my 7 yr old girl back chat please help

Pip - posted on 09/07/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Our 7 yr old girl seems to be a perfect Chad at school and with other people but as soon as either myself or my husband appears she changes!!!! She doesn't do as we ask,if we say no to something she asks again and again.if she doesn't get her own way or it doesn't go how she wants it to she cries.she also hits and pinches me.

Please I need help as to how we can change all of this behaviour as it is stressing me out

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Lisa - posted on 09/07/2013

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My daughter's 7 month old has started doing that, too. She has had to start taking her two fingers and giving him a pat with the "No." He definitely is paying more attention and is learning quickly that there are boundaries. For her own safety, you have to be able to get her to take you seriously. Removing the temptation is a short-term fix but there is no long-term growth for the future. She understands SO much more, even at this age, then you can imagine.

Kailie - posted on 09/07/2013

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she used to listen when we said no but now she ignores us and laughs when we say it

Lisa - posted on 09/07/2013

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Kallie, That is a good plan but there will come a day, and probably very soon, when it will be necessary to teach your baby the meaning of "No." Just be consistent and things will go much more smoothly!

Lisa - posted on 09/07/2013

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We have experienced some of this with our children. The best thing that worked was the, "Ask twice and you will NEVER get it," policy. She will not believe you, at first. She will have to miss out on something that she really wants but it WILL sink in. When you tell her no, MAKE SURE YOU MEAN IT and NEVER, NEVER, NEVER (not even one time, even if she is being perfect) change your "NO" to a "Maybe" or an "OK." One time of giving in to being nagged or begging will undo ALL of your hard work and you will have to start all over (and it will be 5 times as hard because she knows you broke once so you will break again). When she asks for something, pause, consider whether your answer needs to be "No," and then give your answer. Then say, "and if you ask me for juice again, there will be nothing to drink for the rest of the night." "No, and if you ask me, again, to stop at McDonalds, we will not go to McDonalds for the rest of the week." You get the point. She knows that her teachers mean what they say but you and your husband have been wishy washy. You should never say "Maybe" or "We'll see" until you have this problem solved. She needs only yes or no, and then STICK TO IT!!

Kailie - posted on 09/07/2013

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my 9 month old is already doing that but i dont give her what she wants sometimes i distract her with something else and just play with her and if that doesnt work (but usually it does) sometimes i just have to let her cry until she tires herself out or gets over it herself

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