my 9 year old daughter wont try and eat new food she survives on chicken and other little bits she wont eat meat or veg any help please

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Kimberly - posted on 01/27/2009

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My 2 year old son is the same way.  All he wants is mac and cheese and fruit and sweets.  In the meat dept all he eats is chicken salad and in the veggie dept all he'll eat is corn and the occasional canned green bean.  Our pediatrician told us (and I agree) that to some extent this is my doing.  The problem is that I cater to his taste just to get calories in him.  And consequently he is the boss when it comes to eating.  He became in charge, and not me.  So our pediatrician said to serve whatever I am eating for that particular meal and it becomes a take it or leave it situation.  He'll eat if he's hungry.  No need to force eating.  He won't starve himself.  Otherwise, he just has to sit at the table until everyone else is done eating.  Afterall, you don't run a restaurant where you'll make whatever they want on a menu.  Also, just keep offering stuff that you know wasn't eaten last time now and again.  Eventually she'll acquire a taste for more.  Oh, and ask your pediatrician what multi-vitamin your daughter should be on.  Our pediatrician said that normally she doesn't think a multi-vitamin is necessary for children, but given my son's poor eating habits she recommends Flinstones Complete which as iron in it as opposed to the other Flinstones vitamins/other brands.  Good luck.

Zoe - posted on 01/27/2009

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Hi,

If your daughters 9 and still having problems with foods it may be time to take her to see the doctors as there are a number of things which can effect a child's eating patterns. I'm doing research on children's eating and believe you are far from alone in fact my own son has provided problem after problem especially with trying new foods. Try not to make food an issue or a point to argue over I know that easier said than done and don't give up.



If you are really worried about her it time to get some professional help and don't let them fob you off there's plenty out there just keep pushing.



Good luck,

Zoe

Michelle - posted on 01/23/2009

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I think it's great all you moms are doing what you can to get your children to eat, however, the "if they don't know it's in there, they will eat it" trick is horrible.  Kids need to know what fruits and veggies look and taste like.  They are the kids, we are the parents, they need to eat what is served.  If you trick them into thinking they aren't eating healthy stuff because it's hidden, they think they never have to!  They get the better of you and they have won!  Be the parent and do the right thing, from the beginning helps the most.  There are so many things you can do to get your children to eat what is served.  Take away priviledges, don't let them down until after they finish, offer a dessert when they do eat well, etc..Healthy eating is nothing to toy around with.  It should not be an option.  It should not be negotiable.  It is just as important as keeping your kids out of the road.  Who wants their kids to grow up with Diabetes or high blood pressure becase of you the parents encouraged them to be a nutty bar?

Ranae - posted on 01/20/2009

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I have to agree with most posters here. I am a mom of 4 and I don't give them choices. I tell them I'm not a waitress and they WILL eat what I fix. Know what, they eat it. There have been several times they have gone to bed with no dinner, their choice. Food was placed in front of them. They were rewarded that meal for breakfast the next day.

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User - posted on 01/30/2012

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Hey I have a similar problem my daughter only wants to eat egg White or Indian bread with a lot of butter and cheese. It drives me crazy to try to get her to eat healthy food.

Lucenda - posted on 01/27/2009

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I am a pickey eater at age 38. I have a hard time with smells. So most food did not taste good, it tasted like dirt. So just be patient. Make sure she is getting good things to eat and no sugar/sweets.

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Hi,

My son is an extremely picky eater as well (no fruits, only one veggie, and limited meats). We have tried all the tricks from shopping and cooking together to not offering alternatives, forcing, not forcing, and so on. We have discovered that he has some oral texture issues which is a factor in his pickiness. We do talk about what his body needs to be healthy and we make a big deal about the fruits and veggies we eat and how yummy they taste. Ultimately, the most successful thing we have found is adding pureed nutritious foods into the things he will eat (Sneaky Chef and Deceitfully Delicios cookbooks have some good ideas). Hopefully as time goes on he will be more able to eat a larger variety of foods but for now we are making sure to add as much nutrition into what he does eat, he gets a daily vitamin as well. We have also had some success with sweetening a condiment (ketchup, spagetti sauce, etc -just a tsp or so of sweetener to 1/4 cup of condiment) he will eat more of the few meats he tolerates if he has a tasty dipping sauce. Best of luck!

Stephanie - posted on 01/27/2009

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I make my daughter try one bite of everything. She doesn't have to eat it, just try it. I also have her help pick out things at the grocery store. I agree with the other people about having her help cook. The biggest problem you have is her age, and it sounds like this has been going on for a long time, so you can't just put your foot down.

Try taking it one step at a time. Explain to her that you feel she's not eating healthy, and you don't want her to get sick. I'm sure she knows about food groups by now. Take her to the grocery store and have her pick out one thing new to try. Then at home, have her help prepare it. Do this just once a week for a couple months. Hopefully by then, she'll have found something else she likes and be more receptive to eating other things in general. Then, maybe you have her help plan dinners for each night of the week, and put it on a calendar. Make sure you get her input, and you should have better success. The most important thing is to make sure you're not turning it into battles. She'll just get her back up and it also could lead to an eating disorder later in life.

Good luck.

Shanin - posted on 01/27/2009

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she will eat. let her go. she wont go very long. just stick to your guns and as she begs for chicken just give her what you cooked and tell her this is what we are eating. trust me she will eat. i have an 8 and 5 yr so i have playied this game many times. it works just dont give in.

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ive had success with chocolate brownies made with pureed carrot!!!! will try the hidden veg in savory's next week but im on the right track!

Anna - posted on 01/23/2009

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Hi.i think if you make her food more fun.Make funny shapes and tell her stories obout it like where it came from...It helps as well if you and your hubby eat it with her .

Vera - posted on 01/22/2009

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my step daughter was worse than that when I met her at 4 yoa. We stopped fighting about it, put the food on her plate, if she ate she could have a snack later. If she didn't she didn't get a snack. She used to wait and fill up on cookies and milk. She's now 13 and will eat chicken, hamburgers, pork roast, ham. Trying to get her to eat fruits and veggies is a problem but she eats so much better than she did - jelly sandwiches, mac n cheese, bread with ketchup and junk food. I read a book called how to get your kids to eat but not too much. It was a big help. Our job as parents is to put the food on the plate. It's the kids job to eat or not. This takes the fight out of it. Good luck!

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yeh my daughter jus started eating noodles this week thanks to the school celebrating the chinese new year!!!! ive never seen the tri coloured ones i live in britian so i may have to shop about as its not a typical thing i come across but it sounds good! thanks

Lindsay - posted on 01/22/2009

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Good Point Tasha! I totally meant to mention that. My son absolutely loves Cookie dough Balance Bars. I wasn't sure if they were that good for him but I asked his Dr. and since is so touchy about textures and won't eat fruits and veggies he said they are a great source of protein and vitamins. Just dont go overboard because there's a lot of fiber in them, (if you know where l'm going with this...) haha Good Luck

Tasha - posted on 01/22/2009

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have you tried taking veggies and grinding them up and putting them in other foods? If she likes hamburgers this works well. Does she like noodles? You can buy the tri colored noodles which are veggies and they taste really good. Fiber One bars look and taste like regular granola bars and are way better for you! Other then that try protien shakes

User - posted on 01/22/2009

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We always had the rule of trying one bite of a different food. They were absolutely not allowed to to spit it out or gag; That's just gross for everyone else!
Otherwise, you wonder how they survive huh? The fact is they will. You just need to stay diligent and keep introducing new things. Tastes change as they grow older.
My kids are now 23,19, and 14 and I did childcare for years for some of the pickiest eaters. My nephew is autistic and had severe issues with texture and so on. I never allowed him to gag or spit and in the 4 months I had him in foster care he tried and liked a few new things.

Good Luck, be patient!

Ally - posted on 01/22/2009

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Answer: SAUSAGE ROLLS!!

My second and third wouldn't eat meat and veg easily, but they loved my homemade sausage rolls with tomato sauce. SO, I would puree up a cup of store bought frozen mixed veg (nofrills is great) with an onion, dried mixed herbs, salt/pepper and curry powder (mild) and hand mix it through the sausage mince until all combined ~ IF THEY CAN'T SEE IT THEY WON'T KNOW ~ trick!

Then just prepare puff pastry - one whole sheet, place 1/4 of the filling down the centre, roll into a roll, press down ends, slice three air vents on top, and brush with egg wash

(1 egg mixed up). Bake on a pre-greased tray in a pre-heated oven at 200*c for 20-25 mins.

Either way it's Delicious!! ;~D Ally

Lindsay - posted on 01/22/2009

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i have a 6 yr old son that up until he was about 4 had a diet that consisted of about 5 things. He is really small for his age and I got really concerned. A lot of the moms on here say they don't fix their kids seperate meals and if they go hungry that's fine and I'm sure that works for some people but my son wasn't gaining weight and I was concerned. I had to get creative. We started a food chart and he got rewarded for trying new foods, even if it was just a bite. I'm not going to force him to eat something he absolutely hates but you won't know if there is something they will love unless they try it. Through this we discovered he loves steak and breaded pork chops, his diet has expanded tremendously even though there are still a lot of things he just won't try and he has gained about 10 pounds in the last 6 months!! So hang in there. Sometimes you just have to get creative.

Dawnielle - posted on 01/22/2009

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My daughter was, always has been and is still, at 15, the same way. I've learned to let it go. You can't force someone to eat what they detest. However I've discovered gummy bear vitamins, you can get them at Costco. They're not too expensive and taste great and are packed full of all the daily amount of vitamins needed.
Hope that helps a little,,,

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No i could get my babies to eat anything....it starts as they grow up!!!! i guess Diana you were jus lucky!

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 years old isnt a baby. How does mommy and Daddy eat? Are you guy's picky? I also have a 9 year and a 17 year old. Am a big cook so I would always say just try it makes me feel good when you try new things you even might like it. Sure enought they would like it. Of course there are something that they might night like but not much. I guess they didnt want to hurt my feeling.

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hi, my daughters the same....her diet is extremly limited, i try not to worry now, she drinks the V8 juice(fruit/veg juice) and im happy with that, i have however ordered the sneaky chef and deceptivly delicious books for sum tips! i do find pizza seems to be my best work in chucking a few extra bits on there such as ham as she wont normally eat that but does on the pizza....still cant get a veg in her tho! :( good luck and try not to worry, it seems its very common especailly with girls!

Michelle - posted on 01/20/2009

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Hi, Have you heard of Jessica Seinfeld's cook book called Deceptively Delicious?



It takes some work but is well worth it.  My child really doen't have trouble with foods but I've always wanted him to have more fruits and veggies.  He has no clue that they are even in the foods.  Macaronni and cheese with squash.  The trick is the puree that you can't even tell is an ingrediant.  It's healthy for all ages and great for those picky eaters.



Hope it helps. www.deceptivelydelicious.com

Jodi - posted on 01/20/2009

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i also have a 15 year old daughter who will only eat chicken and patas with out the meat so i know wat your going though. ummm all i can say is as she gets older things like vegies will look more inviting to her as it happened with my daughter and now she will eat spuds and green veiges so there is hope she will turn my daughter did at about 13 1/2 years old. but anyway good luck with her

Veronica - posted on 01/20/2009

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sometimes explaining the reasons why its important to eat other foods help, but you need to get to her level of communication, make it fun and cool, also get her involved in cooking and maybe have a party with friends where they are involved in cooking and baking, also maybe seeing if one of her friends or rolemodels can help you with influencing them, at this age they are very interested in following the foot steps of those that they admire

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I agree with Shanin Smith...I have 4 teen agers, and believe me, they all go thru "the picky stage" at some point.  But, if you cater to it, they'll know they got you and they'll grow up picky!  The line in our house was, "You can decide not to eat it, but it WILL be  the next thing that you eat."  I have 2 adopted kids that when they came at 5 and 7, wouldn't eat anything that wasn't fried and brown, ie McDonalds.  I added something new to their diet a couple times a week and then kept making it after that. 



I read in a parenting magazine that it takes 12 tries to develop a new taste.  Just keep feeding it to them.  They'll get used to it.  Sometimes, with veggies, it does help a lot to add a little butter and salt, or some cheese once in awhile to make it more palatable.  After they develop a taste for the veggie, start using less butter or cheese until they've learned to like the tast of the veggie by itself.  Also, sticking them in casseroles are a great way to get used to a vegetable. Everyone has one or 2 things they really decide they don't like when they're adults, but I think it's better to train our kids to be guests wtih manners when they go to other's houses and eat whatever they are given and be gracious about it.  Nobody gets to eat only their favorite foods everyday! 



Good luck and don't give up!

Amy - posted on 01/20/2009

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I have  a 7 year old son who has the same problem. He is better about eating things now though....but only becuase I make him take a decent bite of things. He does not have to eat it all, but he has to take a decent bite and swallow it. I do not let him spit it out. She will find that she likes things more when she actually tastes them. Also, if they have a favorite condiment let them put that on whatever it is you have made and it usually will get them to eat it. Hope this helps.

Arianna - posted on 01/20/2009

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Im a one meal mom stop shop.



she eats what i make



or she won't eat at all really.



its not pick and choose



im no grocery store to catered needs lol.  but much love and blessings of love and light for sure

Michelle - posted on 01/20/2009

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Kids eat only what is introduced or given to them.  My philosophy is: you give kids junk or sweets or certain foods and they will only want that, you keep offering healthy meals, they will eat them if they are hungry.  Keep offering vegs and meats in fun ways, and she will eat them when she gets hungry.  If she is not allowed to eat just chicken, she will learn you are serious about having her eat a variety.  Consistency is the key.  Lay down the law and follow it yourself.  Have her help make a veg salad or look up on the internet fun creative ways to serve healthy foods.  It's better to get her eating right now, even if she is angry for a while, than to raise unhealthy children and pay the price later on.  Good luck!

Lisa - posted on 01/20/2009

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I have a 13 year old..and her eating habbits are very bad too.  She won't eat suppers..just what she wants..ranging from chips..chx nuggets,ice cream,chex mix. Refuses fruit and vegetables..or any meat other than chicken.  The Dr. just told me she will grow out of it..and atleast she's eating "something".  I feel for you..its tough.  All you can do is offer foods...can't really "make" them eat it.  Very difficult.  Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!    Lisa O'Dell

User - posted on 01/20/2009

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try having her help you cook.... If she cooks the food she will prob want to taste her creation.. Have one night a week where you make something new and she has to try it.. And not just one bite a couple bites at least. Make up a reward chart, and a chart for tracking foods she has tried. This may encourage her to try more.

I really hope you find a solution. I am dealing with this same problem with (believe it or not) MY HUSBAND!!! His mother did not make him try foods when he was a kid and all he ate as a child was french fries, mashed potatoes and hot dogs. He has a wider range of eating now but limited to things like any type of potato, breads, popcorn. He eats no vegetables, nor fruit! He does have a few small mouthfuls of chicken once a week. and he will have a bite of steak if that is what I am having. He has to basically train himself to like these foods. He knows he needs to eat better but his body can't handle new things well after so many years of not eating right. He never tried anything new until he was 21 yrs old and he tried Pizza of all things and now eats pizza 7 days a week for either lunch or dinner. I have told him when our son is old enough to know what is going on with meals that he will have to eat whatever we are eating because I don't want him growing up with the same issues as Daddy.

Christine - posted on 01/20/2009

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she eats carrots but only a couple of slices and chicken she eats cheese and yoghurts just its hard to cook fo her some days should i still make her try new fod or should i give in

Shanin - posted on 01/20/2009

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dont give her a choice she wont go hungry for long but she knows that she dont have to eat that b.c you will make her something else to eat. so stick to your guns and dont give in, if she says no then say thats fine, when she comes back and tells you thats she is still hungry give her the plate from dinner and tell her that is all she gets and she will eat. hope this helps i have an 8 5 and 4 month old. also i am a child development major from ashland

Linda - posted on 01/20/2009

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my 10 year old son never used to eat anything but fries, sausages and cereal but now he will try most things and even has school lunch.......we never thought we'd see that day.

he is still picky but getting lots better so just be patient it will happen where she will want to try other things.

He still doesn't really eat veg except peas........

Sharon - posted on 01/20/2009

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hi christine can i just say  dont panick my daughter was a little like that she is 13 now and eats most things now including pasta which she hated , i would try and cook things and include her both of you get in the kitchen if you have a cook book let her choose a meal it doesnt have to be expensive , and get her to help you see how that goes, kids really enjoy helping especially daughters they like to be mummy if she has a doll get her to pretend feed and she may just start eating . hope that helps a little s x

Carrie - posted on 01/20/2009

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Luckily, both my 3 and 6 year old boys eat everything. But we make sure that if there is something new that they NEED to try  it once. Have you ever tried sneaking it in with foods they like. Cut it up small enough and mix it in with like mac and cheese or other kid favorite foods? This might work for now until she is older and will try more things.

Heather - posted on 01/20/2009

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christine.... my son is 9 years old he has been that way for awhile but he is now starting to eat just about anything  just give her time when she is ready you will know

Christine - posted on 01/20/2009

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Quoting Milena:

Dear Christine,

first of all try not be nervous. Just relax, patience and slowly with the baby. Sorry for my english...

Have you tried with fruits? Because veggies and fruits are in the same group of grocceries. Every time when your baby says NO, try with an apple, or carrots or some fruit that she likes. I had a big problem with my boy in the same age. That is the period of growing ego, baby`s are aware that they are the center of your universe so... They starts to play with your nervs :-)

Easy on her... And every time she says NO, take away the food and amke some pause with that kind of it, for about a week or two. Their apetite is changeable, as well as ours. Dont underestimate the pain of dentition. That is a very big trouble for them... And big pain also...

So -mrelax and have PATIENCE, believe me - it works!

Big hug for you and your princess :-)


 

Milena - posted on 01/20/2009

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Dear Christine,

first of all try not be nervous. Just relax, patience and slowly with the baby. Sorry for my english...

Have you tried with fruits? Because veggies and fruits are in the same group of grocceries. Every time when your baby says NO, try with an apple, or carrots or some fruit that she likes. I had a big problem with my boy in the same age. That is the period of growing ego, baby`s are aware that they are the center of your universe so... They starts to play with your nervs :-)

Easy on her... And every time she says NO, take away the food and amke some pause with that kind of it, for about a week or two. Their apetite is changeable, as well as ours. Dont underestimate the pain of dentition. That is a very big trouble for them... And big pain also...

So -mrelax and have PATIENCE, believe me - it works!

Big hug for you and your princess :-)

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