Nancy - posted on 03/22/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
My 9 year old son won't sleep in his own bed and sleeps with me every night. The problems is that he is actually terrified to sleep by himself. I have separated from my husband and have tried everything. My son tells me that he doesn't feel safe. This is not a new problem and has been going on for years. My ex used to leave him in the room crying and tell him to stop being a baby. Now that I have my own place, my ex is demanding that I make my son sleep by himself and that our son needs to grow up. My son doesn't have his own room with my ex and sleeps with my ex when he is with him. My son gets frustrated when I talk to him about what makes him scared. My ex refuses to consider counselling for our son because he doesn't want to pay for half of it. I would just pay for it myself but my ex keeps saying that our son doesn't have a problem (even though he knows there is one) He gets angry whenever I try to talk to him about how to help our son and he tells me that our son is a spoiled brat who has a bad attitude. I just want our son to be healthy and happy and he tells me he can't talk to his dad because his dad always gets mad at him. I know that my son should be sleeping by himself but feel that if it isn't consistent for him then it will be an ongoing problem (my ex refuses to acknowledge this) and says our son just needs to cope and deal with it (and that our son needs to work on himself) Granted this is coming from 37 year old man-child that never grew up himself and continues to live with family and uses the excuse that he can't afford his own place because he has to pay for child support. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciate I feel for my son and dealing with my ex is a nightmare.