Louise - posted on 08/06/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )
My 9 year daughter was sobbing her eyes out last night after we had a talk about the fact that nobody wants to play with her at school and she sits by herself in the playground.
She is a social child but is socially awkward, if that makes sense. She wants to be with other kids, but it's almost as if she doesn't know how to be friendly when she is with them. If the other child perseveres then my daughter looses those social inhibitions and plays beautifully. I don't know what to do to help her learn how to make friendships. She is a sweet, caring and funny child who I think would make a great friend, but the other kids seem to have given up on her and now she is worried that they will never allow her into their groups and you know what girls of this age can be like. She will try and join a group and they will tell her that she can't play with them that day - maybe the next. I can just imagine how heart-breaking that is for her. Friendships she does form don't last more than a week or two and then I stop hearing about that particular child.
Yesterday I found out that she had actually been lying to me about being friends with a certain girl. Apparently they don't play at all, but obviously my daughter wishes they do and has almost created a fantasy relationship to tell me about. I think she makes stuff up because she doesn't want me to worry.
I am seeing her teacher this week and I hope to get to the bottom of what is happening and then take it from there.