Megan K - posted on 02/24/2014 ( 14 moms have responded )
I just got custody back of my little girl on February 8th 2013, she was living with her father since she was 2 1/2. He didn't take very good care of her. He was in several polymory relationships (living/sleeping with more than one woman). My daughters home there was unsanitary and just down right not for children. My daughter told me she was forced to be in her room the whole time she was there when she wasn't there she was at school or sitters. The school and I were always in contact my daughter would go to school in nasty clothes and she was always dirty. I supplied her school with clean clothes every other week and body wash shampoos as the teachers and nurses would wash her every day. My girl was slapped by her dads different girlfriends and barely fed. In July of 2013 she was shown an adult porn because she heard her father and one of the girls having sex so he showed her what sex was. How I found that out was on my bday her dad dropped her off to me and as soon as he left she told me she knew what sex is and heard her dad doing it. As my stomach turning she told me details of the ways the guy n girl laid n the guy put his Weiner in girls cooch and in her butt. After hearing that and fighting the tears I called cps and done statements with them and state police county sheriff etc. The courts done nothing but on Monday before Xmas her father got dwi with her in the car and that automatically gave me custody.
ok now for my problem with her. She defies me all the time she never wants to listen she yells screams at me when she gets mad she either hits kicks or throws stuff at me. I've used every disciplinary action in able to. Taking things away for long periods of time I've grounded her I've totally cleaned room out I've done time out I've done corner time no tv time no screens no games, no going anywhere and I've also spanked her all she does is laugh at me get in my face and tells me she hates me after I punish her. I really don't know what to do. I have her in counseling and I'm in counseling plus we in family counseling as I have a 2 year old daughter as well and my fiance has 3 children that my girl is mean to. My fiance has been a great father figure to my girls both but she is so hateful towards us. She has to call her dad and beg him to get her on his weekends. She thinks I am bad cause I took her from her father. Please help me I don't know what else to do. Oh the worst thing she has done to me besides hitting is I told her no Ds in car as we only had to go down road and I went in bathroom with the baby to give bath and I heard her outside the door banging on it yelling she wished I was dead then I looked wen she was done and there were holes in door and my step son said she was stabbing the door with a knife.. That happened when she still lived with her dad.