Sarah - posted on 08/13/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
My daughter is almost 8 and in 3rd grade. I work and so does my husband. I have always tried to strike a balance between discipline and love, be consistent (as much as anyone can in this world), and lately it's like she's a stranger. She agrees with nothing I say, her behavior and manners are going completely out the window and I have no idea what to do. I keep trying to talk to her -- she is very well spoken and mentally much older than 7 (emotionally of course she is still 7) and everyone on this planet finds me easy to talk to except my own child. I don't even want to ask "is this normal" because I can honestly remember going through this with my own mother -- she used to always get fussy with me and ask "what's with the attitude?" and I never understood why she was always asking that because I didn't realize I had an "attitude" and I am running into this with my daughter now. I have always been one to emphasize "please and thank you, addressing your elders as sir and ma'am, etc" and it was never a problem but I get so tired of correcting her actions and behavior -- how can I help guide my daughter into a respectful human being without losing her? I swear lately she looks at me like I am the scum of the earth. She has a stable, 2-parent home, goes to a good school and is very loved. She's never had to go without. Help me be a parent and not lose my little girl. I understand there is a fine line you have to walk, you have to be a parent and not a friend, etc. but I want her to know she can talk to me. I respond well to "shocking" things, mature things she is expoed to through her friends and school, Im a reasonable enough human being... HELP!!!
I feel like when we talk all I do anymore is correct her "tone" or remind her to ask for something instead of saying I WANT this" or "Give me that". I grew up in New York and a lot of people up north are ok with their kids talking like that but in the south there is a heavy emphasis on respect and manners. which she's never had a problem with. Do I just say hell with it and let her talk like that??? Hey mom I want juice is not a proper way to ask for something and she knows that. I know a lot of parents will answer to that but I never have. Throwing up your arms and saying "what the heck did I do" is not how a young lady talks. We have also never been big "TV" people. We read a lot and play games, ride bikes etc. but god forbid she starts watching Jesse or any of those other teenage shows on Disney or Nickelodeon she takes on the snarky attitude of the characters like a sponge. What's a mom to do? What do you tolerate? Do you change your disciplinary metohds and just throw out te way you've parented her whole life>? HELP ME other moms!!!