my 9 year old daughter thinks she gay

Chrissy - posted on 01/27/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )




She comes home and says mom I got a girlfriend and I'm like what. How and she says I liked girls since 1st grade mom but she in 4th the grade.but then says I asked this girl out and I hugged her. And she said yes mom and I said OK hallie


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Bhi - posted on 02/04/2016




Now's the time to define things because that's what parents do, not support confusion about their sexuality. It could be a phase, or that schools now are indoctrinating this sort of thing because identity politics override what's best for your child. Ask where she gets these ideas, because if that's what God intended, he would've gave her both sets of sexual organs, and you date with your future spouse in mind. Another girl can't give her a future family, and deliberately disassociating a child from one of his or her natural parents to bring into their gay marriage is unethical.

Sexuality is simply unlike any other area of life. Unlike a fender bender, you just don't bounce back from sexual mistakes very easily. There is a fundamental set of life-long compromises that come with gay marriage, like everything outside traditional marriage. Discipline is necessary in all areas of life. If its really "all about the soul", then there are 3 billion boys on this earth that one could also make a good "soul mate".

Raye - posted on 02/04/2016




Kathy, I think you handled it very well. I don't know how old your daughter is, but she should not be focusing on romantic relationships until she's out of high school.

Kathy - posted on 02/04/2016




My daughter has recently told me similar. I listened and told her that I loved her no matter what. I also told her that I did not feel, at her age, she was ready to know what her true feelings on boys or girls are. I asked her to focus on school and I told her it's okay to have friends,but let's try to wait a few years to start thinking about that.

I have been very upset and confused by how to feel about this. I don't know if I handled it correctly or if I should dig deeper. We made a major move a little more than a year ago and she has never taken it well. She has some other issues and we used to see a counselor. I am find us a new one by the end of the day. I'm feeling dazed and confused.

Jodi - posted on 01/27/2015




She's 9. She may or may not be gay, it could also be a phase, a reasonably normal one.

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