My 7yr old has trouble making friends in first grade!! HELP

Maria - posted on 09/05/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My son has a late birthdate and he is also very mature for his age..he grew up mostly surrounded by adults as he is the only child. This year he started 1st grade. New teacher and new classmates...we are on our third week into school and he told me last week when I asked him how school was he told me that it wasnt such a great day. He said everything was ok except recess. He said no one wanted to play with him and so he just walked around the playground by himself. :( It broke my heart to hear him say that...so I told him not to let one kid ruin his day...if one wont play maybe another will..so the next day he came home and said he asked kids to play and they said no..but he heard my voice in his head say "dont let it ruin your day" and he said he didnt let it ruin his day....but he still walked around byhimself the entire recess. This week I told him to try and make friends and not obsess only on one cartoon character....see the thing is he is really into Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and the other kids are not so my son wants to play Ninja Turtles and the other kids want to play Pokeman or Ninjagos..so I told him that friends take turns playing and that it wouldnt always be what he wanted to play. So he grasped this concept and put it into play this week he asked a kid to play and asked him what he wanted to play...the kid said pokeman and my son played with him...he came home happy that he had someone to play with. I did however tell him that he does not have to change what he likes so that people like him he just has to consider other peoples desire to play different things.. so I told him to take turns playing different things. What else can I do for him to help him or prepare him to better handle this

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Maria - posted on 09/05/2012

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Thanks, I hate to see my little guy sad!! breaks my heart!! hopefully these next couple of weeks are filled with great news!!

Michelle - posted on 09/05/2012

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you did exactly the right thing it takes at least a month for kids to settle into their new routine and develop friendships once he has developed those friendships then the taking turns at what you play works great.

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