My 8 year old son is always daydreaming in class

STEPHANIE - posted on 06/11/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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From Pre-K to 3rd grade my son's teachers always complain about the same thing. They say my son is moving slow, daydreaming, not eating his food, taking a long time to finish his school work ,etc. All of this is true and I'm out of ideas on how to fix it. I've tried to talk to him but that hasn't worked. I'm afraid he might fail 3rd grade. Please help me.

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Priscille - posted on 06/17/2015

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Hi Stephanie,

Teachers are quick to complain about children who don't fit the mold. And I don't blame them as they have to deal with a class full of them and this is much easier done when they follow the guidelines set for them.

Because this has been ongoing, it's probably best to check with a specialist that everything is okay. But, personally, I don't think that your son needs fixing.

In fact, daydreaming has been shown to bring a lot of value towards creativity and learning as well as develop memory and social skills. Amy Fries has a very interesting article on the subject on Psychology today called "How daydreaming help children process information and explore ideas". And Joseph Stromberg also wrote an article called "The benefits of daydreaming" on Smithsonian dot com.

In fact most of the time, it's not the daydreaming in itself that is causing problems but the outcomes of this daydreaming, like taking too much time to complete a task or grades not being as good as the teachers would like them to be.

You mention that you are running out of ideas, so I'm guessing that you've tried many things before posting this. I'm not sure if you've tried this strategy but what I would do if I were you is figure out what motivates your son and use this to help him with having better outcomes with his work and being quicker to do things. When he does do things quicker, what drives him? When he manages to finish a task on time, how does he do that? Be a detective for clues and use those clues to motivate him for tasks that he is less good at like eating his food or finishing his homework.

Doing this at home and helping him figure out strategies might certainly impact on how he functions at school too.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/16/2015

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He needs to be evaluated by a pediatrician. This has been going on for up to 5 years. If the school thought that they would be able to assist, most would contact you, at least if you are in the US. Since you say that they have been communicating with you throughout: "From Pre-K to 3rd grade my son's teachers always complain about the same thing. ", they are trying to tell you that you need to have him evaluated, as I said for an attention disorder or something else. This is not done by the school district, they are not certified to diagnose such conditions. This is done by a pediatrician and whomever else that pediatrician recommends

Louise - posted on 06/11/2015

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Hi there,
Have you tried taking your 8 year old son to see a Therapist? Depending on where you live there are quite a few Community Centres that offer Free Therapy for children and parents. Talk to the School Principal and check with this person if there are resources for you to get some answers and some HELP for your son. Without knowing your son it's almost impossible to determine why he is behaving the way he is. There could be many factors. He could be bored in class, either because he's very smart or he could be preoccupied as a result of some emotional issue. If he takes a long time to finish his school work he may need one on one help. He may not be able to keep up with the class average, if this is the case, you could try spending more time with him at home doing school work with him. He may have low self-esteem if he can't keep up with his peers.
If he is eating slow maybe there's an eating disorder? Is he physically ok, can he digest his food properly. Maybe there's something wrong with him physically. Take him for a check up to see a paediatrician, a specialist in paediatrics or have your family doctor recommend someone to see. I'll pray for you and ask the good Lord to help you help your son. God bless you.

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STEPHANIE - posted on 06/16/2015

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thank you for taking your time to reply, and I will check with school, ask for therapy

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/11/2015

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if this has been going on for up to 5 years, have you had him to a physician to see if perhaps he may have some learning issues? ADHD, for example?

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