My 8 month old is having increasing temper tantrums

Kathy - posted on 01/06/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My 8 month old son is having more and more temper tantrums to get his way. If we take things away from that he should not have he will fall out. I am not sure how to handle this. I don't want to just let this keep sliding by or letting him think this is OK. I will let him cry and walk away but still not sure if that is the right thing to do. Could use some advice on this matter.



Ok Let me re-phrase my baby boy who is 8 months old seems to throw himself on the floor and kick, scream and grunt when we take things that would cause him harm away. I do realize he is a baby but when does letting him know that kicking screaming and swinging fists is not ok when something that will cause him harm is taken away? Does he have to be 2 or 3 years old before correcting behavior is Ok?

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Paula B - posted on 04/08/2014

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omg dont completely ignore him!

read this

Sandy Bailey
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Hold her, tell her she'll be okay, and distract her with another activity or object. She'll quickly forget about her complaints.

Babies have an amazing — and often aggravating — ability to make demands. But your baby needs to know that you care about her feelings, even when she expresses them by screaming or flailing her fists. It may look like she's throwing a fit, but she's really seeking reassurance. As long as you stick with your original decision — for instance, that she can't play with the remote control — no one can accuse you of "giving in." You're just giving her what she needs.

One of the best approaches to tantrums is to avoid them as much as possible. Pay attention to your baby's cues and try to anticipate her desires. You can reduce her frustration even more by giving her a safe place to explore where you won't constantly have to tell her no.

Screaming comes naturally to babies, and you can't force her to keep her temper. Spanking, swatting, and yelling are especially unhelpful. Your baby will only become more unhappy and distressed. If you're feeling angry, it's okay to put her in a safe place, like a play yard, and let her scream and cry until you have a chance to calm down. She can't have everything she wants, but she has to be able to count on you for comfort.

Abbie - posted on 01/07/2010

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A child has a melt down every 20 minutes on average.So tha tsounds pretty normal to me, also teaching him sign lauguage to communicate with you, will help him to be not so frustrated. And no it won't effect his speech later it will actually make him talk better. But if he shouldn't have it, then take it away, but distract him. He has the phone, take it away make him laugh give him a toy. It will get better. Remember the bigger the deal you make of it the more he will pick up on that.

Sandy - posted on 01/06/2010

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You have to stop this at an early age. let them kick,cry and swing..They will learn soon enough. DONT give in, sometime you may want to give in but you have to stand your groung and soon enough he will see that it's not working and stop.

Ashley - posted on 01/06/2010

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I taught my daughter no no and yuck. That way when she is doing something wrong or messing with something that could be harmful to her she knows to not touch or to leave it alone...Its kinda like a game, she even laughs sometimes but she leaves it alone. if they throw temper tantrums dont acknowledge it because thats what makes them do it even more. He will eventually learn that he cant get your attention that way and that it wont change your mind on letting him have his way. The only thing i would strongly suggest is no popping him on the hand because that will just teach him to hit. i learned that real quick when i was popped back by my 1 year old.

Kiala - posted on 01/06/2010

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i think just as soon as they know they can kick & scream & act crazy to get their way is as soon as they will know when mommy puts me in my crib & walks away im in trouble.My daughter was doing that very young also but i take her to work so i could over react b4 she could walk i would just but her in her crib in a back room & let her slef sooth, just as fast as you made yourself cry you need to be able to calm yourself down. now i just say go to your romm until your done crying, & she'll walk in there & fall out until she's done. Its hard to let your kid just cry but sometimes you really just have to let them learn to control the attitude. because kids these days are alot smarter than they used to be at such young ages. (dont put it past them) if you are willing to teach them, they will learn anything.

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Kiala - posted on 01/06/2010

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If you dont correct it now, he'll be 3 and it will be worse & you'll just be trying to get a handle on the fits hints (thats where that nanny 911 & super nanny shows come from) parents let these little kids control whats going on in the house because they're just babies or he's only a kid!!! Its easier to teach a child something when they are first learning than it is once they've made it a habit.

Jennifer - posted on 01/06/2010

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You are doing great! If you are worried that he might hurt himself during a tantrum, try placing him in a pack-n-play w/out any toys just until he regains control. I don't think he has to be 2 or 3 to learn limits.

Genevieve - posted on 01/06/2010

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My daughter isnt that old yet, but I remember with my sister's kids that I would just let them cry a bit. I didnt let them get away with things that they were doing wrong. Dont feel bad for letting him cry for a bit. It helps them relieve. Sometimes they just get overstimulated and dont know how else to express it.

Joanna - posted on 01/06/2010

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your 8 month old? It's called being a baby. I wouldn't think he's trying to get his way (do they even know how to do that so young), I think he's trying to communicate what he wants/needs.

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