My 8 month old won't let me sit him down without screaming...any advice?

Cayda - posted on 02/04/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I'm a first time mom and don't know if this is normal or not. My mother says it's not. That he should be more independent by now. I'm a stay at home mom and have a lot that I need to get done everyday, so as you can imagine, this is very difficult. He'll play on his own for about 5 minutes if he's on the floor but if I put him in his port-a-crib (so I can leave the room if needed, clean floors, do dishes, etc) he screams. I've cleaned the house, only once, as I'm not sure I can bare it, and he's screamed the ENTIRE time. From start to finish. Over an hour of screaming. But it needed to be done and he wouldn't let me do it. Keep in mind that I'm in a wheelchair, so I can't carry him in a harness or anything AND clean/do chores, etc. Don't get me wrong, I love quality time with my boy, but momma's got some stuff to get done too. xD

I do appreciate any advice :)

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Sarah - posted on 02/04/2014

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For his age that is pretty normal. Sometimes it is ok to let him cry for a bit. But another thing you may want to try to do is reschedule your cleaning time. Instead of trying to get it all done in one day maybe do certain things on certain days. Then instead of trying to get things done when your son is wake try doing some of the chores while he sleeps. Laundry might be one of those things you can do while he is up. Tending to the washer or dryer does not take too long and if he fusses during that time you are away it is ok. Then bring that laundry basket to where he is at to fold the clothes. Putting away the clothes could maybe wait until he is asleep (except the ones that might go in his room). Cleaning the floors might be a chore to just focus on during nap times. If you are able to get all the floors done before nap time is over that could be what is on the schedule for chores that day. If it takes you longer then do certain floors on certain days. As he gets older it will gets easier in some ways. He will be able to self entertain better, but he will also start to get more mobile too. At that time it might be good to allow him to "try" to help with certain chores.

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Sarah - posted on 02/04/2014

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You are doing fine Cayda. It just takes trial and error and a lot of patients :) Each child is different and there are going to be challenges with each one. I have 3 kids and still have not figured it out. What works for one does not always work for the next. All moms with a little one knows how you feel. It is hard and you feel like everything revolves around your son's schedule. My youngest is 2 1/2 yrs old and I remember that time. I had a short window of time to get ALL my stuff done. Now I am able to do more things while my daughter "helps" me out. It sometimes takes me longer to get things done, but I can at least be doing the work I need to get done. Hang in there. Soon you will be making the chore list for your son to do while you sit back and take the nap. ;)

Cayda - posted on 02/04/2014

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Thank you Sarah! I've tried the nap time thing, but unless we hold him while he naps, he wakes up within about 10-15 minutes. He sleeps fine at night though, which is what get's me. So I've got to get him sleeping on his own for naps too I guess. I feel like I've gone about this parenting thing all wrong lol

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