My 6 years old son was humiliated

Renee - posted on 09/11/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi, I have a happy 6 year old son who is very excited to be in the 1st grade. He loves his teacher and loves his school. This is the second week of school. On 9/9/15 I picked him up early for a doctors appointment and I went about my normal routine of asking him how his day went. He replied it was ok but I got really embarrassed during lunch. I asked him why and he began to tell me while standing in the lunch line him and his friend were talking when the lunch aide approached him and removed him from where he was and took him further up the line to where a group of girls were standing and asked the girls to watch him because he talks a lot. He was devastated and so was I. I assured him that I would get to the bottom of it. The next day I made a verbal complain to the principal. Later that day I had not heard back from her so I sent her an email. About an hour later she called me and said she didn't want to send me an email and she thought by talking on the phone would a faster way of getting a hold of me. She proceeded to tell me that she investigated she asked my sons teacher if he appeared sad after lunch and his teacher responded no. She then spoke with the lunch aide regarding the situation and she denied what my son had told me she said the lunch aide told her that she separated the boys because it appeared they were behaving rambunctious. As a parent I have a serious concern regarding this situation. A six year old child will never fabricate a story like this unless it really did happened. Please help me with how to go about making a complaint with higher authority. I totally disagree with how the principal went about and concluded her investigation. I'm concern of my child's safety because this lunch aide still works at the school!!!!

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Sarah - posted on 09/11/2015

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Certainly she should not have instructed other students to supervise your son. However, like Dove and I pointed out it may be a difference in perspective:
Is it possible the aide said "I have a talker I need to put up here by you girls" or "can you watch this little chatterbox"? Were the girls older? To just stick him in line in front of other kids with no explanation would have been awkward and maybe even started up a "hey no cuts" argument. Could it have been handled better? Probably. Maybe he had gotten a warning already. There are always two sides to every story and somewhere in the middle is the truth.

Dove - posted on 09/11/2015

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I hate it when people make the same post multiple times... learn to check for your post before reposting it. Please. Anyway... my c&p from the other one.

Well... if you think a 6 year old isn't capable of fabricating a story I think you need to take a moment and step back from the situation.

Now... I'm not saying your son is lying, but his perception of the situation is not going to be the same as an adult's perception. You are afraid for his safety? Why? Did she beat him or lock him up? She didn't HARM him in any way. If he was talking too much in line and that was why he was separated... tell him not to talk so much in line and it won't happen again.

I'm not saying his feelings are not justified because if she did, in fact, use that wording then that is a bit harsh... but that's all it is... just a bit harsh. You need to let it go and help your son by enforcing appropriate behavior in school. IF a situation like this occurs again... then you can consider taking another approach.

Sarah - posted on 09/11/2015

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Moving your son to a different spot in line does not put him in danger. He may have a different perspective of what happened. If he and his buddies were talking and being a bit silly, I can see why a lunch aide would separate the kids. She may have brought him up to where the girls were to diffuse the situation, and offered the girls the reason that he was talking as justification for putting him in a different spot.
I really don't see the problem, the stories basically match. He was talking, maybe loudly, and the lunch aide moved him. I work at school, and 6 year old kids do make up tales all the time. Sometimes they are based in truth and details are left out or added, other times they are flat out lies. I am not calling your child a liar. I just don't see what the big deal is? His teacher said he was fine after lunch so it couldn't have been too traumatic.

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Renee - posted on 09/11/2015

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I don't have a problem with her separating the boys I have a problem with the comment she made to the group of girls in front of the 6 yr old. That's humiliating!!!

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