Gina - posted on 09/19/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )
I'm at my wits end, I took guardianship over my niece and nephew at the time 4 and 5 years old. These were my brothers children, my brother being in prison for the next 20 years for various crimes stemming from drug abuse, the mother on 10 years parole/probation for the same type of crimes. Anyhow that's the background. My nephew has excelled in academics and for the most part a normal 8 year old boy. Now my niece who is now 9 soon to be 10 in April has given me the hardest time the last 2 years. From stealing from stores, lying physically hurting other children, at a visit with grandma she ran away, screaming at the top of her lungs saying why does everyone hate her and want to hurt her. I never experienced that until now. She had told my mom that she was going to keep acting up until she gets to go back with her parents (that will never happen) yes, I dicipline her, by putting her in the corner, sending her to her room, extra chores one time I even had her write sentences. We have never ever layer a physical hand on her. Yesterday I received a call from the daycare that she had pulled another child's hair so hard it hurt that child's head and then pulled a chair out from under this child. It was witnessed by the adult caretaker, when she pulled my niece aside, she denied it to the fullest with tears and all, but since it wasn't a story it was a witnessed action the caretaker told her she was getting a write up. My niece didn't like that, so she went out the front door and ran away. The police was called, and she was quickly recovered, however not before she had a story to tell the officers. She told them she was beat at home, and she hates it. Of course with serious allegations they had to investigate, 100% understandable, to many children really abused. Anyhow, after interviewing the daycare provider and her brother along with myself it was determined that she was indeed lying. The officers were somewhat helpful, but basically said that she needs help before she's older. I agree 100%, but I have no idea where to start. She is 9 doing things a troubled teenager does. On top of lying,stealing and hurting others she's also been caught with skimpy cloths that she says she got from a friend under the cloths I purchased and then strips down when she gets to school?? Really. Now I make her get her clothes out for school the night before, and I inspect her and her backpack for anything she's not supposed to have. I could go on and on, but I think most people reading this would get the picture. I'm afraid her actions might rub off on her brother, I'm afraid she's going to get hurt, maybe jailed I don't know what to do.