My 7yr old daughter argues with me and i need help!!!

Liz - posted on 04/02/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone,

I am new here and i am desperatly in need of help. I am a single mom to a beautiful 7 yr old girl but since 7 months, things have been getting pretty ugly.
My daughter and i constantly argue, iTS our everymorning routine when shes getting ready to school.
Everything i say has to either be a debate, an argument or an irritating conversation. She Will not listen to me, if she asks question and i reply....iTS " no mom, your wrong" iTS almost Every conversation. She is extremely stubborn. She tells me what to do and how to do them...even how i Should purnish her.
This has become a depression for me and i cant stand her, lost all patience with her and i hate myself for it. I am always exhausted....
Please please someone experiences THE same? I want my daughter back. We were so close and i Miss that

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Chana - posted on 04/02/2015

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I gave you a compliment for cry it out loud. Can't you even take that without being mean and hateful?

Chana - posted on 04/02/2015

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Although Jelly is our resident troll she has a valid question. If your daughter is stating her opinion it is one thing if she is just being argumentative it is something different. If it is her opinion, agree or disagree, you should try to understand it. That does not mean that you have to let her do it, you are still the parent and it is your job to guide her in the right direction. At 7 years old her opinions more than likely come from friends, television, media, etc. not necessarily something she has thought threw. If she is being argumentative then that is something else that needs addressed. Why is she being argumentative? Is she being bullied at school or is there something going on that she doesn't know how deal with so she is taking out on you. If that is the case than maybe try sitting down and calmly talking to her because there is more than likely an underlying reason why she is being argumentative. Bottom line here is you are the parent and it is your job to parent her to the best of your ability. That does not mean letting her tell you what to do and how to do it. OK she may be stubborn but you need to set limits and consequences for her actions. Let her know that the behavior is not acceptable and what the consequences(grounding, taking away something, loss of privileges, etc.) are going to be for when the behavior occurs. In the end just love her it is tough being a kid today.

Bella - posted on 04/02/2015

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They're children. Children doesn't understand and think like an adult does. It's our job to make them understand that with love not anger. They're gonna grow up using the same example in their life that we gave them when they were a children.

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