My 7 yeat old won't stop pooping in her pants

Alison - posted on 10/22/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 7 year old daughter refuses to go poo at school. If she can't hold it in she will just simply poo in her pants. If anyone has any suggestions for me please I'm begging you. I have tried taking things away from her and not allowing her to play other her toys etc. Nothing is working. Please I really need some help. She did this with peeing too and I finally got her over that but this one I can't seem to. I just don't know how to get her to stop


Jodi - posted on 10/22/2015




Rather than punish her, how about find out why she doesn't want to go and would rather poop her pants. It has to be embarrassing for her, so I'm sure there is a particular reason she is struggling with. Once you know the reason she won't go, you may be able to help her resolve it. Please don't punish her - that won't help and could make things worse, especially if there is an anxiety problem.

Joseph - posted on 11/05/2015




I used to do that as a kid, it stemmed from the teacher opening the door on me. A string of events actually, usually at home I could go to the bathroom whenever the need took; at school however, you must ask for permission and that took confidence to cause attention to yourself from the rest of the class and initiating with the teacher.. and since I would not do that or felt shy or unwilling to engage with others, I'd just give myself permission. Since I was then missing from the class, the teacher opened the door to the restroom in panic and embarrassed me. Now that's a tad extreme case, it could be something as a single embarrassing time something along these lines.

I think it would really help to instruct her the proper course of action to go to the restroom, possibly you know--some private secret way of queing the teacher in urgently to the problem, a green-card to bring to attention rather than all of that that I experienced in 1995. It's a lot for a 5-year-old to handle.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/22/2015




What is the teacher's policy about restroom use? Have you spoken with the teacher?

Defecating is hard...especially when you're not in a 'comfort' zone (home). She needs to understand that her body doesn't stop working just because she doesn't want to recognize her need to go.

Work with the teacher. They're usually very helpful in getting the kids into a more comfortable 'zone' with these things, and once they're aware that she's holding, rather than using the restroom, they will be able to assist.


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