My 6 yr old daughter is still wetting the bed at night, so i have to put her in a pull up so she doesnt ruin her bed, i have tried everything i can think of to help her stop, but nothing works. anyone have any other ideas that i may not have thought of yet?

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Christina - posted on 01/24/2009

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My daughter is goning to be 8 in 2 weeks and she still has accidents at night ..  I find it is worse in the winter...    I have put the heat higher so she is warmer..  and some days are better than others...   She still wears a good night ..   Her peditrician said it was very common ...   and she will grow out of it ..    I just make sure her mattress is protected  and hope for the best..    She is a very deep sleeper which doesnt help either ..  GOOD LUCK

Tammy - posted on 01/23/2009

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desmopressin nasal spray was reccommended for my daughter when she was 5.

It worked great. Obviously you need to discuss this with your childs physician to see if it would work for you.

Jean - posted on 01/24/2009

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My doctor told me that it is something in the brain that triggers the "dry at night" and not to worry about it. It will happen. Her brain has to do it. Hope this helps??

Dr. Peggy - posted on 01/24/2009

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I second all those who have suggested seeing the doctor about this. My son could stay dry some times during the night and not others. He had trouble with day sometimes, too. Turned out his bladder would have intermittant spasms - the muscles would involuntarily squeeze out the pee. He had nothing to do with it. Medication and time fixed it. This is one of the things I still feel guilty about - I would get so mad at him and his "lack of control." Thank the Lord that children are resilient and can survive most of our mistakes.

Megan - posted on 01/24/2009

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If you have already ruled out a medical explanation. The bed wetting may be your child's reaction to the types of food she eats. Try cutting out refined carbohydrates, white flour and white sugar products. It could also be a deficiencie in B vitamin.

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Megan - posted on 06/13/2013

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I have a child who wet the bed nightly (often several times) until he was 8 years old. At first, I just invested in a couple pair of washable, waterproof underwearhttp://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... this webpage has lots to choose from in lots of different sizes even waterproof boxers. And used a waterproof sheet protectorhttp://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... to minimize the laundry.

At the age of seven the bedwetting began to chip away at his self esteem. We solved his bed wetting by using an alarm. A child who wets at night has a sleep pattern in which the brain does not react to the full bladder signal. The alarm gradually trains the child's brain to react. He went from being wet every single night to completely dry in about 6 weeks. The bed wetting alarm http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... has given us years of dry nights. Also, a new medical study at Wake Forest Medical Center found that undiagnosed constipation is a major factor in bedwetting as well. So you might want to get the book "Its No Accident" ...http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20/...

My child absolutely loved the children's book, Prince Bravery and Grace - Attack of the Wet Knights http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20/... . It is the story of a young prince who struggles with "the Wet Knights" and eventually defeats them by using an alarm. It's funny yet empathetic and gave him the understanding and motivation to end the bed wetting. The best advice for parents about how to stop bedwetting I found is the book, Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness, by Renee Mercer. Invest in the books-they make the process so much easier, then an alarm -its the best decision I ever made.www.braveryandgrace.com

Christina - posted on 01/24/2009

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My daughter is goning to be 8 in 2 weeks and she still has accidents at night ..  I find it is worse in the winter...    I have put the heat higher so she is warmer..  and some days are better than others...   She still wears a good night ..   Her peditrician said it was very common ...   and she will grow out of it ..    I just make sure her mattress is protected  and hope for the best..    She is a very deep sleeper which doesnt help either ..  GOOD LUCK

Tamara - posted on 01/24/2009

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i dont know if this will help or if you have already tryed this.  i just told my 6 year old that she was to big to be wetting the bed and she stopped. i just kept telling her that big girls get up to pee. she actually stopped peeing the bed after one night.

Meghan - posted on 01/24/2009

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My daughter was trained during the day and for a while at night however, she started wetting the bed again around age 3 1/2.  It was around the time her brother was born so we didn't worry until it started to become every night.  Then, her dentist expressed concern that her tonsils were large for her age.  The bottom line is that after several doctor visits etc. she had her tonsils and adenoids removed and her bedwetting stopped.  Her tonsils and adenoids were so enlarged that it was causing mild sleep apnea which is what caused the bedwetting.  My suggestion is to seek the advice of your pediatrician.  Good luck!

Kenya - posted on 01/24/2009

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My daughter is five.  She was potty trained by 2 1/2 but still wetting at night.  I finally talked to my mom about it and her answer was really simple "i know you probably don't want to get up at night, but start waking her every night and taking her to the toilet."  Well, I started setting the alarm for about 1am and getting her up - usually I wake up during the night myself so I will just get her up as well.  Other than having a physical or medical problem, I think this helps to "train" children to wake themselves up at night and go to the bathroom.

Shannon - posted on 01/24/2009

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I have just gotton my young daughter to potty train and I was wondering how to get her to wake up dry at night myself. we were always putting her in pull-ups only at night but my friend told me to wake her up. Before I would go to bed I would wake her up out of a deep sleep and put her on the potty sometimes she would go and sometimes not and when she did'nt I would show her we had the night light on in the bath room and she could go to the bathroom at any time. So far since trying this my daughter has woken up dry for a week and a half staight!! It's worth a try!

Charmaine - posted on 01/24/2009

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That is so amazing! My son is getting surgery to have his tonsils removed on MONDAY! Wow! This could be the cure. Waited 6 months for this appointment. Mmmm, I wonder why the pediatrician never mentioned anything about this?

Michelle - posted on 01/24/2009

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Does she snore? My Daughter did fine with training then her tonsils became so big that she wasn't getting a good nights rest and started wetting the bed. After we had her tonsils and adnoids removed it stopped. Just a thought.

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My 8yr old son wet the bed once in awhile till the age of 5-6yrs. About a year ago we found out that he is having seizures at night. One of the signs of seizures is bed wetting. She is probably fine but you should tell your dr. about it, just to be safe.

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I have a question for you...... Has she had her tonsils and adenoids removed by any chance. When I had my sons removed they asked me previously if he wet the bed. Well Ty does because he has downsyndrome and autism, but the interesting thing about it is, they possibly could be having a case of sleep apnea, if they are, the Dr. told me that the brain is too busy working to make sure the body breaths, that the brain basically misses the signal to let her know she has to pee... Where I guess in your sleep you would hold it. I found it very interesting. I don't know if this may be something going on. But signs to look for are snoring, not getting enough sleep even though you know she is. and well the bed wetting... Good luck.. Mom to Mom, AMY

Kelly - posted on 01/24/2009

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I had a bed wetter too. Stopped all fluids after 6 pm but we still have to odd accident until age 10.

Kristi - posted on 01/24/2009

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Have you consulted with your doctor?  I'm just curious because when I was little I had the same problem and I ended up having surgery to fix a small problem that I had.  Of course I was so young I don't remember exactly what the problem was, I just remember my parents telling me that I had bladder surgery.  I'm sure you've gone through all the basics, no liguid or large amounts of liguid the last hour or two before bed.  Hope that you are able to find your solution, my best advise is if your doctor doesn't have any answers then maybe find a second opinion. 

Rachael - posted on 01/24/2009

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My son used to do that until he was almost 8...nothing I tried worked and he was always very upset about it......you just have to keep encouraging her and letting her know that it is okay and it is not her fault.....one day, he just stopped....he was so excited.....hang in there!!

Crystal - posted on 01/24/2009

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Have you tried a night light path for here to follow to the bathroom? My daughter seems to love the christmas lights we did for her . .. . her room is in the basement and bathroom is upstairs and seemed to work well for us. May want to limit liquid consumption after 7pm or at least an hour before bedtime. Make sure she uses the pottly right before bed and also put a waterproof fitted mattress on the bed for her. Don't do the pull-ups she isn't going to stop wetting the bed unless she understands how uncomfortable the bed is if she dosen't go potty in the bathroom. Also maybe make her help clean up the mess . . . . she is old enough to help change sheets, blankets and even help you carry to laundry to start washing up. It may help her see what you have to go through when she wets the bed ??? Good luck!!

Jackie - posted on 01/24/2009

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also on the advice of my health visitor i woke my daughter up in the middle of the night and took her to the toilet so she would recognise the need to go whilst she was sleeping. hope this helps ;0)

Jackie - posted on 01/24/2009

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don't let her drink atleast hour before bed, and make sure she goes toilet before bed and try using those 'pampers bed mats'. i used them and after a few attempts they worked wonders. as putting a pull up on her is more or less the same as using a nappy and making her feel like a baby ( if ya know what i mean) it willtake a few gos but if you keep at it it will work eventually good luck :0) x

Erica - posted on 01/24/2009

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My son has a problem with bed wetting. The pediatrician gave me a pamphlet on a device it's like a pager that recognize when the bladder is full and it stimulates and the child wakes up and go to the restroom. I think it was called night hawk.

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Look up on the Internet for a "potty pager."  It may be different for girls but it worked wonders for my son.  It was the miracle cure!

Megan - posted on 01/24/2009

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I would cover the bed with that plastic mattress cover, that would save the bed! I also agree with Mandy Albone West let her pick out a set of sheets or a whole bed assembly... It worked for our 4 year old daughter when she was potty training! It was her "prize" for finally being potty trained night and day!

Andrea - posted on 01/23/2009

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First you have to ruke out any medical condition, a friends daughter had botox injections into her bladder that stopped her going to the loo so much. Try getting her up before you go too bed. Is she anxious or upset about anything? Limits drinks from about 4pm, check that the drinks she does have aren't irritating het bladder ie orange juice. In some cases it is a form of attention seeking, so when you do have to change the sheets keep conversation to a minimum.Reassure that you love her, during the day try to find out how she feels about it.



star charts worked for my son. Good luck!!!

Michelle - posted on 01/23/2009

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Im alittle curious..Has she worn pullups for along time? I have found with my kids and other family members whos kids have worn pullups, become pretty dependent on them. Its almost like there body don't get it. They don't train themselves to get up to go to the bathroom at night. My stepdaughter wore them forever. With her the one thing I started to notice was that in the morning instead of getting up and going to the bathroom right away, she would lay in bed because she was tired and pee then. You really have to be carefull. I never put my boys in pullups and they never had a bed wetting problem.Ya sometimes in the begining they did. I just think the old fashion way is the way every one should try first:) It is very possible that she really has a problem too. Let her wet the bed for awhile and use the waterproof sheet covers or even the underware that you put a plastic pair over top. I am pretty sure after awhile she will get sick of that feeling. One other thing too, I wouldn't talk alot about it with her because it could be away to get attention, positive or negative. You never know, there might be something emotional going on with her too like at school, sitter, friends who knows. Hope I helped a bit...

Sarh - posted on 01/23/2009

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Hi, I have not had this problem since my only child is still in diapers. Have you talked to her pediatrician? Some times their bladder is not "mature" enough or they just cant make it through the night.

Kathleen - posted on 01/23/2009

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My son is four and still wets the bed. He is such a heavy sleeper, he could fall asleep anywhere. It also runs in my family and is very common. There are websites where you can get special undies with an alarm that wakes the child. Look at those sites. They have a lot of info.

Michelle - posted on 01/23/2009

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Once any medical reason has been ruled out...



Bedwetting is very commonly related to stress or worry. And no amount of rewards or punishments will change it. Put a mattress cover on under the sheets to protect the mattress and try to not make a big deal of it *at all*. Just change the sheets, clean up and lay them back down with a hug and a kiss. Then really think about life from your child's point of view. Did it get worse when she started school? Is there anything going on in the family that she might be worrying about (remember kids make EVERYTHING about them, anything going on in the family or home is somehow their fault in their little minds)? Is she getting along with classmates? Any changes that might have left her feeling a little stressed?

Jeana - posted on 01/23/2009

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I went through this with 2 of my four kids. My almost 12 yr old finally stopped this past year. The doctor told me that it is more common than you think even alot of adults have this problem. You can give her medication but I chose not to give it to my daughter with the side effects it could cause Ill just get the pulls ups. Now my second is 7 and she is such a sound sleeper she just dont wake up. Doctor said he wouldn't give her medication even thou I didn't ask for it. She is still young and will out grow it just give it time. The medication would be good for a sleep over etc. but not something to give all the time anyways. Hope this helps

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Use a bedwetting alarm. Those things are absolutely fantastic. You pin the alarm onto their pajamas and clip the moisture sensor to their underwear. When they start to urinate, an alarm sounds and wakes them up.

One of my sons was 9 and still wetting the bed intermittently. He would go a month with no problems, then wet the bed three or so night running. We used an alarm, and it only took three instances of it going off before he was cured.

The parent has to get up and wake the child, though. Don't rely on just the alarm to wake them up.

Sonya - posted on 01/23/2009

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i would still talk to a doc about it too. I know i frustrated my mom until i was about 9 with bed wetting, did the whole wash my own clothes and bedding, the works....but then we found out i needed a small surgery to fix the issue, a urethrastricture i believe. something to keep in mind at least....

Heidi - posted on 01/23/2009

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Hi bit embarresing to admit but i bedwet until i was 12 so from a kids point of view i can say that nothing really works and that kids grow out of it as frustrating as it may be. my mum tried everything including the alarm thing and star charts but the truth is i just didn't wake for a wee. my nearly 4 year old seems to have the same problem out of nappies 2 years but nights can't go without yet. Patience and good luck

Hilja - posted on 01/23/2009

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Hi again, having the kids put their laundry in the washer was not a punishment. There was no shame involved either. It was the same as when I ask them to pick up their room, help set the table or do any chore for that matter. I feel it acceptable to have them contribute with the laundry if there is no shame or punishment involved with it.

As was suggested talk to your child's doctor or nurse to rule out anything other potential causes.

Hilja - posted on 01/23/2009

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Hi, I have two girls who were potty trained right away at 2 years old and two boys that were 7 years old and 12 years old. Of course, there were many nights for the boys where they were dry. I found out that nothing (less water, going to the bathroom right before bed, bla, bla, bla) helped and I was not willing to put my children on medication.

I did talk to a pediatric nurse that helped me put it into perspective in that it is a physical development and not anything about their will power. They will stop doing it when they stop doing it. What helped me as well was to have my sons put their own laundry into the washer and help or make up their own beds with new sheets. Keep new ones right by them, so they have easy access. I was getting so upset with washing sheets. Yes, rubber sheets, pads and pull-ups were a must. In hindsight I would have put less energy into wanting to pull my hair out about more laundry to do and more into changing my attitude and thinking this is just something this child has to go through and it will be over one day. Easier said than done though. :)

Sandra - posted on 01/23/2009

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Make an appointment with her pediatrician and have her checked out first. Sometimes it's a physical thing. Assume she doesn't like wetting the bed anymore than you do. Make sure she's getting enough sleep, sometimes kids sleep so deeply that they don't wake up. Limit fluids after dinne and make sure she goes before going to bed. Have allergies checked too, irritation of the bladder can cause issues.



Give her lots of encouragement and know she's not the lone ranger. I'm not in agreement with the laundry washing suggestion because that suggests that she is at fault and no child at 6 'wants' to wet the bed unless there's other psych problems and behavioral issues going on.



Talk to your doctor and good luck, it will end at some point and hopefully you both emerge with a great close relationship.

Mandy - posted on 01/23/2009

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My son wet the bed till he was 12. It was horrible for him as well as me. There is a medication that kids can take. I found that it worked somewhat for my son but not 100%. I really think he was a severe case tho. I know other children that have taken it and it worked miracles. They would give it to their children when they went on sleepovers and over nights. My son needed it every night.The medication is called DDAVP it comes in a spray that that you put in the nostril or pill form that you would swallow. Also i am not sure where you are from but we have what is called a bed wetting clinic in our city. Basically the dr there recommended a machine that you put on your child that has a little alarm so it wakes them when they begin to pee. This would then i guess kind of train them to wake on their own. Hope i was of some help the best advice is to contact your family doctor and ask about what you can do.

Mandy

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well first off make sure she has nothing to drink for at least an hour before bed.. and have her go potty before she goes into her room... have a cute night light for her in the bathroom in case she does get up to go.. and take her to the store and let her pick out her own sheets that she loves and some underpants that she loves that she herself got to pick out that she wont want to pee on and ruin..

either that or the old fashioned child labor of letting her wash all the laundry that gets soiled haha.. no dont do that.. but also in the meantime they make waterproof mattress covers i have one for my son.. its like a fitted sheet but its vinyl.. and goes under the sheet.. its a lifesaver..

hope this helps.

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