Brandy - posted on 02/02/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )
This may be an odd post but I am not sure where else to look for advice so I am hoping this helps :) I have a 7 year old little girl and she is my world. Me and my fiance have different opinions on discipline. I would rather take the softer approach and do the time out chair, take away her electronics, no TV, etc.. and he is more old fashion and says after the 3rd or 4th time, she needs to get a spanking and sent to her room. I have got defensive for so long,when he did actually follow through with the spanking, she doesn't show me much respect but she is a mommy's girl big time and very over protective of her mommy. I am now working on following through whenever she does something wrong...she is a little hyper so it's constant calling her name. Over the weekend, me and her father had an argument. She did not see us arguing but did hear it. I thought she was asleep but apparently note. It was nothing physical and never has been, just simply an argument. Today, I get a call from the CPS stating they needed to see me and my home and talk to us and then talk to my daughter alone. I asked my daughter if she had talked to her guidance counselor and she said she did because the counselor keeps taking her out of the classroom and asking about our home life. She stated that she told her about her daddy and I having an argument over the weekend. A few weeks back, I got a call that a little girl was being bullied by my daughter, the teacher called me and wanted to "let me know" that she was sending a behavior report home and she would have to "alter" it a little. Of course I read it and it was stating that my daughter never listens and bullies this little girl every day, saying that she has hit the girl on numerous occasions and also has yelled in her face with inappropriate comments ( which never has been told to me) and then in the meantime, my daughter says the little girl is bullying her first that is why she takes up for herself. I refused to sign the document and was not going to allow that to be put on my daughters school record if it does it this young. I can see where her being hyper can annoy the teachers but I felt like it went a little far when I did not get any call or even a request for a meeting to confirm or deny any suspicions. Can anyone offer me any advice on my rights as a parent in North Carolina so I can make sure my daughter is protected as well? I already feel like my character is defamed somewhat because of CPS being called. My family owns a local business and we know the school personnel very well. Even have a few of the office workers as my neighbors. Am I over reacting or just feel betrayed maybe because I feel like they could have asked me about what happened before assuming something did? I also apologize for writing such a long post, just wasn't sure how to put it.