My 9 year old son is meeting his father for the first time today.

Nicolle - posted on 07/11/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I think it’s finally hitting me and I'm freaking out. Anyone have any advice? I thought I was able to put my son first and my feelings aside. He walked out when I told him I was pregnant. It’s been my son and I for the past almost 10 years. I want to make my son happy but my feelings are starting to surface :(

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Julie - posted on 07/11/2012

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Deep Breaths....you have every right to be "freaked out" at the moment, but do not let your son see you sweat. If your child is ready and the father has agreed, then the time has come. I would be more worried about the "after effects" of today rather than today itself. Be prepared to let your son know that nothing is certain. He needs to enjoy the moment, but have no expectations (this is hard for a child, but do the best you can to communicate and support him.)

If you are freaked because of your emotions from the past. Maybe you could chat ALONE with the ex, at another time. It is normal to want to "protect your son" from what hurt you so deeply. If you are not comfortable with them being alone together, then don't let them. Agree but go with. IF you are ok with it, then let go and pray for protection of the little guys heart and head. Meeting their dad can bring a lot of answers, but also more questions. Be prepared to answer them honestly so he can process and move forward. Otherwise, keep this an up beat, and positive experience for your son to remember. It may be the first and ONLY visit, so make it a happy one. Put aside your personal fears for the moment and let your son have his day of realization knowing you have his back 100%. All the best...I hope it goes well. I did not meet my father until the age of 40, sometimes I wish it would have been sooner...

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MissMommyMay - posted on 05/26/2013

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How did ur meeting go?
My 8 month old son is meeting his father today...im nervous...

Julie - posted on 07/11/2012

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Hi Nicole, I thought about you and your boy today. I am hoping things went really great, and that it is not the last visit either :)

Nicolle - posted on 07/11/2012

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Thank you Julie :) I just have all these emotions and I don’t know how to sort them out. My son is the most important thing. I will make sure this is the best experience for him. I hope it’s not his only visit:(

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