My 7 year old wearing my lingerie and Pumps

Brenda - posted on 10/26/2012 ( 18 moms have responded )

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Hi,



I am a single mom with a 7 year old at home. Recently I found him dressing in my lingerie and pumps. I am very concerned. He has not had a lot of male exposure, it is just the 2 of us a lot. I don’t want to embarrass him but at the same time am wondering if he will grow out of this? Thoughts from all of you?



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William - posted on 09/25/2013

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We make way to much out of nothing. Leave the boy alone if the lingerie stays with him for over 3 years then he has a thing for it and you should accept the fact that he likes it talk with him let him know its ok to have feelings and some feeling are stronger then others. and that he if feeling his first attraction to lingerie it does feel good its the fabrics that give us the pleasure and the images of women in our minds now this is the fun part is he thinking he is the woman in his mind or is he a guy when he is master bating in it... as for me i want to be a girl so i did it... the best thing to do it talk and calm talk buy him some panties ask him if he wished he was a girl help him makeup his mind in life don't shut it out by not talking about it . I wished my mom had asked me i would be a girl now and not a 50 year old man wishing he had a redo in life.

Tasha - posted on 10/27/2012

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I too am a single mother of a male child 5yr old. I know that it is not uncommon for them to find creative forms of play. My son does not have much male exposure either and has me and an older sister in the home. In my opinion playing dress up is not an issue but doing it with lingerie and pumps in my opinion is not appropriate for a little boy. Honestly, I would not even allow my daughter to dress up in lingerie at that age just because those items are not considered play clothing to me. I agree with buying him costume type clothing for dress up play if he really likes it.You don't want to send the wrong message that it is ok for boys to dress in women clothing, although our society endorses that. The other side of it is that it may open him up to ridicule as a school aged child if he ever mentions that he play dress up with mommy's clothes at home. I have to say follow your heart on this, if your not comfortable with his response during dress up come up with an alternative form of play for him.

Jazmyne - posted on 10/26/2012

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Hmm I tried to PM you as well. There seems to be a glich in the messaging system. I will send an email to let them know of the situation.

Brenda - posted on 10/26/2012

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Jazmyne I must be to new to private message because it wont let me do that to you? Not sure

Jazmyne - posted on 10/26/2012

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Like he was hypnotized? (I respect that this may not be for here, however it's a little hard to give advice without the proper knowledge) Maybe PM me if you would like to go into further information otherwise I would have to say bring him to a dr.

Brenda - posted on 10/26/2012

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You two have been helpful thus far, the thing that concerns me though is what was taking place while he had my nightie and pumps on...thus i am not convinced he should be wearing them....

Jazmyne - posted on 10/26/2012

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Well if you don't want the nighty torn or spilled on, then maybe say "that is mommy's but you may dress up in this" and offer him something similar (maybe an older nighty that you wouldn't mind being ruined or a sundress perhaps.) Or it is getting closer to holloween, so maybe find a costume or 2 on sale and let him have at it.

Holly - posted on 10/26/2012

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i would say yes... there is nothing wrong with it... but perhaps buy him so other male dress up items, like a fire fighter, ninja, police officer, cowboy. that way maybe he'll want to dress up in other things as well. for the mean time, let him dress up if he wants, perhaps he saw it as a "fancy dress" and thought he looked funny in it.

Brenda - posted on 10/26/2012

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I understand that Holly and Jazmyne, however he was in one of my satin nighties....do i just leave him go for now in it? Your help is most appreciated

Holly - posted on 10/26/2012

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i am sure he will grow out of it... he probably wants to play dress up.... but the only clothes he has are yours....

Jazmyne - posted on 10/26/2012

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Most children his age play dress up. I think it's perfectly acceptable. As long as it's in your own house and he isn't going to say Wal*mart like that then I'd say let him be.

When my brother and I were younger he used to dress up and put makeup on all the time. We even had a game we called 'big sister, little sister' He turned out fine. :) (he's 23 now)

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