my 7 has hard time making friends.

Liz - posted on 07/04/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My 7 year old daughter has a hard time making friends that are nice to her. She is bigger than most kids her age. It broke my heart. She said that her doll she carries around all the time is more than just a doll to her it is her only friend.

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Chet - posted on 07/05/2014

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If she has had friends in the past this is probably a "dry spell" and it will pass. The issue probably isn't that she lacks social skills, or isn't likeable, but that she just hasn't found the right kids yet. Some children are the sort to form deep relationships with a small pool of friends, and those special friends can take time to find.

It can also be difficult to make friends at activities you only attend once a week, or in large groups. Maybe look for an activity that meets more than once a week or that meets in a smaller, more intimate group. You might be able to find something like that now since it's the summer and there should be lots of special-interest day camps and workshops running. Something non-completive would probably be best.

Also, try to relax a little. If you're wound up about this she may feel pressure to find friends. You don't want her to feel like she's a social failure in your eyes.

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Liz - posted on 07/07/2014

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Thanks Courtney. It sure is hard to see your kids struggle. Their pain is your pain but I think it hurts me more to just her struggling.

User - posted on 07/07/2014

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It's hard watching your child struggle making friends. But she'll find her way :)

Liz - posted on 07/05/2014

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I'm not wound up I just get irritated when the friends she does have that go to the same church as us treat her wrong. I try to teach her to be a good Christian towards all people and when they treat you bad just to keep being nice to them. I have her going to a church camp at the end of July.she'll have a cabin with just a couple girls her age do I hope she will have some fun there and make some good friends. Thanks for the advice.

Liz - posted on 07/04/2014

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Sorry I using my phone I ment she has a huge heart. I just not sure what to do it almost seems the do called friends she does have treat her mean cause their jealous I don't know what about though and If that is really why it just seems like it by the vibe I get

Liz - posted on 07/04/2014

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Hi Chet. I have put her in basketball. Church gatherings. Anything I can find that she is interested in I put her in. She had had friends before they were really good with her but they moved away. She is mature for her age and she has a huge great. She is very sensitive though especially about her weight but we are trying to work on that with zumba and swimming.

Chet - posted on 07/04/2014

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What opportunities does she have to make friends? Does she know children outside of her school? Has she had friends in the past? Do you think it bothers her?

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