Jessica - posted on 05/05/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )
My 9 year old is my oldest child, yet he acts like my toddler. He cries over doing his homework and getting dressed. He just cries and whines over the dumbest little things. If he doesn't get his precious little way it's some huge dilemma. As his mother I am very strict and stern so my children don't get away with much. Respect is top priority in our house. By this age they should already know the rules and how to follow them and they should know how to behave. This kid's behavior has always been out of control which I don't understand fully because his siblings do not act the way he does, his siblings act the way that I raised them to act. He nags and complains if he wants something in particular. Thinking that eventually he will get his way. (He won't) he does not want to do anything for himself and he does not like the idea of Independence. There are also certain areas where he can not be trusted to be independent. He is not permitted to touch our food or prepare his own meals due to stealing and lying problems. I'm sorry but I am sick and tired of babying this kid he needs to learn to grow up, at least a little bit and stop acting like such a baby. I don't care if he wants to be lazy and doesn't want to do his homework. He doesn't have a choice. He also acts very bossy and controlling and refuses to play games fairly trying to make sure that he always wins no matter how badly it might hurt someone else's feelings. He is very inconsiderate and greedy and overall just seems to be a nasty person (mostly) I will touch on good qualities: for the most part he is a good brother he actually does very well with my toddler. He can be really helpful around the house. He has pretty good grades at school and has been showing Improvement behavior wise. Sometimes he's very sweet and affectionate but not usually. I'm just sick of butting heads with this kid we really don't get along and I would love to be closer with him and be his friend... though it seems nearly impossible. I've tried different parenting tactics... I've spoken to several professionals. Teachers, counselors, psychiatrists, his pediatrician. I've even tried being very nice with him and making sure we have a lot of one-on-one time but it doesn't matter because he still treats me like crap for it anyways. I'm at my Wit's End and I don't know what to do. I am highly considering treating him like I used to when he was 3 and using the 1 2 3 rule again. I get to 3, you get a spanking. He is not a baby and I'm done putting up with it & trying to be nice.