My 9 year old son has a major attitude lately, what do I do?

Kia - posted on 11/18/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 9 year old son is very mature for his age but has started to get a very bad attitude toward me, about himself, and about life in general lately. He has been getting picked on at school to which I have contacted the principle and it has been handled, I have even went to a few moms here in the neighborhood that I know. Most of it has stopped but not all of it. He is also on the heavy side and with basketball starting he doesn't want to play now because he gets out of breath running up and down the court. I don't know how to help with the attitude and the getting up and moving more all at the same time. Has anyone else been through this that can help me? I am at the end of my wits and just can't think of anything anymore. I am just finishing college and getting ready to go back to work and I think some of his anxiety might be playing into the attitude because things will be different AGAIN...I have also been trying to date a little and he doesn't like that either. Sometimes I feel like he is trying to be a father instead of my son. HELP!!!

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Emilie - posted on 11/18/2011

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I don't even know why kids are mean to my son. They call him ugly, stupid, and they pretty much are just mean to him for no reason. I think they can tell that it hurts his feelings and they like that so that is why they continue to do it. I was role playing with my son trying to teach him how to stand up for himself. They need to have confidence even if they have to fake it, They need to let the bullies know that they won't stand it any more.

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Kia - posted on 11/18/2011

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@ Emilie I just got him involved in cub scouts about a month ago so we will see if that helps. I know the feeling because I was picked on all the time as a kid for being chubby. He doesn't have his dad in his life...he calls once in a blue moon and he hasn't seen him in over 2 years. I know this puts a strain on him as well.

Emilie - posted on 11/18/2011

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This sounds like my son. My son is a little heavy and gets out of breath easy. He gets picked on and bullied all the time. I have talked to the principal and other parents but it dosen't seem to be getting any better. He goes to his fathers house everyother weekend and he has friends in his neighborhood. I am thinking about moving to his neighbor hood that way we will be in a better neighbor hood, a better school district and maybe that will help with my sons attitude. I think he has an attitude because he is sick of how he is being treated. I have also put him in cub scouts and I think that is helping also. I guess you have to put yourself in his shoes and think "How would I feel if people treated me the way people treat my son?" I know I wouldn't be in a good mood if I was being harrassed all the time.

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