my 9 years old son likes to play with girls

Nana - posted on 04/16/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My 9 years old son likes to play with girls most of the time ,likes to watch girls shows on tv, likes dolls,loves to play with hair .He loves dancing and gymnastics he does hip hop .he has been like this for a very long time. I used to think that its ok it is normal there is nothing wrong with boys liking girls stuff .trying to support him with what he likes bought him couple of dolls,a wig for dress up. Is it normal to like girls things at his age now? He is 9
He is getting teased at school .kids always asking him why do you always play with girls? His brothers friends at school ask his brother why is your brother playing with girls he tells them "dont worry about it" I am trying to teach my kids that everyone is different if you dont like someone you dont have to play with them but you still need to be nice to them. If the kids at school keep asking my son why he plays with girls is that bullying ? Or is that still normal ? Is it still normal for a 9 year old boy to like girls things ?thank you

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/17/2014

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I agree completely. Let your son be who he is. And just teach him to have awesome self esteem and love himself.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/16/2014

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My question is WHAT IS WRONG WITH IT?

Because there's absolutely NOTHING wrong with a boy playing with 'girl' toys, or a girl playing with 'boy' toys! The only people who see it as 'not normal' behaviour are those who already have a problem with gender identification, and those who think that 'allowing' such behaviour will encourage other 'not normal' behaviours later...Which generally translates to "I think that it's wrong for boys to play with 'girl' type toys because they may 'turn out' to be gay"

Which is the WRONG attitude to have.

So, what is WRONG with a boy wanting to play dolls, or a girl wanting to play trucks?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/16/2014

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If your son likes to play with those particular things, who's to tell him he's wrong? He's NOT wrong...Each person likes different things, and just because he's a BOY doesn't mean he cannot have interest in every single thing that you've listed!

Good grief. Nana, your kid is JUST FINE.

However, I do have to ask Kia Turner this: If you had a daughter, and she wanted to play strictly with hotwheels cars or tonka trucks, would you say that you're 'not sure' if it's normal behaviour or not?

Quit being so damned gender sensitive. If a boy wants to play with dolls, and a girl wants to play soldier, there's not a thing in the world wrong with that. Except, of course, in the minds of adults who have other issues with letting the genders be equal.

Kia - posted on 04/16/2014

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I think it is normal for the kids to ask those questions. I do not think it is bullying I just think they honestly want to know. I am not sure if it is normal for boys to play with girl things at 9. Have you ever asked him why he plays with girls toys? Or why he hangs out with the girls? It is a very touchy subject because you do not want your child to think there is something the matter with him because he does so. I say pray on it and God will give you all the answers you need! Good luck!!!

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Nana - posted on 04/17/2014

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Hi ladies thank you for your supportive answers i think i just need to let him be happy with whatever he likes and enjoy doing and try to be close to him so if he needs help with anything or he needs to talk to anyone at least i will be there for him but it is a hard situation because we are surrounded by poeple who don't think that way . I guess we cant live for other poeple we need to live the way that makes us happy.I will be doing my best with Gods help to take care of him and help him when he needs someone beside him.

Kia - posted on 04/16/2014

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Shawnn Lively to answer your question yes I would say that!!! Because every child is DIFFERENT and there is no right or wrong manual. Also you are so classy throwing curse words around just to try and get your point across. I must have missed the memo are you a psychologist or something? As I stated before I am not sure if it is normal or not. Who knows he may grow out of playing with girl toys!!!!!

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