my oldest ate nothing but pbj for what seemed like forever and now he eats everything that we do. So my advise is whatever makes you snd your child happy if you are ok with her eating cereal let her and dont let anyone make you feel badly about that and keep in mind she will grow out of it.

Candy - posted on 01/17/2013

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Been there before twice n going through it again for the third time. Answer is: Let them eat whenever n what ever they want basically. As long as they are eating something nutritious. I had my first two children to doctors, psychologists and nutritionists. They all told me that is was their age, and not growing that much, lasts till they are like 8-10 years old, then they will be getting seconds and eating u out of house n home. They are fine, yet u may feel a little more comfortable giving them a Flintstones vitamin, just to make you feel better. Hope this helps. Please never force a child to eat, that is what our parents did, yet it does not make it right, it will mess up a child's metabolism, then they will be overweight adults. Thank you, and GOD BLESS!!

Kimberly - posted on 03/17/2010

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I noticed with all three of my kids that they went through stages where they will either grow in height or gain weight. When they are gaining weight, you can't stop them from eating. When they are growing in height, their appetite will slack off.

Even if she doesn't eat, make it a rule that she has to sit at the table until everyone else is finished. If she has to sit a while she might change her mind. Make her plate, sit it in front of her and then turn your attention elsewhere. When she sees everyone eating it, she just might give it a try. If she doesn't, don't make special stuff just for her. Praise her if she does eat, but ignore it if she doesn't. She just doesn't get anything else for snack or treat if she asks for one.

If it is snack time, only offer good healthy things and only sweets as a treat if the good stuff was eaten.

And, as a former pain in the butt fussy eater, grounding and punishment won't work. Just made me more determined not to eat.

She won't starve and she'll eat when she's good and ready. The only time you need to worry is if she's losing weight.

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Ann - posted on 03/17/2010

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What they said on the Doctors was to eat in front of them as a family...enjoy your meal don't force anything on them and eventually they will be intrigued and want to have what you are having... now that being said your the mom and if your gut says something more is going on trust yourself!!

Stacey - posted on 03/17/2010

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don't stress out they will eat when they arte hungry. try getting her involved in cooking dinner or help in planning a meal or two. let her set the table, get her opinion on things. & as long as the cereal is healthy let her have it,she's not hurting anything as long as her weight isn't dropping. she also might be going thru a growing spurt, some kids stop eating when they start to grow. don't force her to eat since this can cause diet probs later in life, just remember PICK YOUR BATTLES. my oldest is 19, then 14 then 11 so been thru this....stop stressing she WILL eat it might be just a phase.just don't make it a battle of wills cause unfortunatly we as parents usually always loose...good luck

Iridescent - posted on 03/17/2010

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Sorry, I totally misunderstood then! Good job for sticking with it and looking for alternatives. Has she lost any weight? How is she on the growth chart? You can weigh and measure her at home and plot it if she hasn't had a recent appointment (https://www.nutropin.com/patient/3_5_3_growth_charts.jsp just enter the information for your daughter in the spaces). If not, relax a little! Next step would be to call the school. Does she eat breakfast at home or school? If it's at home, you already know what she eats. Ask the school how well she eats both breakfast (if applicable) and lunch, plus the snacks offered throughout the day. Our school has an afternoon snack only, but some are different. If she's eating those well, it's quite possible she's really not even very hungry at supper and in no real need.

Robbin - posted on 03/17/2010

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That is what I am saying! I don't want to start a bad habit, by giving in to the PB&J....I have not yet and I don't plan to. She does take maybe a few bites of whatever we are eatting, but its just not enough! I am going to try a reward chart and see if doing that will help her feel like she is in control!

Iridescent - posted on 03/17/2010

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Obviously, if she will eat the treats and the PB&J, you're offering them. Stop.

Robbin - posted on 03/17/2010

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We have tried all of the above!! That is why I am at a loss...She will eat the treats, the PB&J! But nothing else...she has always been a good eater until now! I don't want her to starve, but like you said I am not a short order cook! Do you think I should call the doctor?

Peita - posted on 03/17/2010

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My kids regularly don't eat what I cook!! They don't get anything extra or different to us, I don't have time to make other meals and I don't think I would if I had the time anyhow!! We are fine with fruit, but when it comes to veg and meat, there are fights! My 6yo boy will only eat potato, sausages, silverside and chicken, if he doesn't eat what is in front of him,then there is nothing else, if he eats everything, then it is treat time eg. ice-cream, popcorn, something they don't get all the time! Maybe this will work if you haven't tried it already! We don't always get to treat time, but it helps out a bit!

Katarina - posted on 03/17/2010

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My youngest sister went through the same exact thing. My mom would tell her that what she had in front of her was it. If she didn't want to eat it then, my mom would wrap it and give it to her later when she asked to eat. Maybe this would work for your little one. Don't give them options, you're not a short order cook.

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